The blog and me

Hello!  A quick few words about why I started this blog.  At 28 I was diagnosed with secondary breast cancer that had spread to my lungs, liver and bones; I was given months to live by my doctor.  It sounds grim but what I hope to prove in my blog is that doctors aren’t always right and that you can live a relatively normal, dare I say fabulous, life despite having cancer.  I hope the blog is an interesting read and for those who are affected by cancer I hope my experiences can help in some way.  Thanks for reading.


477 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. Rebecca W
    Aug 16, 2011 @ 14:53:53

    If only I were having a girl, then I could call her Ellie after the brave and beautiful young woman I went to Uni with. There’s always Jeffrey I suppose!!

    I’ve spent the morning worrying about paying bills and the prices of nappies.Shame on me.

    Looking forward to reading your blog and sharing your journey. I’ll be praying it’s a long, happy and full one.


    • Ellie Jeffery
      Aug 16, 2011 @ 20:58:40

      Thanks for reading Rebecca. Not sure about Jeffery though!!!! Your thoughts and prayers mean a lot x


    • Julian Wilson
      Nov 10, 2011 @ 12:12:49

      Have you thought of trying alternative treatments like AHCC, fucoidan and grape seed extract? All of these increase the body’s immune system. AHCC, in particular, has been shown to increase the production NK cells that attack disease, including cancer. Resveratrol is worth a try as well. It a very effective antioxidant.


      • Dave
        Nov 10, 2011 @ 15:15:11

        Whilst there may be no harm in alternative treatments (though please check to see if that is definitely the case), they should never be a replacement for scientifically proven, medically advised treatments. It is irresponsible to suggest that alternative therapies are anything other than a ‘feelgood’ option – which is understandable and may be a pleasant boost – but they are never going to be effective at treating the cancer.

        Good luck to the blog author, you seem to have had more than your fair share of bad luck with this.

  2. Selom Gbewonyo
    Aug 16, 2011 @ 18:54:51

    Your blogs really inspire me to enjoy my life more. Thanks for sharing your journey with us.


  3. William Stone
    Aug 17, 2011 @ 01:39:15

    Feeling sorry for you after reading your blog would be to do you a severe injustice.
    Great respect and deep admiration for the way in which you are playing your dealt hand doesn’t really come close but it’s the best way that I can express my feelings here.

    You have managed to imprint onto these electronic pages an amazing record of guts and determination in dealing with this devastating illness.

    Your talent as a journalist has enabled your story to be told in such a way that we can all relate to it and you have made it feel as if you are talking directly and individually with all that find your blog.


    • Ellie Jeffery
      Aug 17, 2011 @ 08:07:22

      Thank you William for taking the time to read my blog. It’s can be difficult but also rewarding writing down my experiences. I hope today’s new entry which I’m about to post will encourage people to take control when it comes to their health; seeking out second opinions and most importantly not giving up.

      Thank you for your kind words and I hope you continue to follow my story.


  4. nikki
    Aug 17, 2011 @ 08:07:46

    Hi Ellie
    I was diagnosed with breast cancer aged 24.Two years ago aged 42,I was diagnosed with stage1B1 cervical cancer.This March,3 months before my 44th birthday,I was diagnosed with stage 1 breast cancer,in the same breast as before.
    Reading your blog has really inspired me,you really are a very brave girl,with a positive attitude.I wish you all the very best on your journey.
    Sending you much love & hugs.
    Nikki x x x


    • Ellie Jeffery
      Aug 17, 2011 @ 08:30:55

      Hi Nikki,
      I’m sorry to hear about all your diagnoses. All these punches in the face from cancer but I guess you have no choice but to keep going. Life doesn’t always operate with fair rules does it? You’ve done your time, never mind to be diagnosed two more times. Wishing you strength and courage on your journey,
      Ellie x


  5. Ita C.
    Aug 19, 2011 @ 12:39:42

    Hi Elle,
    I lost a friend to cancer last year, and your attitude and outlook reminds me so much of his-cancer really is an “evil little shit”…and obviously, not the most clever, considering it does ultimately kill itself. As we said then (and still say) Cancer, ya bollocks ya! (best said in Irish accent for authenticity.) Will keep you in thoughts & prayers here and hope that you continue to prove the diagnoses wrong!
    Much love, light, and peace,xx


    • Ellie Jeffery
      Aug 19, 2011 @ 17:10:04

      Thanks for taking the time out to read the blog. I’m so sorry to hear about the loss of you friend. Your kind wishes mean a great deal, hopefully I’ll be telling cancer to F off for sometime to come x


  6. Carol
    Aug 19, 2011 @ 14:37:22

    Ellie, your blog must be difficult to write but your words are so powerful and your strength and braveness shines through. Never could I imagine that Cancer would effect a friend of mine, your strength is amazing. Sending you lots of love, Carol xxxx


  7. Fiona
    Aug 24, 2011 @ 16:05:42

    Found your blog through a retweet from Kylie! Just read your entries and felt compelled to leave you note with best wishes. Your writing is captivating and your attitude is, frankly, remarkable. Let’s hope that Prof. Hope finds something to give you (and your loved ones) further hope. My fingers are certainly crossed for you.


  8. Rob
    Aug 26, 2011 @ 13:07:14

    Incredible read Ellie ! Have a nice afternoon with Tess and Izzy. Dont let Izzy play any pranks on you. She has been telling people they have spiders in their hair 🙂 (well pointing at their hair and saying “pider” anyway.
    See you soon, x


  9. Michael Livingstone
    Aug 30, 2011 @ 15:55:44

    Hey Ellie,

    I made the mistake of reading this at lunch and I’ve been hiding in the office kitchen for about the last 2 hours trying to pull myself together. I really can’t explain how it’s made me feel, what you’ve written is just incredibly inspiring. I normally revert to expletives when lost for words, so apologies in advance, but you are so fucking brave.

    All my hope and love.



  10. Becoming herself
    Aug 31, 2011 @ 16:22:59

    Hi, Ellie

    I have read all your posts and didn’t want to leave without saying hello. It is so hard to know what to say without sounding trite, but you write so beautifully and in such a straightforward way, without self-pity; your personality and character shine through.


  11. Hayley
    Aug 31, 2011 @ 23:43:13

    Ellie what an inspiration, if only more people lived their life like you do the world would be a more beautiful place than it is – which is blessed with your presence.. I wish you a healthy rest of this lifetime – here’s to many more – Hayley x


  12. Laura
    Sep 02, 2011 @ 19:45:25

    Dear Ellie,

    Firstly, you are such a inspiration. Words can not describe how moved I am sitting here, reading this.

    You are a fighter, and you are doing so well from what I read.

    Secondly, I have to ask you, have you read much about Breast milk and Cancer, I was expressing milk for a lady who couldn’t feed her daughter due to having had cancer, and whilst chatting to her this weekend, when she came to collect the donor milk, she told me of how she had read about donor milk having a special chemical in it.

    I’m so so sorry if this is inappropriate, but i wanted to share it with you.



  13. Darren yorston
    Sep 04, 2011 @ 21:26:02

    Once again its moments like this that I realise how precious life is, yet story’s such as yours really put life into perspective – however, a heavy Heart trying to appreciate what you go through on a day by day basis. My Aunty is in a similar atuatuon, being told 18 months ago that she had two weeks, several bouts of new drugs, holidays, etc and she still battles on…. You have amazing strength and courage, keep believing and keep making them scratch their heads! Go girl. Darren


  14. Andrea Grima
    Sep 10, 2011 @ 14:42:59

    Hey Ellie, thanks for sharing your blog, it is amazing and so well written. I have someone that I’ll recommend it to that I know will find it helpful and a comfort. Here’s to you and Dr Hope defying the odds.x


  15. Dominic Pett
    Sep 11, 2011 @ 21:33:13

    Dear Ellie. You write with such genuine honesty an engage with your reader that it would be impossible not to be moved by your story. So many of the comments sum up what we all feel but having got to meet you earlier in the year the picture you paint is all the more vivid. The term inspirational is, in your case, an understatement and your talent as a writer is clear to us all.
    Keep positive, keep inspiring us all and keep telling Cancer to F..Off


    • Ellie Jeffery
      Sep 12, 2011 @ 08:59:42

      Thanks for such a kind message Dom. I have been overwhelmed by all the comments and responses. I’m looking forward to celebrating our wedding with you and Shanella in June and hopefully we’ll see you before then too, Ellie x


  16. Vicki
    Sep 12, 2011 @ 19:37:58

    Hi Ellie,
    Heard about your blog and your news through Fran, who I used to teach with. I used to teach at Bydales – I was Miss Shevels in those days. Just wanted to send you my love and send you the most positive thoughts possible.
    Vicki x


  17. Scott Fairclough
    Sep 19, 2011 @ 15:04:47

    Hi there, I’ve read your blog with great interest and thought I’d share a link with you, that you might find interesting. I have no personal experience of this nor am I medically trained, so I can’t offer you any advise other than the advise given on the web site itself, but it looks like cancer can possibly be treated like a fungus and in theory changing the PH of your body may help to fight the cancer. Have a look at the link below and decide for yourself.

    I wish you good health and all the best for the future.


    • Ellie Jeffery
      Sep 19, 2011 @ 18:35:07

      Thanks for the link and well wishes Scott. I have looked into this and take a wheatgrass supplement every day to try and make the PH in my body a bit more alkaline. Thank you for reading and taking the time out to comment.


  18. Scott Fairclough
    Sep 19, 2011 @ 19:49:01

    Hi Ellie,

    No problem at all, I hope the link is of some use to you. The thing to note though is its worth having a good read of the site, it looks likes theres a level you want to try and get your alkalinity to, and also the guy on the website takes the bicarb with a sugar based solution such as maple syrup to drive this into the cancer. As I say I have no personal experience of the procedure and can only go off the information there but I’ve read quite a bit about PH and its effects on cancer and there does seem to be some interesting information out there with people having great results.

    Anyway read through the info at your leisure and I hope you get well soon.


  19. Conny Pedersen
    Sep 25, 2011 @ 23:18:59

    Hello Ellie.
    Congratulations with your wedding plans. Nice photos of the beautiful colored ring and of you and Tom. Tom has found a very tough fiancé. I am so impressed of the way you are dealing with your illness. Keep on fighting.
    Best wishes
    Sister to Toms father


    • Ellie Jeffery
      Sep 26, 2011 @ 08:54:31

      Hello Conny,
      Thank you for the lovely message, I showed it to Tom and he says thank you also. I’m pleased you’re reading the blog. Thanks again for your congratulations and good wishes,
      Ellie x


  20. Ellie
    Sep 26, 2011 @ 21:55:59

    Having been there myself 8 years ago I know how tough it must be to write your blog. Well done to you and all your friends for their great support. So did you and Chrissa determine if there was a heaven?


  21. Victoria
    Sep 30, 2011 @ 03:04:13

    Hey Ellie, I just read your last two posts!!! Its such great news!! I have told my friends and family about you and your blog! We are all sending you positive energy from Australia!!!
    Love Victoria xxx


  22. James Carver
    Oct 07, 2011 @ 01:31:07

    Hi Ellie,
    I’d just like to say I think you are absolutely fantastic, brave and inspirational. Cancer has snuck its way into my family and circle of friends over the past few years and reading your blog fills me with such confidence and hope for others (a feeling you just dont get from certain doctors!)
    I stumbled across your blog through a friend of a friend of a friend….(via facebook) a while ago and eagerly check back regularly to read of your progress. I know you dont know me, but I wish you all the best.
    James x


    • Ellie Jeffery
      Oct 07, 2011 @ 08:30:22

      Hi James,
      Thank you for reading the blog. I’m sorry you’ve had to deal with the cancer both in your family and in your friendship circle. It means so much to me that the blog can give others advice or help in anyway. Messages like yours are massively appreciated. Wishing hope and health to all those you know who have been dealt the crap hand that is cancer.
      Ellie x


  23. Laura
    Oct 07, 2011 @ 11:04:07

    Hey Ellie!!!!!

    Just wondered how you are ? Your blog looks all shiney and new ! Is that as I’m on the iPad ? Fab!!!!

    I hope that your ok, and having a nice week,

    Thinking of you ,

    Laura and boys x


    • Ellie Jeffery
      Oct 07, 2011 @ 11:14:19

      Hi Laura,

      I’m well thank you. I’m in Marbella with a friend at the moment – back to Britain tomorrow though – it must be your new ipad jazzing the blog up as I’ve not changed anything! Thanks for continuing to read x


  24. patrick
    Oct 11, 2011 @ 14:54:53

    Hi Ellie,

    I have just read the article about you in Grazia. An uncle of mine has cancer why has unfortunately spread recently (he’s actually getting the results of a scan today). Reading about you today was truly inspirational and a real testament to the power of our spirit and mind to take us forward in life against huge obstacles. I wish you continued healing and more good news in the future. I’m going to send my uncle today’s article.

    Very best wishes,

    Patrick x

    Ps – you hubby-to-be is gorgeous – you’re a lucky girl 🙂 I wish you both many many years of happniness together xx


    • Ellie Jeffery
      Oct 11, 2011 @ 16:57:26

      Hi Patrick,

      Thanks for getting in touch and leaving such a kind message. I hope your uncle gets some good news today. I like to think Tom is gorgeous too – despite this cancer bollocks I reckon I am pretty lucky!
      Thanks again for reading,
      Ellie xx


  25. Hannah Turner
    Oct 11, 2011 @ 17:21:27

    What an inspiration young woman you are. Your determination and fighting spirit will go a long way in this battle. I wish there were more people like you. All my prayers, Hannah, paramedic.


  26. Tom
    Oct 12, 2011 @ 12:08:46

    Hello Ellie,

    I hope you don’t mind me getting in contact. I was passed the recent issue of Grazia that featured the inspiring article you wrote. My next step was to visit your blog -which is truly remarkable. Congratulations on your engagement.

    I am an assistant producer from The garden Productions, an independent production company founded last year by the team who made the BAFTA award-winning series One Born Every Minute for Channel 4 and more recently, 24 Hours in A&E on Channel 4.

    I am currently working on a new Channel 4 series about love. I am keen to speak to people that are living in challenging circumstances such as yours and are in a loving relationship. We aim for this documentary to be a celebration of love and our desire is to show that this love can be strong whatever the circumstances.

    I would welcome the opportunity to tell you more about the programme. Please get in contact either via email on or by phone on 02074659079.

    Thank you in advance for your time, you are an inspirational figure.

    Kind regards,

    Tom Wilde


  27. Leah
    Oct 12, 2011 @ 13:10:37


    Hi Ellie,

    I read your article in Grazia last night on the train and ended up missing my stop, I was so inspired by your story, I am a firm believer in the power of positive thinking, so on the journey back to my stop I sent all my positve thoughts to you and prayed for you to have years of health and happiness, thank you for sharing your story, I will continue to follow your blog and I really do believe that your strong spirit will have miraculous results.

    Best wishes
    Leah xxxxx


  28. Sarah
    Oct 12, 2011 @ 13:49:58

    Hi Ellie,

    I have found this blog after reading an article in Grazia (a magazine I have never read before). Reading this blog is so similar to my life at the moment. I am 31 and a few months ago was diagnosed with an ‘incurable’ cancer. Despite having a different cancer than you, I have bowel cancer that has spread, I too am in the ‘wrong’ age group for this cancer. I have also had to deal with the negativity of oncologists, and literally dread every appointment as I’m terrified they are going to zap my positivity. I am determined, convinced, that I am going to beat this. Despite the statistics, if I’m in a small minority to get it at my age, then I can be in the small minority that beat it.

    Congratulations on your engagement, I too have recently got engaged and am looking forward to a long, happy, healthy future with my fiance.

    I wish you all the best with this journey, and continued good news. Never give up.



    • Ellie Jeffery
      Oct 12, 2011 @ 15:53:17

      Hi Sarah,
      Congratulations right back at you! Don’t let them zap your positivity and if you feel they are then get another opinion. I’d recommend going on forums for bowel cancer and asking if anyone has any tips for specialists in your area. I refuse to give up and it sounds like you’re the same,
      Wishing you health, positivity and strength, Ellie xx


  29. nicola
    Oct 12, 2011 @ 15:56:40

    Good luck Ellie X read your blog and sending you all good wishes.


  30. Stephanie Wood
    Oct 12, 2011 @ 18:14:33

    I read your article in Grazia and had to check out your blog. You are bloody fabulous and a real inspiration. Keep strong and and keep fighting. x


  31. sarah tori
    Oct 13, 2011 @ 20:24:44

    i just want to say i was sent a link to your blog by a friend and thank god i was – a truely inspirational person, i dont know else to put it. as a teen in the current day theyre arnt many people that you can truely look up to – ive found one x
    sarah torii, 14


  32. imkethielemannImke
    Oct 14, 2011 @ 12:00:40

    Hi Ellie,
    I read your article in Grazia and wanted to say how very inspiring it was – as is your blog. Sending you all the strength and positive energy in the world!!! And looking forward to seeing a fabulous picture of you on your wedding day. (That ring is marvellous :o)) Imke x


    • Ellie Jeffery
      Oct 14, 2011 @ 23:44:05

      Hello Imke – thanks for taking the time to check out the blog and comment. I’m glad you like the ring – I have to admit we’ve swapped it for something a little bit more sparkly but I’ll always keep the original one somewhere safe! Thanks again for reading, Ellie x


  33. J Ingrid Stage
    Oct 14, 2011 @ 12:27:20

    Dear Ellie, I found out this morning that you have been diagnosed with cancer.It is unbeliavably unfair and sad that a young woman should have this happen to her- that any woman should. I’ve been reading many of your entries in the past hour – and I couldn’t leave without writing to you. Your way with words makes for a powerfull and awakening read- your courage is beyond words. I want you to know that I am thinking of you. It feels like yesterday that we were all at university.. I wish you the best of luck with the treatment. xoxo Ingrid


    • Ellie Jeffery
      Oct 14, 2011 @ 23:46:52

      How lovely to hear from you Ingrid. Thank you for checking out the blog and commenting. For the moment things are going well, I’m hopeful they will continue this way! I hope you’re well, would you believe I’ll be taking a Scandinavian surname next year – Tom is Danish. Take care, Ellie x


  34. Orla Chennaoui
    Oct 14, 2011 @ 19:03:45

    I had the privilege of working with you at Sky, and one thing about a work environment is that, no matter how nice/intelligent/sparkly you think someone is, it’s almost impossible to get to see into someone’s inner core. Your blog has allowed me that honour and I am in awe of you. Truly.
    You are in my prayers and I get the feeling you’re going to be with us for quite some time yet. Stay strong Eleanor (sorry, that’s your on-screen name!) and just know you’re in the thoughts and prayers of many xxx


    • Ellie Jeffery
      Oct 14, 2011 @ 23:54:15

      Hi Orla,
      Lovely to hear from you and thank you for the kind message. I’ve been overwhelmed by the comments I’ve been getting – each and every one means so much. Thank you for reading and taking the time out to comment, Eleanor (I’m still using that version too!) xxx


  35. Jennifer
    Oct 14, 2011 @ 20:04:27

    Hi Ellie – Just want to make sure you had heard of Kris Carr and her site Kris had a similarly scary prognosis but like you decided to stay positive & fight cancer with all her might. Lots of good tips for mind, body & soul. Stay strong. xx Jennifer


    • Ellie Jeffery
      Oct 14, 2011 @ 23:57:32

      Hi Jennifer,
      I have heard of Kris – I’m following her on twitter – but I haven’t checked out her website yet so thanks so much for the tip, I’ll be sure to check it out! Ellie x


  36. Carolie Porter
    Oct 15, 2011 @ 04:32:20

    Hi Ellie

    I found your blog through a friend on facebook. I am 29 and also getting married next year and I must say your strength is trully inspirational.

    I am sure you are offered advice and web links all of the time but just in case you havent heard of Dr Rosy Daniel you may like to check out her site:

    Stay strong and best of luck



    • Ellie Jeffery
      Oct 15, 2011 @ 08:39:59

      Hi Caroline,
      Thanks for taking the time to check out the blog and for the website. I’ll definitely check it out – all recommendations and advice are gratefully received. Thanks again, Ellie x


  37. Rach
    Oct 15, 2011 @ 09:35:45

    Hi Ellie,

    I have followed your story in Grazia and was reduced to tears hearing your cancer has come back. I think it is wonderful you are planning your wedding next year and I look forward to seeing your wedding pictures in Grazia.

    Sadly I lost one of my best friends last year to Cervical Cancer, she was ony 31. My friends bravery has certainly made me a better person, I worry less, enjoy life more, make sure my friends and family know how important they are to me. I am sure your bravery is having the same effect on your friends. I will never forget my friend and think of her everyday. Since she has gone I have become better friends with her other friends and family and everyone very much supports each other, so try not to worry about your close ones.

    Your positive attitude is great and mind over matter I believe can do wonders. Medicine is always advancing and nothing is impossible.

    Keep fighting and wedding planning. xx


    • Ellie Jeffery
      Oct 16, 2011 @ 19:24:06

      Hi Rachel,
      I’m so sorry to hear you lost a friend and she was only 31. It is heartwarming to know that her friends and family have come together to support each other. Thank you for reading the blog and taking the time out to leave me such an encouraging message, Ellie xx


  38. phil
    Oct 15, 2011 @ 14:36:28

    Hi Ellie,
    I have just been shown your article in the Grazzia magazine and felt compelled to contact you.
    I have a friend who has terminal cancer and was given a maximum of 9 months to live, and that will be 2 years ago next Feb.
    I have been studying the effects of Aloe Vera juice and the healing properties for years.
    Please could you contact me as I would like to email you in person with some things which I very much hope can help you, that have made a massive difference to my friend.
    Thank you and kindest regards.


    • Ellie Jeffery
      Oct 16, 2011 @ 19:20:50

      Hi Phil,
      Thanks for your message – I’ll email you to get the info on aloe vera – I have the mindset of trying anything…within reason! i.e. don’t tell me to give up chocolate! I’m so very pleased to hear of another person defying their doctor’s predictions, sending them health and happiness. Ellie


  39. christine o neill
    Oct 16, 2011 @ 12:56:16

    Never give up, I have cancer too, I was given 2/5 years to live but my bloods are good right now, I am in my late 40s.(old bird), I am a high street fashion designer, if you need any help with the dress just ask, I have a close knit gang of frends who can do everthing cut make and copy.. all free. and if you have your heart set on a designer dress, then we can make the bridesmade dresses. ps sorry about the bloody spelling. take care .pps I am working freelance in india so if you fancy a sari let me know. take care of your self, be happy.
    nelly o neill


    • Ellie Jeffery
      Oct 16, 2011 @ 19:16:09

      Hello! I’m pleased to hear your bloods are good at the moment. Thank you for the kind message. I’ve bought a dress – I went for a vintage number that wasn’t very expensive. Thank you for the extremely kind offer though. Long may your bloods defy what the doctors said to you. Ellie x x


  40. Kate
    Oct 16, 2011 @ 18:11:13

    I was (ignorantly) berating my teenage daughter for buying a trashy magazine when I read about you and then continued onto your blog.

    I am sending you positive thoughts and vibes and wishes.

    Good luck

    Kate xx


  41. Sarah Graham
    Oct 17, 2011 @ 11:39:25

    Dear Ellie,

    I like so many on here was compelled to write having just read your article in Grazia magazine, particularly having lost my best friend last year. Her story was also a remarkable one, she didn’t use the ‘c’ word, and decided to fight nature with nature so to speak after her second diagnosis. At 29 she was first diagnosed with breast cancer, underwent a mastectomay, chemo and radiotherpay. At 35 she was advised to undergo more invasive treatments after a lump was found in her breast bone, but opted against, literally taking her life in her hands. She lived to see her 40th, at which point she’d never looked healthier or more beautiful, and although on the 10.10.10, aged 41, she passed away, her life and spirit was so strong and inspiring, she lives on in so many of our hearts.
    No doubt you will be aware of this approach to treatment, she researched so many books about natural approaches, one I particularly remember called ‘Cancer is not a disease’. She was very strict about what to eat and drink for your body, she would ‘listen’ to her body daily, resting more often than was always necessary. Everything in her fridge was organic, and I just about got used to the taste of tea with oatmilk and fruit sugar. She swore by essiac tea to boost her immune system, but I think for me the most overwhelming factor was her powerful self belief that even though she was told she was dying, she refused to believe it. This and the fact her only daughter was just 4 when she was diagnosed, and so she wasn’t just fighting for herself, she said her aim was to parent her through to adulthood, which she virtually achieved. She turned 18 this summer, a beautiful, strong girl, full of her mother’s determination and strength. Although I miss Lisa dearly, i’m so thankful she was a part of my life, she touched it so deeply, she will stay with me forever.
    A blog like this is so important, I know Lisa wanted to share her experiences and beliefs with so many, but despite being a brilliant and witty writer, she was too self critical to do so in a public format. Privately she wrote endless notebooks for her daughter however, which she will have to cherish always.
    I also wanted to share the fact that having got married myself almost 3 years ago, I know that having this to focus towards is the most magical thing in the world, and I hope your day is truly beautiful and something your husband-to-be will cherish forever. None of us truly know what’s ahead of us, we should all be living in the moment, it’s a much more rewarding place to be.

    I wish you love and happiness with your fiance, and long may you too defy what doctors say,

    Sarah x x x


    • Ellie Jeffery
      Oct 17, 2011 @ 14:19:39

      Hi Sarah,
      I have to admit I’ve had a little cry reading your message. One thing this blog has made me aware of is the amount of people who are suffering from cancer from such young ages. You must be incredibly proud of the brave way your friend opted to fight her cancer. It makes me realise how lucky we are to have people in our lives that really make a difference to who we are and how we live. It is beyond description the pain we feel when we lose someone who has such an effect but it is so utterly amazing that they came into our lives at the first place.
      I’m glad Lisa got to see her daughter grow up although I am sad she could not have seen her reach other milestones.
      Thank you for reading the blog Sarah and letting me into some of Lisa’s story. This message really touched me,
      Ellie xxx


  42. Amanda
    Oct 17, 2011 @ 12:16:50

    You are truly an amazing lady!! Keep up the fight xxxxx


  43. Claire Myers
    Oct 17, 2011 @ 20:29:49

    Ellie, I have just sat down and read back your many amazing, sad, witty and inspirational blogs, they have made me laugh and cry.

    I remember when you came into this world and how excited we were, a small beautiful baby girl, a toddler falling in the street and deciding whether to cry and if anyone had noticed, buying you a beer in Notts and thinking, no she can’t be old enough (you were) and now a strong beautiful woman. You have such amazing strength and words fail me to say much more. The approach you have to the ‘c’ is fantastic and through Mum I do know and believe it makes a difference, you stick with it kid.

    Am so excited about the wedding, Tom sounds like a hell of a bloke as well as a damn handsome one!

    Claire x x x


    • Ellie Jeffery
      Oct 18, 2011 @ 10:00:51

      Hello Claire,
      It’s so lovely to hear from you. Thanks for the lovely message. I know you of all people know what a complete fucker this disease can be. I’ll keep up the fight don’t you worry. All my love, Ellie xxx


    • Claire
      Oct 18, 2011 @ 20:34:40

      It is a fucker, my friends little boy has been battling leukemia for the last year and have been through the ups and downs with them. He was a page boy at our wedding it will be a year this week since his diagnosis, what shite life deals some people. So glad and proud you have the outlook you have and you are sharing your experiences with people, you truely are an inspiration x x


      • Ellie Jeffery
        Oct 18, 2011 @ 21:36:46

        I’m so sorry to hear that Claire. When people say I’m too young for this disease I often think of the children who are affected by cancer. As I commented earlier to another friend I read Lance Armstrong’s ‘It’s not just about the bike ‘ and he talks about how children who get cancer have much better survival rates. They don’t understand statistics or worry about if they have a future or not, they just want to get well to play again. I really hope this is the case with your friend’s little boy and that he gets better to enjoy the life that so many children will have without giving it a second thought. Sending them all my positivity, Ellie xxx

  44. Lucy
    Oct 17, 2011 @ 20:49:52

    Wow!! What a totally amazing, inspiring, beautiful, young (my age ;0) ) lady! Iv have just read your blog from start to today, you moved me to tears, you are just fab!
    I’m so excited to read more and be on count down to your princess day. (wedding)


  45. Simon
    Oct 18, 2011 @ 16:42:31

    Ellie you are an absolute inspiration. I don’t think I have the literary capacity to say anything better than everyone else here already has, but your story has sent me through every emotion possible. You’re an amazing person and I can’t begin to imagine how you’ve been so positive and tough throughout. All the very best for the future and here’s to many many years of happy marriage!x


    • Ellie Jeffery
      Oct 18, 2011 @ 18:31:40

      Thank you for such a lovely message Simon. I’m glad you found the blog and have ‘enjoyed’ it (if that’s the right word!). Your positive response is greatly appreciated, Ellie x


  46. jayne
    Oct 18, 2011 @ 18:04:22

    Hi Ellie,
    As im a follower of duncan bannatyne on twitter,today he put a comment next to your blog I clicked on to have a read of them,i didnt know what a blog was untill last week when my friend started blogging about her life & they had me glued,so i thought i would give yours a read… And i love them. Your very kind sharing your story with us and i will look forward to your new ones… love jayne x


  47. riri82
    Oct 18, 2011 @ 19:03:16

    Dear Ellie,
    I have just read your article in this week’s Grazia. I never usually read the real life articles but something about your picture made me stop. You had a fight in your eyes and I must have related or admired it in that transient moment.
    Like everyone else, I cannot emphasise how much I admire your strength, courage and mental attitude. With the bombardment and overload of information available to us, wel know all too well that the mind and body are inextricably linked. Do not underestimate the power of your mental strength; you can survive this. I am a teacher and a writer and I will be sure to tell my class about your ineffable strength. I cannot believe we are the same age and yet I woryy about the most trivial of things. You have given many of us the gift of perspective…may you grant yourself the gift of life. I send you a mass of light during this time and always. Lots of love, God bless you. Maria xxxx


    • Ellie Jeffery
      Oct 18, 2011 @ 21:38:53

      Hello Maria,
      Thanks for not only reading the Grazia article but for also taking the time out to visit the blog. It’s always encouraging to get such positive and supportive messages so thank you for that too. Ellie x


  48. jojo
    Oct 19, 2011 @ 11:44:15

    I don’t know what to add here, other than reiterate the good wishes everybody else has. You write beautifully, and I think your words will resonate and give hope – and pause for thought – to many other people. I’m not religious, but I’ll pray for a happy outcome. And I hope your wedding is absolutely wonderful.
    All best wishes


    • Ellie Jeffery
      Oct 19, 2011 @ 12:44:38

      Hi Jojo,
      Thank you for taking the time to read the blog and leave a comment too. It’s hard to know how to reply when I get such kind comments so I’ll stick to tradition and say thank you.
      Best Wishes,
      Ellie x


  49. PS
    Oct 19, 2011 @ 12:27:36

    ellie, your blog has put my worries into perspective. i have been recovering from depression (and am definitely over the worst of it now) I have been focusing on something you seem to understand instinctively. of the wolves competing inside us, we have one that is anger and fear and hatred and all the evil, and one that is good and kind and honest and compassionate. they fight it out constantly. the one that wins is the one we feed. you are feeding the right one. xx


    • Ellie Jeffery
      Oct 19, 2011 @ 12:48:57

      Hello there,
      I’m sorry you’ve been having such a rough time of it. I find that when I’m getting worried and stressed about what the future holds (and believe me there are days when I feel incredibly low) I try to focus on the here and now. I think talking to a counsellor and getting into yoga has helped hugely. Who knows what tomorrow holds for any of us? It’s more productive with getting on with living for today. Best wishes, Ellie x


      • PS
        Oct 19, 2011 @ 12:55:18

        indeed. what i meant to say (or convey) is that feeding the positivity is the key to so much in life. it’s at the centre of it all. and the here and now is pretty damned wonderful, some of us just forget to notice sometimes until something jogs us into really seeing things in focus. so thank you for jogging me. .:-) stay positive and keep doing what you are doing. xxx

  50. Tash
    Oct 19, 2011 @ 12:58:37

    You are so inspirational. Your positive attitude is infectious. Stay positive and continue to spread your message.


  51. DiggingDog (@maddiefingers)
    Oct 19, 2011 @ 19:02:06

    Hi Ellie … Clare Balding linked to your blog on Twitter. How right she was. Power to you and yours.


  52. Pauliina Purnell
    Oct 19, 2011 @ 23:17:35

    Brilliant blog Ellie. You are one brave lady and all of us at Sky News are rooting for you. Loads of love, Pauliina xx


  53. Duff
    Oct 19, 2011 @ 23:33:12

    Hey Ellie, Not sure you’ll remember me from our College days (was the yr above you) but with your story hitting the wonderful world of social media and i link been posted towards your blog i was compelled to read on and i’m so glad I did.
    Haven’t really got any new / inspirational comments or notes to leave for you that haven’t already been said and especially coming from the North east of England my vocabulary and writing skills aren’t quite as eloquent as one would hope ;-).
    You really are an amazing woman and your approach to what life has dealt you is outstanding. All I really wanted to do was wish you all the happiness for your future, hope its a very bright one, will keep following your blog intently. Take Care, Duff


    • Ellie Jeffery
      Oct 20, 2011 @ 09:26:44

      Hello! Of course I remember you. Thanks for taking the time out to read the blog and leaving such a lovely comment – yours even made me a bit tearful! I really appreciate your good wishes, Ellie x


  54. Tricia
    Oct 20, 2011 @ 00:36:39

    Ellie – just meant to glance at your blog and found I couldn’t put it down (or whatever the cyberspace equivalent is). So beautifully and bravely written. I don’t know how the cancer dares rear its horrible head anywhere near you. I can only add my hopes and prayers to all the many others who are willing you on to kick its ass. Thank God you have Tom and your family and friends to help you through this, and thank God, too, for Prof Hope and Dr Rosy. Sounds like you make a formidable team. All the very best and I will follow your progress with hope in my heart. Tricia


    • Ellie Jeffery
      Oct 20, 2011 @ 09:39:27

      Hello Tricia,
      Thank you for reading the blog and all in one go? I’m impressed! I too thank God everyday for having the support system I have around me. I really couldn’t do this without them. Thank you for your kind good wishes, Ellie x


  55. jane dougall
    Oct 20, 2011 @ 03:42:24

    Ellie, I started working at Sky after you left, so I didn’t meet you but I knew who you were and I knew a little about your “fight”.
    I’m so glad you have written these blogs so I can not only keep up with your progress, but also tell you that I’ve thought of you often and hoped you were doing well.
    I’ve been really moved by your words and your courage Ellie. Also, by the fact you’ve replied to every single comment posted, despite having so much to cope with.
    Have a wonderful wedding, I know you’ll be beautiful. Stay strong.
    Jane Dougall.


    • Ellie Jeffery
      Oct 20, 2011 @ 09:41:14

      Hi Jane,
      Thanks for reading the blog and going by the time you posted your comment I can guess you were on a night shift! Your kind message really does mean a lot, thank you, Ellie x


  56. bel
    Oct 20, 2011 @ 09:51:41

    Ellie your blog is beautifully written and extremely heartfelt. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and feelings so candidly along a most difficult journey. I really wish you all the luck, future good health and happiness possible. Keep up the fight. You are an inspiration and I pray for a good outcome for you. x


  57. Freya Bielenberg
    Oct 20, 2011 @ 19:44:46

    Dear Ellie,

    Reading your blog makes me happy. That may sound weird but the appreciation that you seem to have for life (whether that is because of the cancer or not) and the humour that you have managed to draw from this situation is truly inspirational. I saw the article in Grazia and looked up your blog straight away and i’m extremely glad I did!
    It’s clear that you are a beautiful person and someone with your admirable strength and utter determination deserves every bit of goodwill going. I will cross my fingers and toes for you (and definitely keep reading your blog) and hope that you continue to keep being positive. It is lovely to hear how many people clearly love and support you, and by the sounds of; rightly so!

    Lots of love,
    F x


    • Ellie Jeffery
      Oct 21, 2011 @ 09:06:10

      Thank you Freya – that’s a lovely message to read this morning. I’m glad you’re enjoying the blogs and hope to keep you reading for years to come, love, Ellie x


  58. christine o neill
    Oct 22, 2011 @ 16:33:14

    I sent my sister your blog info, and have kept the Grazia article for her to read next week. NEVER GIVE UP THE FIGHT. My younger sister fiona also has had breast cancer,. She is doing very well, and she really believes in this doctor( chris woollams
    Chris Woollams we both take these tablets natural herbs.
    Just have a look.
    There is no history of cancer in our family but we both have it. and my sister has had stage one, I have advanced cancer 3/4.
    I am going to get my blood done next week, then I am off to India to work.
    I wish you well in all you do in life may it be long and happy.. never give up.
    nelly. the one who cant spell.


  59. Sue
    Oct 23, 2011 @ 16:55:17

    Hi Ellie,
    I read about you in Grazia Magazine a few backs and was extremely moved by your story. I think you struck a chord with me because like you I am also recently engaged but I suppose unlike you I don’t have the millstone of the big C to deal with-I can’t imagine being as brave and as positive as you appear to be in that article. I am thinking of you all the time (even all the way across the pond here in Ireland) and wish you success and good health-well done for your inspiring attitude and bravery..
    Sue (Kerry but ex patriated to Dublin for the time being)


  60. Aaron Hammond
    Oct 24, 2011 @ 20:52:00

    Hi Ellie,

    My sister told me about your struggle and i read your blog. I’m not ashamed to say that i shed a few tears whilst reading but i really do get a good feeling about you and that things will work out. Never underestimate the power of the human mind… it’s amazing what we can do when we focus.

    Keep winning.



  61. Michelle Appleyard
    Oct 24, 2011 @ 23:08:52

    Hi Ellie,

    I saw your article in Grazia and also read your blog which I found truly inspirational and really touched my heart! My best friend Rachel is also fighting ‘c’ and has the same positive fighting spirit as you – I am going to tell her about your blog because I think she will love it as she is also a super talented writer and will be able to relate to some of your stories.

    I’ve also recently found out about ‘Casa Dom’ in Brazil from another positive friend which is a spiritual place of healing and will be visiting there with Rachel in a few months’ time – we are very excited!

    I will keep reading your blog and wish you lots of happiness and good health!

    Your wedding next June will be amazing!!

    Love Michelle xx


    • Ellie Jeffery
      Oct 25, 2011 @ 11:17:21

      Hi Michelle,
      Thank you for reading the blog and taking the time out to comment. I hope you and Rachel have a fab time in Brazil – I will be googling after I’ve written this message.
      Ellie x


  62. Preet
    Oct 26, 2011 @ 11:05:33

    Hi Ellie,

    Like Michelle I read your story in Grazia and think your courage and attitude is amazing and wish you a complete recovery. I found two sites on natural health which may be of interest to you and thought I would send you the links:

    Wishing you lots of happiness and enjoy the wedding preparations.

    Preet x


  63. Judy Mansfield
    Oct 26, 2011 @ 20:05:53

    A dear friend has today quoted you and your blog on a new Facebook page called ‘Remarkable Women’ as being inspirational to her. I’ve sat at my PC transfixed as I follow your journey. You write beautifully. Honest, straightforward and true, with a feisty humour that has made me smile Thank you for sharing it with us. What a fantastic bride and groom you and Tom will be. Keep flicking those V’s at your unwanted rude ‘guest’. xxxx


    • Ellie Jeffery
      Oct 26, 2011 @ 20:18:42

      Thank you for stopping by Judy and taking the time out to leave a comment. I shall continue to give the ‘V’s’ to cancer and may throw in the occasional middle finger for good measure too! Ellie xxx


  64. Lisa
    Oct 26, 2011 @ 20:09:30

    Hi Ellie,

    Just finished reading your blog and I couldn’t leave without commenting. I spent 10 years working as a medical secretary to an Oncologist who was amazing, but I was also aware of others who were not so great. They were brilliant doctors but seemed to have forgotten that they were dealing with a real life human being who was a complete individual, had family, friends, a life, were filled with hopes and dreams and who knew virtually nothing of the ‘Cancer World’. It took me a good year to fully understand cancer procedures and terminology so how a new patient is supposed to absorb it all whilst in (I imagine) a complete state of shock completely amazes me.

    I was lucky enough to develop really close bonds with some of the patients and I was constantly amazed how some of the women seemed to ‘own’ their cancer in that they researched and studied and asked questions until they understood fully what they were dealing with. A common feeling seemed to be that it took away some of the fear and the women felt they at least understood what they were fighting and they felt it took a little bit of power away from the disease (in a kind of know your enemy way). I was constantly in awe of the way patients took charge of their lives and brought leaflet after leaflet to clinic of things they had found, diets they had read about or treatments from overseas they had heard about on the internet and the doctors would always hear them out no matter how strange some of them seemed to be because, as my boss used to say, “you just never know”. I truly believe in the power of positivity and having seen patients both young and old survive what seemed impossible odds, I believe anything can happen. I had patients who were given just months to live, completely surpass anyones expectations by a mile and unfortunately some patients who had an excellent prognosis not make it.

    Life expectancy is usually given out (as you seem to be aware) based on statistics, but there are so many variables involved that the way I see it is there are no statistics available anywhere that can determine how you, your mind and your body are going to fight this disease or how you will react to treatment, therefore anything is possible :)))))

    Sorry if I’ve droned on but felt your blog necessitated a worthy response.

    Sending a huge bag filled with the best wishes I could find.

    Lisa xxx ;-))))


    • Ellie Jeffery
      Oct 27, 2011 @ 09:07:58

      Hi Lisa,
      Thank you for your positive message – it wasn’t droning on at all – it’s a fascinating read. The more people that tell me anything is possible the better. Thank you for getting in touch and thank you for all your best wishes, Ellie xxx


  65. Jane Draisey
    Oct 28, 2011 @ 20:32:01

    Hi Ellie, You really are inspiring. I lost my mum to breast cancer, my sister has, to date, battled successfully with breast cancer. It make everyday worth living for, and precious. I think everyone should treasure life, everyday should be worthwhile…none of us know what is around the corner. Reading your blog is humbling… the nicest way. You have my heartfelt admiration and fondest thoughts and best wishes


    • Ellie Jeffery
      Oct 29, 2011 @ 10:55:16

      Hi Jane, Thank you for stopping by and leaving such a kind comment. I’m sorry to hear about your mum and really hope your sister’s good health continues. Ellie x


  66. Fatima Al-Kassab
    Oct 29, 2011 @ 09:50:41

    Hi Ellie,

    You are such an admirable woman, you’ve made your story, and your journey a cheerful, bright and optimistic one inspiring us all to do the same and make the most of our lives and spending time with those we love. When I read your story in Grazia I was so amazed by how you dealt with what we all dread, what is horrifying news – ‘the big C’ – but for you it wasn’t the end of the world, and you’ve shown how living your life positively and ensuring you make the most of every moment is more important than worrying about how long doctors give you. Your colourful and wonderful approach to life is a lesson to us all, everybody should value every day and every moment they spend with the people they love. Your blog is fantastic and inspirational. Thank you, and I will continue to read it as a reminder of your refreshing approach to what a lot of the time seems a gloomy world we live in! You have shown us that it is not at all! God bless you, always in my prayers, you are a brave and beautiful woman.

    Fatima x


    • Ellie Jeffery
      Oct 29, 2011 @ 10:58:00

      Thank you for stopping by the blog Fatima and taking the time out to leave such a lovely message. Messages like yours really do cheer me up to take on the day, thank you, Ellie xx


  67. Nikki
    Oct 30, 2011 @ 23:14:09

    I think you are amazing and Proff Hope sounds like a God.

    I am 45 and have just finished and won my battle with breast cancer. Your post on Wheatgrass made me chuckle and I wanted to share a link that is helping me at the moment. A friend of mine is completely obsessed with wheatgrass and has tried and tested every form available. So with her advice I am now taking live organic wheatgrass shots. They are frozen shots that you leave to defrost in warm water and I mix with apple juice. They actually taste quite nice, even my family and friends are taking them. It was the part that said one shot contains the same amount of nutrients as a 2.5 Ibs of green vegetables, that sold me. Worth a read if you fancy a tastier option.

    Thanks for sharing your story and journey, I will be following you all the way. I wish you well and a long and happy life.

    Nikki xx


  68. Amanda
    Oct 31, 2011 @ 10:45:45

    Keep strong and a big hug and kiss to you both xxxxx


  69. Julia
    Oct 31, 2011 @ 16:15:37

    Hi Ellie
    My husband Mark (he worked with you up North) emailed me your blog today. You are so beautiful, talented and incredibly brave. Your blog is an inspiration to everyone and I too am sending you prayers and positive vibes to will you on, on your journey.
    My sister was diagnosed with breast cancer 5 years ago and it brought us together even closer as a family as only C can do. She had her lumpectomy and mastectomy, 6 chemos, she then had radiotherapy and Herceptin and later reconstruction, so has had her unfair share of knives, needles and pills too.
    Your approach to yoga, meditation and visualisation are so positive. My dad went overboard on getting vitamins etc, for my sis but she said she can’t stomach them now, she’s taken too many pills over the years! My sister and Marks aunt (who had the same left mastecomy on the same day as my sister) also changed their diets and cut out dairy and meat too. Mark’s aunt swears by accupuncture, so like you, she’s found her own complimentary treatment.
    My sis worked as a nurse for over 20 years and last year switched jobs to work in research at the Cancer unit in her home city. She inspires me with the work she does every day. We were all concerned that this job would be a bit too close to home, but her attitude is that she’s now doing something proactive to find treatments and cures rather than looking after people in their final days.
    Your blog is your way and is amazing Ellie, to have the strength to share your journey with such honesty and eloquence will and has made such an impact on people, it’s even made leave a reply (a first and probably last!)
    I truly, truly admire you and wish you and Tom all of the luck, love and laughter together in the world.


    P.S. My nana was given no more than 6 months by a not too sensitive doctor and had an amazing 8 years. She lived with us for most of them and I remember fondly chasing elephants off the wall for her in one of her morphine moments. She was the best nana in the world.


    • Ellie Jeffery
      Oct 31, 2011 @ 20:53:44

      Thank you for such a lovely message Julia. I hope your sister’s recovery continues – an experience like hers changes you forever but in my opinion mostly for the better. Thank you for your positivity and prayers. Now we are assembling a plan of action I’m feeling much more positive and ready to take on the new challenges that are ahead. Good on your Nana for proving the doctors wrong – she sounds like my kind of woman! Ellie xx


  70. Andrea Grima
    Oct 31, 2011 @ 17:55:46

    Hey Ellie, I was with some girlfriends yesterday, I told them about your amazing self and your blog. You have a whole new set of prayers and positive wishes now – it seems that your support crew is getting stronger by the day.


  71. Deirdre
    Nov 02, 2011 @ 11:19:18

    Hi Ellie
    I have been following your blog with equal quantities of laughter and sadness.You are so positive it is really inspiring and I wish you all the very best in your ongoing recovery. As for the mouse…. we got one a few weeks ago, thought we were in the clear, and a further seven blighted our kitchen thereafter so be warned!!!
    With prayers and good wishes from across the pond


  72. Lisa
    Nov 02, 2011 @ 13:33:54

    Hi Ellie, I came to your blog after reading your inspirational story in Grazia Magazine. I’m a wedding photographer and I’m not sure if you already have a photographer for your wedding next year but if not, I’d like to offer you my services for free. I was truly touched by your story and if this would be something you might be interested in, I’d love to hear from you.
    Lisa x


    • Ellie Jeffery
      Nov 03, 2011 @ 09:53:00

      Thank you Lisa. That is such a kind offer, for the moment I’m going to get through these next few weeks but promise to be back in touch once we know where we stand treatment wise. xx


  73. Selene
    Nov 02, 2011 @ 22:04:27

    Hi Ellie,

    I read your piece in Grazia magazine a few weeks back now. I can honestly say that never has an article in a magazine affected me so much. It’s a cliche to say it’s ‘put things in perspective’, but there is no better phrase for it. Your courage and strength is truly astounding. Having read your blog, I have been so amazed by your positive outlook. I can’t imagine how hard it must be at times, but reading about you sticking two fingers up at cancer and fighting against it with everything you have is just inspiring. Miracles can and do happen. I am sure your strength and determination is helping you just as much as the treatments, and want you to know that people who you don’t know are thinking about you and praying that you beat this for as long as is conceivably possible. You have come against the odds already, and I really believe you will continue to. You read about those people who say, ‘fuck you, cancer,’ and refuse to lie down and let it take them. You are one of those people, and it is always those people who are most triumphant. I know what you are going through may not seem like a triumph at times, but what you have done so far IS, and I hope so much that you continue kick this cancer’s arse.

    I wish you all the happiness and luck in the world, and hope you and Tom have a long, happy and fulfilled life together. Please keep up the fight. I will be thinking of you.

    Love and best wishes

    Selene x


  74. Prue
    Nov 02, 2011 @ 22:23:43

    Hi Ellie,
    I was told of your Blog by Joey Haines…..
    You are inspirational, extraordinary & I am another follower, determined to send you possitive vibes & much love.
    I really hear you, and I hope that your continued fight makes you stronger & stronger.
    Will be praying for you,
    Much love,


  75. cathy
    Nov 02, 2011 @ 22:28:41


    Thank you for your generosity, courage and patience in taking the time and making an effort to write down and share with us, your journey with cancer.
    From your entries, many of us will learn and take time to reflect and act upon what is important in life.
    What is important in life are the memories we create, and from reading your blog, i know you are creating beautiful and positive memories every day.

    Cathy (Friend of Chrissa)


  76. Victoria
    Nov 03, 2011 @ 10:19:48

    Hi Ellie,
    You don’t deserve any of this, I wish I had a cure for you!! Don’t let this break your spirit now! (I know its easily said then done) you are so inspiring and so strong.
    Keep fighting love!!!!!
    All my love,


  77. victoria lawrence
    Nov 04, 2011 @ 14:54:50

    I have just been sent your blog by a mutual friend (you and I grew up in the same village) and I felt compelled to tell you that I think you are amazing. Your writing is beautiful and your bravery inspiring.
    Thank you for writing this blog as it will give strength to so many.
    Keep fighting…everyone who reads this blog will be praying and hoping and fighting with you!
    Much much love,


  78. kelly
    Nov 04, 2011 @ 20:23:27


    I want to introduce you to Hannah x

    You are two beautiful and inspirational women whos strength of character and lust for life will help them deal with whatever life throws at them xx

    Keep strong and keep fighting x we are 100% behind the both of you

    Kelly, Jason and Ella
    Norfolk, UK x


  79. Linda
    Nov 05, 2011 @ 10:03:11

    Hi Ellie
    I have read your blog and followed your highs and lows. You are truly inspirational. You have so much courage. I hope many people read it and hopefully appreciate everything they have in their lives. We take what we have so much for granted not thinking that so many others are fighting to keep it. Tom is a wonderful person and loves you very much. Together you can beat this and next year we shall be seeing your wedding photos on this very space.
    Stay strong, keep up your spirit and you will overcome.
    Lots of love
    Terry’s Mum (Australia) x


  80. Helen Mathews
    Nov 10, 2011 @ 05:05:05

    As a survivor of BC myself my heart goes out to you, I am one of the lucky ones who is fit and healthy 7 years down the track. I hope and pray that you have the same happy ending as me, even though it may take you a bit longer than it took me to get here.


  81. stacy
    Nov 10, 2011 @ 05:15:20

    I just wanted to leave a message to say I think you are so inspiring and ridiculously brave. Your blog has made me feel very emotional and I feel like all those small things in my life are just completely insignificant. You deserve every happiness so keep fighting!

    Best Wishes, Stacy x


  82. Diane
    Nov 10, 2011 @ 06:04:33

    I’ve just read your very moving story online on the daily mail. What a truly amazing person you are! I just wanted to send you all my very best wishes and love. I will go to sleep now with tears in my eyes and saying a prayer for you. Keep strong and keep fighting . With love Diane xx


  83. Tom Stembridge
    Nov 10, 2011 @ 06:40:04

    Hey, Ellie.

    You’ve clearly read this kind of thing already but I’ll give it a go anyway. You’ve given this shitty disease a forum. Everything you have to say is absolutely essential. The people that will read this blog and look away from their screen with a smile on their face makes me thank that you and so many others have been involved and are ready to talk and be so brave. I’m sure you’ve received so many of these messages, but I hope you know that you are all 100% in my thoughts and I know you will smash this.

    I’m quite keen on learning to surf by the way! …so If you’ve got no plans later in 2012, Ellie, fit me in. I’ll admit, I am awful! x


  84. beverley hewitson
    Nov 10, 2011 @ 08:54:33

    Dear Ellie, I was reading your article in the Mail online this morning, I was going to say how very sorry I am and what a tragedy but I’m sure you’ve had more than your fair share of that. So my lovely, at this point until I get to know you better, all I will say is congratulations on your engagement and enjoy planning your wedding, stay strong and positive, sending you much love to you both xx


  85. Sally
    Nov 10, 2011 @ 09:40:01


    You are so incredibly brave.

    I wish you all the luck and love in the world to get you through this.

    Sally x


  86. John
    Nov 10, 2011 @ 10:14:35

    See for numerous non-allopathic therapies

    if you read Dr Hamer you will find a bad diagnosis causes cancer to spread He had a 90% cure rate.

    Dr Kelly cured his ‘incurable’ pancreatic cancer

    I’d use the croft zapper Includes lung cancer testimonial, meant to cure every cancer bar leukemia and prostate, only costs 120$

    ‘A parallel evidence came to me from Romania in 1999. I had just started adding orgonite to my zappers, then, and a healer in Romania ordered several of them for his clinic. A few weeks later, I got an email from him and he seemed pretty excited to report that a dying patient had completely recovered from lung cancer and radiation sickness within a couple of weeks after he started zapping. The fellow had been one of a cleanup crew at Chernyobyl. I’m pretty sure that a basic zapper circuit, alone, won’t cure radiation sickness but that orgonite, alone, will cure it. Any zapper routinely cures cancer but an ordinary zapper won’t likely cure cancer if the sufferer has been undergoing chemotherapy or radiation treatments. I’m watching for opportunities to see if a zapper with orgonite will cure cancer even when radation is being administered by serial killers (that’s what I call medical doctors who prescribe deadly poisons to already sick people)’.— Don Croft

    cheers, John


  87. gill
    Nov 10, 2011 @ 10:18:22

    i was just wondering if you had heard of Underground Health? they send me emails weekly about amazing natural cures and the reading of their stuff is quite staggering. it all seems too good to be true, but i keep the emails as they are backed up by doctors it seems and if i ever get diagnosed i would try everything they suggest. also there is a treatment centre in mexico the The Issels Treatment centre , i think, and they will email you for free if you give them your prognosis, as they have testimonials to swear that people have been cured or given ten and twenty years of extra life by having large quantities of fruit and veg juices.It may make interesting reading for you and maybe you might give it a try. Good luck . My heart broke when i read your story. x


  88. Pauline
    Nov 10, 2011 @ 10:24:44

    I hope you don’t mind me writing to you but I was treated by a great doctor in New York 9 years ago ( I live in Scotland)for two brain tumours which although benign would have continued to grow and eventually……..well you know the rest. There were a number of patients there with various cancers and he had great results. His name is Dr Gil Lederman and he can be contacted at He can be contacted by phone and will answer emails, look at scans etc with no obligation on your part to see him. I really wish you the best of luck with what you are going through.


  89. Nicky Clay
    Nov 10, 2011 @ 10:30:43

    I have read your story in the paper today, and you are really inspiring. Its such a cruel horrible disease. I too am getting married next June I hope that you are able to focus on that rather than the battle you are going through. I thought you might also be interested to know about a challenge that one of my friends has set himself, he quit his job and is now walking from John O’groats to Lands End passing everyone of the 16 Cancer Research Centres on the way. Raising both awareness and money for the Big C – if you have a moment please check out his web page

    Wishing you all the very best.
    Nicky xx


  90. Jeff Palin
    Nov 10, 2011 @ 10:45:03

    Hi Eleanor
    Read your article in Daily Mail today.
    I am no doctor and dont want to give you false hope but please visit Bill Hendersons website it may help.

    All my love


  91. Sophie
    Nov 10, 2011 @ 10:48:01

    Hi Ellie,
    It has been a real help to me reading your blog. I am 19 years old and have just been diagnosed with breast cancer. Its so hard to take in such dreadful news at such a young age, but reading your journey and your determination to fight is making me want to stay strong and fight that little bit harder. I know things are probably going to get harder for me over the next few weeks and months but I am hoping that they will be able to help me take control and have more time with my family. I am continuing to read your blog, all of us need to stick together to find that cure. Take Care, Sophie xx


    • Ellie Jeffery
      Nov 10, 2011 @ 10:54:25

      I’m so sorry to hear you’ve been diagnosed at such a young age Sophie. I hope you feel you are getting the best care available to you. Yes the coming months will be hard but totally doable. Time will march on and you will get there. Wishing you all the luck in the world with your treatment. Remember there are many women who are diagnosed with breast cancer and beat it fully. Sending love, Ellie xxx


      • Sophie
        Nov 10, 2011 @ 11:03:29

        Thanks Ellie, your words mean a lot! Is there other way to contact you for advice/support, to talk to someone who truely understands? Although its a horrible thing, its good to hear the story of someone else’s fight because I’m feeling very alone. Start my 1st round of chemo tomorrow…very scared! Sophie xxx

  92. Joanne
    Nov 10, 2011 @ 10:48:23

    Hi Ellie

    I read about you in the Daily Mail this morning and have now subscribed to your blog……I have just spent the past hour and a bit reading all of your entries, I have laughed and cried all at the same time………YOU are amazing!!! You will get over this next hurdle, if anyone can do it you can and like everyone who has sent you a message, I am looking forward to seeing your lovely face on your wedding day and by then you would have kicked cancers bit fat ugly arse!!!!!!! 🙂
    Hang in there lovely lady, you can do it!!!!

    Much love and best wishes
    Joanne x x x x x x x x


  93. joanna
    Nov 10, 2011 @ 11:04:40

    Hi Ellie.
    I found your blog, after reading your story on the daily mail this morning. I’ve sat here for the last hour reading it from start to finish.
    I don’t really know how to tell you how it made me feel, I think your amazing and incredibly brave.
    It sounds like a cliche but you really have made me see in a new light, just how precious life is, and I’l be telling whoever will listen about the amazing lady I read about this morning.
    I’m going to follow your story now, and can’t wait for the post about your wedding day, I know I’l read it. Sending you all of my love and positive thoughts,
    Jo x


  94. Charles Cadwallader
    Nov 10, 2011 @ 11:20:17

    G’day Ellie.
    It’s very difficult to put into mere words what I would like to say but, well, there is nothing whatsoever on this planet that I wouldn’t give to rid you, and the world, of the scourge of this bloody awful thing.
    But, whatever else, you take care OK? You are a treasure and an inspiration and I am so grateful to you. I only wish I had your courage.


  95. Sonja
    Nov 10, 2011 @ 11:22:13

    What on earth do you say to a young woman in your position except how impressed i’ve been with your blog and how your strong personality radiates through every word.
    I can tell you’re a journalist, it’s cleary not in your nature to take things at face value and simply accept what you’re told as fact.
    You keep fighting, and i’m convinced you will have the wedding day you and Tom so richly deserve.
    When i’m tempted to moan about something trivial today, i’ll remember you Ellie and channel that energy into sending you positive vibes instead.
    I wish you all the luck in the world and then some more.
    Sonja x


  96. dave betts
    Nov 10, 2011 @ 11:28:23

    Hello Eleanor,
    I’ve just read your blog – though I was too cowardly to read it all – after seeing the Daily Mail article. I knew you had cancer but had no idea it had spread.
    We used to work at Sky News together and I still miss your Yorkshire humour and shear determination.
    Keep fighting. I’ll be praying for you and Tom.
    Dave Betts


  97. samantha dempsey
    Nov 10, 2011 @ 11:43:57

    ive just read the daily mail, you are an amazing woman, keep fighting and you will see your wedding day, the way you cope which i know you have to carry on some how but so brave.
    thinking of you both


  98. mark
    Nov 10, 2011 @ 11:48:49

    Not sure it you have ever heard of LDN as an alternative treatment but do try to read this,

    I’ve seen some amazing results with family and friends.


  99. Bridget
    Nov 10, 2011 @ 11:57:05

    You are an inspiration to so many people, not just those with cancer but to all.

    I’m sure you will beat this. My love and prayers are with you xxx


  100. emmaev
    Nov 10, 2011 @ 12:00:02

    Planning my own wedding and being such a diva about it is a luxury I can afford, however it makes me feel very ashamed of myself that I’m throwing tantrums over place settings when there is a possibility you may not even live to see your wedding day. This breaks my heart.
    I honestly can say that this is has profoundly affected me, and even though I have no idea who you are, I am sending all of my love and positive thoughts to you and your family. I’m not a believer in God, but I do believe in a higher power, and I will be thinking of you and your fight to beat this terrible disease. I hope it doesn’t rob you of a life you so very much deserve.


  101. Alex Tunnicliffe
    Nov 10, 2011 @ 12:04:41

    Be brave and strong, kinda brings everything into perspective. I will keep reading your brilliant blog and think of you often, especially when I am dealing with teenage son! I am sure you get offers of help all the time but cake making is my “me time” and if you need a wedding cake please just ask, it would be a pleasure to get one to you and Tom.
    Much love
    Alex on the Isle of Wight, supposed to be working but cant now.


  102. fallen angel
    Nov 10, 2011 @ 12:05:25

    Dear Eleanor,
    The medical establishment has suppressed medical intervention of cancer in their personal desire of profits and since so many people are exponentially suffering with the disease it leads me to think that we are being targeted in one huge ‘soft kill’ biological warfare weapons program. The cure for cancer is already patented.On terminally ill cancer patients have cured themselves with hemp,one of the cheapest ,naturalist substances that has been used medicinally for thousands of years that coincidentally has been made illegal by jewish profiteers. I love you and all of my people and I hope you can be cured by the beautiful scientists of truth and humanity. You are classically beautiful and timeless aphrodite and your beau is a true adonis may you live long together.


  103. Jo
    Nov 10, 2011 @ 12:10:00

    Dearest Ellie

    I am so sorry to hear the news.. I have just read your article in the Daily Mail and it brought tears to my eyes. I have just been through the same thing all be it my mother and father. My father passed away on the 3 October 2009 after a long battle with cancer.. He was first diagnosed with Bowel Cancer in early 2000 and he had a full colostomy and was told he was cancer free. But unfortunately dad had a slow growing tumor which was undetected in all his follow up scans. This eventually spread to his lungs and to his brain. I can fully understand what you are saying about the “mouse”. My dad was also seeing things particularly horses in his hospital bed such a shame. He lost his battle with cancer he had every treatment available but alas it wasn’t to be.

    My mum had had a persistent cough for as long as I can remember but she wouldn’t do anything about it. As time went by she was having trouble with her hip. At first the GP said it was a mild case of arthritis. But nothing she took had any effect on her pain. She worked for an NHS Trust as a secretary for Physio and Speech & Language Therapy and one of the Physiotherapist wasn’t happy with what was happening so she referred mum to Orthopaedics at our local hospital and to cut a long story she was diagnosed with cancer. She had to go into hospital in April for a total hip replacement. She did really well and was to have a weeks course of Radiotherapy at Clatterbridge Hospital.

    I noticed that her speech was slurred and couldn’t get her words out and was getting very frustrated and also she too was seeing things. Well I knew the signs too well. It had spread to her brain via her lungs and bones. She declined all chemo and radiotherapy as she had seen what it had done to dad that she would rather die healthy than ill. God bless her. This was diagnosed in June. She was so brave. I would love to tell you all that was going on but would take too long. Mum was 67 and sadly she passed away on the 21 October. I cannot believe that my best friend has gone. I know she is with dad and is pain free and that’s what we wanted. I just hope that you have the strength to be able to walk down the aisle. Will be following your blogs everyday and my family and I are sending you all our love. You will be in our prayers. Take good care of yourself

    Love Jo xxx


  104. Donna Gullick
    Nov 10, 2011 @ 12:12:42

    I have read a few pages of your blog and comments from other readers. I am amazed that there are so many women out there who are young and have or have had breast cancer. I found a lump in my breast about 9 years ago (im now 32) luckily for me it is a cist which I now have drained every 6 months or so when the pain gets too bad. When I found this lump the nurse said she couldn’t find anything but refered me to the hospital anyway. I was told that breast cancer is rare in younger ladies.
    I have since been told also that younger ladies boobs are too firm to have a manogram. Surely there must be some device out there that can screen all women over the age of 18. This could be done in line with a cervical smear test. I will add that I also had pre-cancerous cells on my cervix which I had removed about 8 years ago and now have to have yearly screens.
    Come on all inventors and scientists. Prevention is better than cure.
    I wish you all the luck and happiness. Good luck in your wedding. Positive thoughts xxxxxxx


  105. tina malhotra
    Nov 10, 2011 @ 12:17:40

    have just read your article in the daily mail and was moved to look up your website, not read all of it but wanted to leave you a quick comment, i have not had cancer myself but i know 2 friends who recovered from secondary cancer by using alternative methods, and i have not long returned from the funeral of a family member my own age (45 years) who died of breast cancer so it has been much in my thougths these past few weeks. i am wondering if you have checked out the gerson therapy, there are a couple of free films/documentaries on you tube featuring charlotte gerson and other respected doctors etc, you could also check out the website foodmatters, they have more information and dvd’s available, there is much information out there on the net if you want to go down an alternative path, it is of course much discredited my mainstream doctors because it’s not part of their traning but you might consider it worth a look, many blessings to you and for a long and happy partnership with your beloved, tina xxx


  106. Nav
    Nov 10, 2011 @ 12:20:45


  107. joanne
    Nov 10, 2011 @ 12:32:16

    I just wanted to offer you my love and support at what must be the most terrifing times for you and your partner. I wish you the strength and courage to continue your fight and I pray you get your wish and survive way past your planned wedding date. You are an amazing woman and I wish i had half strenght you have. so during this difficult time when news comes in good or bad, keep that positive outlook because that counts for so much. We could all take some lessons from your story cos no matter how tough life gets there is someone out there who has it so much toughter! any support you need, raising funds for a charity etc i am first in the que to volenteer. I wish you all the best and I look forward to continiingto read your blog and support you throughout your treatment and wedding build up.

    Good luck, lots and lots of love

    Jo xxxx


  108. Cecily
    Nov 10, 2011 @ 12:32:46

    Dear Ellie,

    Do go google “sabah snake grass”. It has helped cured many cancer patients. Do email me if you have any queries.

    Wish you all the best,


  109. Peter
    Nov 10, 2011 @ 12:37:42

    just stumbled across your blog by complete coincidence … am a lawyer from vienna, austria … was very moved by what I read … my mother had very agressive leukemia and she lived for more than 12 years with it which seemed like a miracle … just send you warm and kind thoughts


  110. fallen angel
    Nov 10, 2011 @ 12:43:39

    were are all being targeted by the elites for their eugenics extermination program, please go to ; infowars or


  111. Suzanna Marcus
    Nov 10, 2011 @ 12:51:56

    Dear Eleanor,
    14 Years ago I too was given 6 months to live with invasive breast cancer that had spread to the lymph massively, and here I am today completely cancer free to tell my tale, which I hope will inspire you. After healing myself I wrote a book called “6 Months to Live 10 Years Later” A healing journey and guide to well being, which you may find useful. Its on Amazon USA. Muhammad Ali the World Champ, graciously wrote the foreword..
    This youtube was made by an organization called Essence of Life in my home.

    I hope you find what I say there useful for you.
    I believe deeply that cancer is about making peace, not about fighting a war. War has never really solved anything in our world..
    It is wonderful to know that you have a man by your side who loves you so much, and having a focus on your wedding is such a beautiful plan. Cancer can be a treasure chest if we are only willing to do the inner work beyond the physical treatment, and its a chance to become more aware and discover things that you otherwise would not look into. It’s a kind of wake up call from God to show you that things have to change in your life, and hopefully you will find what those things are. Old patterns are to be left behind, and then comes rebirth.

    May you find your path, your joy and your health,
    God Bless you.
    with love


  112. Heather Royle
    Nov 10, 2011 @ 12:52:05

    Lots of healing enrgy being sent to you from New Zealand! Just read your blog and feel huge amount of empathy for you…wondered have you read “The Journey’ written by Brandon Bays. She had cancer and cracked it and her book is the summary of how she did it and how she explains it is possible to interrupt the process. I would so love you to read it as I know the system she has works and there are now Journey Practioners all over the world. To explain briefly, cells in our body are not very old (our eye reproduces cells within days)so Brandon worked out that cells have memories and those memories can be stored and replicated or changed and renewed. The book explains it far better than I could = anyhow I think it essential reading and education for us all and so hope it helps and goes to giving you a long and happy life full of joy! Bestest wishes Heatherx


  113. Rach
    Nov 10, 2011 @ 12:57:13

    You are so inspirational and brave and you write so beautifully. You and your partner sound like a lovely couple. I hope you have the most fabulous wedding, you truly do deserve to. Wishing you so much happiness x


  114. Jules
    Nov 10, 2011 @ 12:58:40

    Ellie, thank you for sharing your story. I can’t even begin to understand what you are dealing with. Your courage and determination though is extraordinary! I’ve always believed in the power of positive thinking and you must continue to no matter how bad any day gets. Thank you for reminding me of how sacred life is and how we must live for every moment. You are in my thoughts and prayers.

    Jules xxx


  115. Terry Callow
    Nov 10, 2011 @ 12:58:57

    Hi Ellie, I hope you get this as I’m not up to all this new technology and am what you call a silver surfer? My wife and I was going through a rough time when we thought she had lung cancer and I got in touch with a man called Rick Simpson he has found what he believes to be a cure for cancer and I’ve been on his web site and it certainly seems to be the case. He has produced a video on you tube called “Run from the cure” PLEASE go on to the you tube site and see the video. I wish you and your fiance Tom all the very best and hope this will work for you? GOD BLESS! Terry Callow


  116. Suzanna Marcus
    Nov 10, 2011 @ 12:59:30

    PS I gave you the youtube with Hebrew translations, there is also one with Arabic, but here is the original with English.


  117. Jo1331
    Nov 10, 2011 @ 13:08:10

    I have just read the article in the Daily Mail and logged onto read your blog. Regrettably, and I truly wished that I could say or do something more than say how moved I am by your attitude to life. My heart goes out to you, Tom and your families. You deserve a really big stroke of luck and I pray that it comes your way, much love and my very best wishes. xxxx


  118. starchild
    Nov 10, 2011 @ 13:11:18

    Saw your story in the paper and wanted to help, and now i see i wasn’t the first!

    If you want to have a chance of beating the cancer watch this link, stop listening to the ‘doctors’ and seek out the information that could save your life.

    There is much being kept hidden from the masses. Two years ago if someone had told me about this i’d have told them to piss off & stop raising false hope.

    But the witnesses are too many and the evidence too compelling.

    I wish you the best.


  119. Rajni
    Nov 10, 2011 @ 13:11:50

    Dear Ellie,
    In the bible,Mathew chapter 8,
    verse 17 says “He himself took our sickness and carried away our diseases”.
    verse 7 says “I will go and make him well”
    Sirach chapter 38,verse 9 says ‘Pray to the Lord and He will make you well.’

    These words gave me great strength when my husband was diagnosed with Leukaemia last year.He was just 33 when he was diagnosed with the illness and as you could imagine we were shattered.The first thing he told me after being told about the illness was “I havent had enough of u n our son yet” and we held each other and wept like anything.We felt our world crumbling down as we were so much in love with each other even after 8 years of married life,i couldn’t think of a future without him by my side,we had promised each other we will grow old together n never leave each other’s side but on that fateful day it was like our life had come to a standstill.But we did not give up hope and suddenly a thought struck me,all my catholic upbringing prompted me to turn to our loving father in heaven.I took hold of a bible and the above verses was what we came across and since then there was no looking back, i just told Jesus,You are a great healer and i place my husband in your hand and from now on YOU and not men will be working your miracle in him and healing him.My hubby being a software consultant and we being young and successful never ever thought much of the power of prayer,we always relied on modern science and technologies and like the modern generation we were far from practising our faith as we should. I asked everyone i knew to pray for him to Jesus and together with the help of all the prayers he went into remission after the 1st chemo itself,so im pretty sure it was that moment of trust in Jesus that healed my hubby.There is nothing impossible for Jesus so turn to Jesus and say the prayer that Jeremiah said,

    Jeremiah chapter 17,verse 14 says “Lord heal me and i will be completely well;rescue me and i will be perfectly safe,You are the one I praise”.

    Its going to be 2 years and we still continue to say these verse together and it has given us great strength.Please dont patronise yourself by saying you must have done something terrible in your past life,its not a time for self pity my darling,its a time to gather yourself together and try to be postive.A positive mind has a lot to do with beating cancer.On one of the worst days during my hubby’s chemotherapy days,when even i thought we were loosing our battle to cancer,i still remember what my hubby said -” trust in Jesus,i believe He is healing me,dont doubt in ur faith,if you have put your trust in Him then He will surely work wonders.Im not giving up on Him and im sure He will never give up on me”.Jesus never gave up on us and im sure He will never give up on anyone who places his trust in Him.

    After reading your article in daily mail,i thought it wouldnt be fare if i didnt share my experience with you.Both my hubby and i would say it wasnt the medical science that gave our lives back to us but it was our Lord Jesus Christ.The reason i was prompted to write this letter to you is the amount of love you and your partner share.It just reminded me that in the past 8 years there is never been a single day when we havent said I love you to each other.Here is wishing you with all my heart all the very best for your battle against the cancer moster and happiness always.Love


  120. Gemma
    Nov 10, 2011 @ 13:14:56


    I have just read your entire blog and managed to stay dry eyed (just) until the last entry.

    I have faith that you will find the strength within yourself to continue fighting. I can’t imagine how hard it must be but I am sure your amazing determination and courage will shine through and once again tell the stupid cancer where to go!

    I have always said that if one day I have a daughter I will name her Ellie, my favourite name – if a daughter of mine had even half the beauty and courage you have, I would be so proud.

    I believe only half the worlds problems can be solved by science, and the other half by people like you.

    Sending you millions of get well wishes and looking forward to the wedding pictures.



  121. kris
    Nov 10, 2011 @ 13:18:10

    I just read your article on the daily mail website and HAD to leave a comment on how brave you are and how proud I am of you. I actually couldn’t believe it. Your cancer seems to spread but you fight back every time. I honestly don’t know how you do it. The wedding proposal seemed so lovely and romantic and I hope u live the longest and most prosperous life you can with the remaining time you have left which is hopefully Years! God Bless You x


  122. Jessica
    Nov 10, 2011 @ 13:24:34


    Your strength and determination is truly amazing. Life is so unfair. I wish you the best of luck, and send you lots of love.

    Best Warm Wishes, Jessica


  123. victoria watkin-jones
    Nov 10, 2011 @ 13:41:43

    Ellie – I found a lump a few years back and went thru all the tests and fortunately for me it was good news. On the days up to the results however the enormity of the outcome going the other way was just overwhelming. I hope I would have been as brave as you if it had.

    I would love you to get in touch if I can help with your wedding,

    Best of wishes to you both xx


  124. Kathryn Jeffery
    Nov 10, 2011 @ 13:41:46

    I just read your Daily Mail article. Inspirational stuff. Enjoy your wedding planning. Love, strength and best wishes from another former Miss Jeffery, we must be related. xxx


  125. Christine Barnes
    Nov 10, 2011 @ 13:42:32

    Hi Ellie I was so touched by your story in today’s Daily Mail. I am director of a new award-winning bridal label, Donna Lee Designs.. My co-director and designer is Donna – she too was extremely moved by your story, especially as it resonates with her and her mother’s ongoing battle with cancer. I’m not sure if you’ve yet found your dress, but we would love to offer you one of ours. All our current dresses can be seen on our website . We will have more styles next spring, in our Secret Garden Collection – some of which I think would appeal to your love of vintage. Donna would be happy to meet up with you and discuss and advise.

    Wishing you all the very best


  126. jeannine nye
    Nov 10, 2011 @ 13:47:27

    don’t give up despite the recent bad news, there will be a way of coping with the love of your family and lovely fiance.. to write and put into words all that you are feeling not only helps you, but countless others I am sure.. we are all praying and hoping for a miracle that will allow you get married to the man of your dreams,.. chin up, all the best xxJeannine


  127. Jess
    Nov 10, 2011 @ 13:49:08

    Hi Eleanor, left you a comment on the Daily Mail website (‘Manhattan Mommy’ oh the shame lol!). Anyway I came here to say once again that you’re in my prayers, praying that you defy the odds and your partner is in my prayers also, praying for him to remain strong. We are about the same age, and I went to the breast clinic for thickening recently, I was worried and had ignored it for months being in NYC without health insurance. It turned out to be a ‘folded’ implant. Yes I got two silicone bags stuck on my chest at 21, I’m now having them replaced as well as an uplift in December. Wish I’d never got them, but been told got to replace them unless I’m happy to look deformed now. I will keep looking in at your blog, I’ve been on MacMillan’s site for two years now reading about cancer (namely bowel) since my father died exactly 2 years ago to this day. Was it a sign from him that your article popped up in DM today? It certainly helped me set my priorities straight once again. Some of my family think my reading cancer blogs is morbid and depressing, but I find it invaluable knowledge, it helps clarify my mind, set REAL priorities as a wife and mother and also they offer medical knowledge and just hammer home that you must see a doctor at the slightest hint that something’s amiss. My husband has no health insurance right now in NY and sorting that out is in my top three priorities for 2012. Your fiance is SO handsome by the way, I don’t normally find caucasian men attractive but he caught my eye (my husband’s Dominican). You are very attractive yourself obviously and to carry off the short haircut, wearing little or no make-up in photos – your natural beauty shows. Re alternative healing there’s someone’s husband on MacMillan with bowel cancer who’s been kept alive for about 4 years with the help of both chemo and ‘Tibetan medicine’ I think, his wife swears by it. Also hope you’ve looked at all angles like drug trials – my father was sent for one at the Bobby Robson cancer centre Newcastle Upon Tyne, but as the cancer had spread to his liver, by the time he got there his liver function was deemed too poor to be able to take these drugs suggested. Is someone pushing all angles for you? I was away in NY and deeply regret not being home in Newcastle earlier to push palliative treatments for my father. I think the key is to never stop trying because when my father was told no more treatment, that’s the time the cancer really seemed to get him down and change him. Keep pushing, are you raising money – is there a link where we can donate at all? Thanks for writing this blog, Jess x


  128. Maria
    Nov 10, 2011 @ 14:11:19

    I have just read a story about you and your fiance on-line and how you are planning your wedding for June 2012. I can’t wait to read the story about your wedding!!! You are a complete stranger and I had never heard about you until today, but you have made me think about what is important in life. What an inspiration! Keep fighting and keep planning xxx


  129. Lisa Henshaw
    Nov 10, 2011 @ 14:17:59

    I stumbled across your blog after reading an article about you and your partner Tom in the Daily Mail. Having recently got married to my partner, it bought a tear to my eye, and made me truly appreciate you never know what it around the corner.
    I can honestly say that you really are an inspiration to all those people out there currently suffering from cancer.
    Although I personally cannot understand the way this cruel disease can make a person feel, my Nana was recently diagnosed with liver cancer.
    Reading your blog has given myself and my family strength and hope that good things do happen (in this dark time) and that just because my Nana has been given a bleak outlook, there is hope, and we have to remain strong.
    I felt compelled to leave you a message, firstly to wish you all the luck in the world from one stranger to another, but secondly to thankyou.
    You really are an amazing woman.

    Lisa- Nottingham x x x


  130. Sri Sarma
    Nov 10, 2011 @ 14:39:41

    You are brave and I am sure you will win your battle!
    I just wanted you to explore alternative medicines like Ayurveda which is available all over India and the world. Please google for Ayurveda.
    All the best.


  131. Emily B
    Nov 10, 2011 @ 14:40:51

    Ellie and Tom,

    I was so warmed to hear about you both planning for your wedding in the Daily Mail article, despite the illness that you are bravely battling together. You have each other’s love and that will carry you through the more difficult times.
    You are both in my prayers and thoughts, and a big shout out has to go out for you both, not only through fighting the illness, but staying strong for each other, positively looking forward to the future and being each others soulmates – forever.

    Emily, Hampshire


  132. ellie
    Nov 10, 2011 @ 14:42:56

    you are amazing, never give up, remember you are amazing…..Livestrong….you are beautiful and have a wonderful support system, and are extremely go girl land beat this horrible disease….you are an inspiration to all of us who have walked the same path as you and to those who in the future will walk own the same path.

    Ellie ….16 years survivor ovarian cancer


  133. Nicky
    Nov 10, 2011 @ 14:53:08

    Hi Ellie,
    I read your article in the Daily Mail today while I was eating my lunch and I have to say it moved me more than anything. I, like your lovely fiance, work in television and this year we made a film for BBC3 about a young boy with amazing courage who had terminal cancer. That experience changed my life, and myself and the office have been trying to raise lots of money for Cancer Research through various half marathons and walks – if there is a charity that you support in particular, please let us know as we would love to help. It’s a small thing but I just wanted to let you know that we are all thinking of you – even if we just know you from an article in a paper.


  134. Janet McClellan
    Nov 10, 2011 @ 15:00:49

    Keep Fighting Ellie!!! just read the article in the Daily Mail! hope you’re feeling a little better today – just keep thinking about your gorgeous wedding to Tom next year – that must be a massive incentive to get well!!! Will be thinking about you lots take care Janet x


  135. Keicie
    Nov 10, 2011 @ 15:04:49

    You are turely inspirational!!! Your an amazing woman, you have such great strength and courage!!! I wish you and your partner all the happiness in the world!!!
    “smile and the world will smile with you!”


  136. Jane
    Nov 10, 2011 @ 15:29:29

    Hi there only just started to read your blog, I wish you all the luck in the world, you seem a very positive person, stay strong (I know easy for me to say your thinking) I am a strong believer in positive attitude. I will stay reading and my thoughts are with you xx


  137. Jenn
    Nov 10, 2011 @ 15:56:58

    Hey Ellie,

    I read ur article from Daily Mail today and I want you to know that ur amazing, just amazing =) I am going to follow your blog until you walk down the aisle with Tom next June and seriously until you grow old with Tom, toothless and wrinkles =) I am going to read your blog for the longest time because I belief you will be able to write it for the longest time.

    Just today I tot to myself, what a shitty day, my boss picked on me again, great! I dread coming home because I have to face my crazy mom in law and I have no privacy at home. I often feel like I am my own prisoner at home. I am also going through a life crisis which resulted in daily fights with my hubby and at some point, I hated his sight. I wake up angry thinking why can’t I be richer, or prettier, or slimmer? I sleep angry thinking oh another dreadful day at work tomorrow.

    When I read what you’re ‘ going thru, I told myself, Jenn enough self pity and be grateful. Because of you Ellie, I will change myself, because of you Ellie, I will do things I never do, because of you Ellie, I will live my life like there’s no tomorrow, because of you Ellie, I will kiss my hubby and tell him I love him whenever I can, because of you Ellie, I will count all the blessings in life. I will pray for your recovery. And I pray that the headlines for tomorrow’s paper shouts a cure for cancer found! I know you will recover. BIG hugs to you + Tom.


  138. Kate
    Nov 10, 2011 @ 16:50:53

    I found your blog on Facebook and would just like to say – Get Well Soon. Be brave and become stronger everyday and once you’ve over come this ‘crap’ continue writing because its truely wondful. You’ve got talent girl!
    All the best
    Sydney Aus. xxx


  139. Amelia soegijono
    Nov 10, 2011 @ 16:52:09

    Dear Ellie,
    I came across your beautiful story at dailymail, it leads me to your blog and the honesty and positivity of your story has truly touched my heart so deep. You have embraced the fragility of life with such grace… You have left me in tears for the past hours I spent reading your story..not because I feel sad but truly because I feel so so so so proud of your courage and sweet spirit and because i truly believed that you have set such a beautiful example to all of us. Ellie, please be encouraged that like everyone else whom you have touched, we are all believing in a miracle for you…

    Ellie, I have tried to look for your personal email but I couldn’t find it anywhere so I figured leaving a comment would be the only way to get in touch with you… I would like to give you a gift, I hope that you would please drop me an email… I will be praying everyday that we will all see you walk down that aisle Ellie!

    Much much much love, prayers and blessings from Australia

    Amelia x


  140. Emma isted
    Nov 10, 2011 @ 17:08:15

    Just started reading your blog after reading your story on Mail on line.
    You are an amazing woman and I wish you and your amazing man all the luck and happiness in the world. This happened to my mother in law and my aunty.
    You have inspired me to enjoy live more and enjoy my children more.
    Sending you lots of luck and happiness.
    Hope you have a wonderful Christmas.
    Emma x


  141. M
    Nov 10, 2011 @ 17:21:22

    Ellie: I lost my lovely husband a year ago to terminal cancer and it has been the hardest thing I’ve ever had to face. Like you he was so brave and positive even in the face of death. The end was very peaceful though and our last moments together were beautiful. Cherish all the moments you have. Love each other and know that love is eternal. A year later and I am ok, it still hurts but he is ALWAYS with me – no matter what direction my life takes. I wish you so much love for this part of the journey and the next. I hope you and Tom have many more happy years together. Much love xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx


  142. Susan C
    Nov 10, 2011 @ 17:22:04

    Hi Ellie
    I happened upon your blog by accident and have sat here for the past hour and a half captivated by your frankness, your attitude and your story. Your strength is remarkable and now that I’ve ‘signed up’ to your blog I look forward to years of reading your writings – both as a blog, and once you’ve kicked cancer for good, the books and stories that you will go on to write!
    I will keep you in my prayers.


  143. sarah Birch
    Nov 10, 2011 @ 17:23:24

    Just started to read your blog and you seem to be an amazing person I wish you all the luck in the world and you WILL make that wedding in June.You both sound like fantastic people and really deserve each other I will be thinking of you. xxxx


  144. wendy
    Nov 10, 2011 @ 18:16:42

    Thank you for writing this blog. I am not in your position or know someone who is, but 5 years ago my husband was diagnosed with poorly differentiated squamous cell carcinoma. A tumour on his tonsil had spread to lymph nodes in his neck and so he had to have facial disection, radiotherapy and chemo for months. Like you and your family, we were terrified. He was only 30 and our daughter 6 weeks old. I looked for any bit of information I could find and found a blog like yours by a man named Raph.

    His words were frank and honest but often filled with humour – I read his blog like I had read novels, inhaling every word he wrote. My husband was told to get his affairs in order but, 5 years on the cancer has gone! I feel guilty saying that to you – we are blessed while you are suffering. But you have to know that you must never give up hope and what you are sharing with everyone is soo important. The good, the bad – it’s what the doctors don’t tell you but what you need to hear. Because I was better prepared for how the treatment would affect my husband I felt I coped better and was stronger for him.

    You have a beautiful heart and a hunky man 🙂 may you have a wonderful wedding next year and many more soppy moments with your husband!



  145. deirdre keohan
    Nov 10, 2011 @ 18:18:02

    Hi eleanor,

    Have you heard of Low Dose Naltraxone for reducing tumours etc. Not passed by the Irish Government but passed by the FDA in America – Google it and then email me



  146. Nisha
    Nov 10, 2011 @ 18:19:12

    I am so touched reading about your incredible journey. You are a very brave and courageous woman. You should be proud of the life you have lived and live every second as if it were your last. To be honest with you, I have been feeling really down lately, and reading your blog and your story on has truly touched my heart and has made me re-realize the blessings that I have in my life, and how fortunate many of us are for our health and the wonderful people that surround us. I will pass on your website to my friends, who I’m sure like me will be touched by your story. xoxo.


  147. phil
    Nov 10, 2011 @ 18:49:29

    have just read your article in the mail and it brought tears to my eyes i’m not sure it helps but my thoughts are with you and your husband to be. life is not fair i know as i went though it with my wife but i urge you to lve life to the full as none of us know how long we have and if i’ts any help i will remember you both in my prayers
    god bless you both and live well
    phil r.


  148. Erika McGinnes
    Nov 10, 2011 @ 19:03:56

    Dear Ellie,

    Paolo Coelho – my favourite author said in ‘The Alchemist’ – if you want something in life, all the universe will conspire to help you achieve it. May your universe conspire to see you reach your wedding and beyond!

    Bags of good thoughts.


  149. Lorraine
    Nov 10, 2011 @ 19:05:29

    I just wanted to say what an inspiration you are and by being brave enough to share your experience with others it not only help’s other cancer patients but their families,friends and all around them. It is right to talk about this disease and not to hide the experience that is part of the treatment, I work in the NHS and have heard good and and bad report’s of people’s experiences with different doctor’s and how they deal with you make’s such a difference. lots of luck n love to you and your familyx


  150. Jackie
    Nov 10, 2011 @ 19:11:18

    I have just read your article in Daily Mail and your blog and you are inspirational. I too have been diagnosed with secondary breast cancer this year and can understand all of the emotions that you are going through. But I believe in a positive attitude and am determined to be here next year to see my children graduate next year and I will now be reading your blog and am looking forward to seeing your wedding photos next year. You have also given me confidence to go and seek a second opinion and Prof Hope sounds amazing – I will try to find him myself! You are amazing, keep fighting and my thoughts are with you. Jackie xxx


  151. lola
    Nov 10, 2011 @ 19:13:18

    dear ellie, i survived pancreatic cancer 7 years ago, and i think everything went well because i like you had a positive attitude, having your wedding to organise gives you something to aim for,nothing is definite in this life ,have a lovely wedding you WILL make it, none of us know how long we have got so live each day to the full and god bless you xX


  152. Charli
    Nov 10, 2011 @ 19:15:05

    Ellie I just wanted to tell you how amazing you are and what an inspiration you are. I am 27, also keeping a blog on wordpress but mine is about travelling and living in Canada for a year, I feel so pathetic after reading your blog. I wish you could enjoy being a regular 28 year old instead of having this horrible disease but your attitude is brilliant and I truely believe your luck will change.
    You have such a positive outlook on life and I can’t wait to see the photographs of your wedding in June.
    Reading this has reinforced to me how precious life is. Good on you for not accepting your apparent fate from your initial doctors and showing them you’re made of stronger stuff.
    You are so so brave and I will be following your blog from now on until I read that you’re all better and living a happy family life with Tom and your children!
    Lots of love Charli xx


  153. Dede
    Nov 10, 2011 @ 19:17:02

    Hi Ellie
    Well you really are a remarkable woman i must say, i am wondering have you ever heard of a book called Run From The Cure, by Rick Simpson? also if you go on Youtube and type that in you will see many videos on it, Who knows it may help, but I send you all my love and prayers for a bright future,keep positive and you will fight this
    Love dede xx


  154. Luna
    Nov 10, 2011 @ 19:32:28

    My dear Ellie,

    I came across your story in a newspaper, then I entered your blog. When I saw the shine in your eyes, I felt you so close and I new I can connect with you and send you positive energy you need now. My thoughts might sound unusual to you but believe me love has an incredible power. I am so glad you have someone with you like Tom and I am so grateful for him, because he gives you one of the most crucial remedy you need.
    My advise to you is DON’T STOP believing in your future but STOP thinking of hopelessness. I know it easy to say, but please try it. Spend lot of time with Tom, go out into the nature a lot, spend as much time as you can away form where you normally are. And eat lot of cabbage. A LOT!!!! I know Ellie it all might sound ridiculous but please don’t think it is! The most important you try to be in the nature as much as you can, and if possible, with Tom. Please send him my good wishes.

    I love you a lot.



  155. Tracy
    Nov 10, 2011 @ 20:10:14

    Ellie, I read your story on the dailymail website and headed over here for updates.

    You inspire me so much through your strength and humour. I’m in awe of the way you have faced this head on and refused to give in and give up.

    Then I read the latest post on the 3rd November and cried.
    Don’t give up now. There is no such thing as a fight you’re fated to lose. You can beat this simply by not letting it get you down.

    My Grandmother developed bowel cancer in her late 50’s (much older than you I know) and it spread like wildfire through her body. No treatment could stop it because it just refused to stop. Her doctor gave her six months at the maximum, but my Grandma told him right there and then that she wasn’t ready to go yet and wasn’t letting some illness make that choice for her. She was determined to spend time with every grandchild and child she had before she gave in.
    Unfortunately at that point she had no contact with me… Grandma held on for another 5 years before she got to spend time with me.

    It goes to show that if you are determined, you can defy all of the odds.

    Looking forward to seeing your wedding photographs next year if you share them here. If not I’ll look forward to you telling us all about it.

    Keep going Ellie.

    Tracy xx


  156. Christopher
    Nov 10, 2011 @ 20:21:45

    Hi Eleanor,

    Read your story today in the a Mail and found it very touching.

    Your stories, strength and positive attitude are a huge inspiration to me and i expect everyone else who reads your posts.

    I am a photographer based in Yorkshire, I know you are planning on getting married in June, If you have a date in mind and if i am still available i would like to offer to shoot your wedding for free. Take a look at the weddings on my blog and feel free to get in touch

    Chris x


  157. Dan Lawrence
    Nov 10, 2011 @ 20:26:47

    What an alive little corner of the interweb you’ve carved out here, Ellie. Written off? I can’t imagine the “you” I’m reading ever being written off, heaven or no heaven!

    Warm thoughts and wishes for you,

    Dan (Lawrence) x


    Nov 10, 2011 @ 21:15:28

    Dear Ellie,

    When I was diagnosed w/ cervical cancer last September (had hysterectomy in November, 2010) I did all the research I could do and ultimately have done a combination of “Western” and “Alternative” medicine. The more I read, the more I am convinced that cancer is the body’s cry for help and the only “cure” is to allow the body to heal itself. I was very fortunate in that I was able to spend 2 weeks at Optimum Health Institute in Lemon Grove, San Diego in California where I completely detoxed my body (all raw vegan food & wheatgrass juice) and learned how to de-stress, meditate and change my diet to allow healing. I encourage you to check out a nutritionist friend’s (the one who recommended OHI to me) website: where she details her experience with breast cancer. Anna was able to reverse her breast cancer and many others have as well by boosting their immune system and giving the body the nutrients it needs to heal. Changing your diet is key and detoxing for at least 6 weeks to restore the body’s balance. Western medicine (slash/burn/poison) is actually much worse for our body than the cancer itself! There are some very illuminating videos out there I also recommend like “Curing Cancer from the Inside Out” and “Money Driven Medicine” which I encourage you to view. They are available on either or blockbuster or netflix. Totally worth seeing! A related video (autoimmune disease) that is available on is “Fat, Sick and Nearly Dead” which is a heart-warming story of one man’s quest to reverse his horrible condition by juicing. I want you to know that there is another way but you will have to realize that the cancer industry is so firmly entrenched here in the US that it is very difficult to find out the truth. Many people have to go to clinics outside of the US to get the help they really need but have successfully reversed their cancer. It’s at least worth investigating since you’ve already tried the traditional approach. I read every book I could get my hands on as well. Another resource is Dr. Adiel Tel-Oren who has done extensive research and advocates the whole food plant based diet. His website is: and he also has many youtube videos. Don’t just trust everything the doctors tell you because they are limited in their knowledge of nutrition and natural healing. Realize that it’s in their best interest to give us expensive, insurance billable treatments! Realize also that chemotherapy and radiation are themselves cancer causing and that is the truth. How can the body heal when it is assaulted by poison? It can’t and the cancer will just spread because these treatments just weaken the immune system.

    Here is a list of books I have read which may offer some insight to you:
    “Love, Medicine and Miracles” by Bernie Siegel, MD
    “Peace, Love and Healing” by Bernie Siegel, MD
    “Cancer as a Turning Point” by Lawrence LeShan, PhD
    “Knockout: Interviews with Doctors Who are Curing Cancer (and how to prevent getting it in the first place)” by Suzanne Somers
    “12 Steps to Raw Foods” by Victoria Boutenko (check out her website: & read how her entire family reversed their serious health conditions)
    “Eating Well For Optimum Health: The Essential Guide to Bringing Health and Pleasure Back to Eating” by Andrew Weil, MD
    “Questioning Chemotherapy” by Ralph Moss, PhD
    “Herbs Against Cancer” by Ralph Moss, PhD
    “Outsmart Your Cancer: Alternative Non-Toxic Treatments that Work” by Tanya Pierce
    “Natural Strategies for Cancer Patients” by Russell L. Blaylock, MD
    “Life Over Cancer: The Block Center Program for Integrative Treatment” by Keith I. Block, MD

    My heart goes out to you in this difficult time. I hope some of my suggestions will be helpful. Keep a good positive attitude, do the research and eat as well as you possibly can. I have been clear from cancer now for about a year and will continue to learn and share what has worked for me. God bless you!

    Sincerely, Lauren


    • Luna
      Nov 10, 2011 @ 22:28:03

      My dear Ellie,

      I cannot agree more with wordsmith96!!!!! Please listen to her and DON NOT RELY only on western cures and therapies. What she is offering and suggesting is TRUE.

      Tom, if you read this, please help Ellie to make the best her body needs.



  159. Maureen Frater
    Nov 10, 2011 @ 21:17:02

    I know of many people who have been cured of cancer by going on the raw food diet. Ihave cured myself of diabetes by eating this way, LOok on raw food websites or read “The China Study” by T. Colin Campbell. I wish you all the best in your life. a book by Markus Rothkrantz. He is a raw foodist whowe father was cured of terminal prostate cancer by eating this way.


  160. Mary
    Nov 10, 2011 @ 21:25:24

    Dear Ellie,
    I stumbled across your blog and just wanted to say what a remarkable
    woman you are! You will be kept in our thoughts and in our daily prayers.
    Mary ( N.C./USA)


  161. Vics Cripps
    Nov 10, 2011 @ 21:32:09

    Hi Ellie,
    You are such an inspirational person, stay focused and though you are feeling low now from what I’ve read you will bounce back. Hey you have a wedding to organise, how exciting!!!!! At my wedding we had cancer research pins as our favours, this was to represent Russ’ father who had died 15 years before from cancer and we felt it completely appropriate. The best thing from the wedding and the one thing everyone still talks about was the ice-cream van I had arranged to be at the church gates when we came out, everyone loved it. I don’t know quite why I’m telling you all this I’m just hoping you can focus on next June and not get to down!!!!

    My favourite saying is by Helen Keller:
    ‘The best and most beautiful things in the world can not be seen or even touched, they must be felt within in the heart’
    Love it.
    Stay strong, keep cuddling lots and if like me enjoy the girl porn now (wedding magazines!!) it’s legit!!
    Take care and know that my I’ll be thinking of you.
    The waffler, Vics x


  162. Anne Rea
    Nov 10, 2011 @ 22:12:55

    Dear Eleanor I have just read your story in the Daily Mail and felt I had to wish you good health and happiness! You will be in my prayers every day. I look forward to seeing your wedding photos in the Mail! May God bless you and keep you healthy.
    Anne x


  163. Cat
    Nov 10, 2011 @ 22:26:54

    Ellie , I checked out your blog after reading your story in the paper. I just wanted to show my support and I will be praying for you! Your story really touched me as so many of us waste time and our lives complaining over silly things and then there is others like you fighting for time. I currently work with young child who fought cancer and all the odds. She gives me inspiration everyday and I feel lucky to get to spend time with such a special girl. She has been given the all clear and is getting on with life and all the activities a nine year old should. So basically I hope this gives you a little more hope and even one smile extra. You can do it and prove the doctors wrong !!! Keep up the fight!! I’m sure you have given a little comfort to so many people going through cancer!!
    You are a true role model for this generation!!
    Keep strong! xx


  164. Stacey
    Nov 10, 2011 @ 22:32:28

    Dear Eleanor
    I hope you dont mind me emailing, I lost my beautiful 12 year old daughter to cancer in march this year and I read your story in the Mail today. I believe 100% that whether you win or lose this fight it’s down to luck – AND YOU COULD BE THE LUCKY ONE – so please keep fighting and don’t ever give up. I wish you and all your family ever ounce of luck. God Bless


  165. Linda precious gran
    Nov 10, 2011 @ 23:04:16

    hi Ellie,i have been v ill for over 30yrs,in severe pain the last10yrs,so i understand how you must feel.Remember ATTITUDE determines ALTITUDE and DO NOT underestimate the STRENGTH of the HUMAN SPIRIT.People often ask me how i do it,well thats EASY,because i WANT TO .My PRAYERS are with you,i wish you strenghth.Sent with LOVE x


  166. Ellie B
    Nov 10, 2011 @ 23:26:41

    You are an inspiration. It’s incredible to read about your strength and determination in the face of everything. I truly believe that positivity and hope makes a difference. Keep smiling. X


  167. sheila
    Nov 10, 2011 @ 23:39:29

    Me and my son will pray for you each and every night…


  168. Rachel
    Nov 10, 2011 @ 23:39:31


    I was so sorry to read of your plight. I wonder if you have considered cutting out dairy products. There is a book by Professor Jane Plant called “Your Life In Your Hands”. She has had cancer five times The original tumour was in her breast but the cancer spread to other parts of her body. She cut out dairy products after being diagnosed with cancer for the fifth time. She was told she had only a few months to live twenty odd years ago. She did have chemotherapy as well but cutting out dairy products helped her greatly. She has a website –

    I hope her book can be of help to you.



  169. Lydia
    Nov 10, 2011 @ 23:47:38

    Dear Ellie,

    I really admire the way you are handling this, hang in there!!
    Your story really touched me and gave a different perspective in my life currenlty.

    Regarding alternative medicine I wanted to ask if you have tried “Snake Poison” which is not allowed for sale in EU but used extensively in North America. Please goggle and if you are interested I will be happy to provide you with more information.

    I wish you and Tom the best of luck in your future life TOGETHER!!


  170. David myerscough
    Nov 10, 2011 @ 23:53:10

    Hi Eleanor just read your story in the daily mail ! I was very touched and loved the beautiful pic of you and handsome Tom you make a beautiful couple and I pray you get your big day next year and not a day sooner!!!!!! Best wishes David x


  171. Cathryn Holness
    Nov 11, 2011 @ 00:16:47

    My Little girl is called Eleanor and your story has truly touched me. You are an amazing strong woman and are an inspiration to me. You are in my thoughts and prayers xx


  172. lele360
    Nov 11, 2011 @ 01:28:58

    i fell on your blog through a site that posted your story. I’ve been reading many of your entries and i hope and pray that you are able to keep telling cancer to F off! Did you ever look into coming to American for any treatment?


  173. Jonathan
    Nov 11, 2011 @ 01:40:16


    You’re an incredibly tough and beautiful person with an outstanding attitude that could teach us all a thing or two.

    May God bless you and make his face shine upon you,


  174. Aurore Jones
    Nov 11, 2011 @ 01:44:03

    *****You don’t have to die of cancer*****

    G. Edward Griffin – A World Without Cancer – The Story Of Vitamin B17

    Philip Day- Cancer: Why We’re Still Dying to Know the Truth


  175. Aurore Jones
    Nov 11, 2011 @ 01:48:07

    A cancer survivor using B17 Freddie and Hannah 01179591654. God Bless


  176. Dawn
    Nov 11, 2011 @ 02:24:02

    You are one inspirng lady. truly x x x keep going, where there’s hope, there’s life…. always, my love to you and all the good people around you. x


  177. Jenni
    Nov 11, 2011 @ 04:08:29

    And if I you didn’t hear what I was really trying saying its that your blood amazing and inspirational.. Keep enjoying your life don’t give up Xxxx


  178. Heini
    Nov 11, 2011 @ 08:43:28


    you are such a brave person, thank you for sharing your story. You will be in my prayers. Don´t give up, as long as there is hope there is another chance.
    Wish you all the best.

    Heini xx


  179. Tina
    Nov 11, 2011 @ 09:08:02

    You are a amazing inspirational lady keep that postive outlook you have Don’t give up, everyone on here is behind you and we will all be waiting to see your wedding pictures. Best wishes to you and your wonderful partner Tom you will both be in my thoughts constantly and I wish you both the strength and courage to get through this together. Take care love Tina xxx


  180. RM
    Nov 11, 2011 @ 09:26:04

    I’m the daughter of a mother who, too, was diagnosed at a very young age and tangoed with the Devil’s biy-atch for a decade before succumbing to its footwork. Fight on Ellie Jeffery. Fight with the dignity, pride and not least spirit your wonderful and poignant words possess. Get your skinny ass in that meringue next year and run down that aisle to marry your hottie. May the force be with you Ellie Jeffery.


  181. Em
    Nov 11, 2011 @ 10:37:41

    Hi Ellie,
    I have just read your story in the Daily Mail which really moved me. What an inspiration you are. Your strength and courage and general positive outlook will certainly help you with this journey. You are such a bright and sunny person who has dealt with so much already. I’m really not sure I would cope in such a optimistic way if I were in your position.
    My Grandad was diagnosed with Cancer and died before I was born and the Doctors gave him 3 months to live. My Nan never told him it was Cancer because she knew he would give up. He lived for a further 18mths before he succumbed to it. He was 61, You are young and so strong and determined, I am sure you will fight this with every ounce in you and fulfil your dreams.
    I would like to help bring your dreams of your wedding to life. I run my own wedding statiionery business and assuming you havent sorted out your stationery yet, I would like to give you all the stationery you need for your big day with my compliments. Just contact me at and let me know the sort of thing you have in mind and we will sort it all out for you.
    Sending you all the luck and love in the world.
    Em xx


  182. grace
    Nov 11, 2011 @ 11:04:21

    Dear Ellie
    i thank God for your life. I read about you from yesterdays daily mail. The God I serve will give you the strength to pull through and I will always remember you in my prayers. I do not have cancer, i had a history of retinal haemmorage that is internal bleeding in the eye. i also received treatment over the years, my vision was not really good and i met a health practitioner who advised me to try raw food and juicing greens and it really helped and I am fully recovered. I would like you to contact him for appointment. His name is Derin Bepo and his number is 07507772858


  183. jane
    Nov 11, 2011 @ 11:34:46

    I really hope you can beat this. x


  184. Marlene
    Nov 11, 2011 @ 11:57:59

    Hi Ellie,
    Phil Calverts mum here.
    John was at Phils last time we were there. He told me about this site
    but have just found it – thanks to the Daily Mail article.
    My husbands sister was diagnosed with cancer some 5 years ago.
    She had it in her bones and other parts.
    The consultant offered her a treatment from Italy – it was the only
    one available to her. The normal treatment would have been to
    severe as she was 63.
    5 years later she is still in remission and enjoys life to the full
    even smoking her cigarettes.
    So never say never – stay strong and I look forward to seeing
    your beautiful wedding photographs next June.
    Marlene Calvert


  185. Srie
    Nov 11, 2011 @ 12:08:19

    you are so lucky to have a man like that.. who stands by your side all the time with all the pain. just like the way you have won your man.. you will win this game too.. don’t worry… we all wish you well and the courage to be strong and healthy… all the blessings.. XX


  186. Tracy Doyle
    Nov 11, 2011 @ 12:13:07

    You are incredible. Keep taking the green shit and fight this f*cker every single step of the way! God bless x


  187. Christopher James
    Nov 11, 2011 @ 12:34:27

    Dear Ellie,

    I read with much sadness your article in the Mail last night.

    My business partner was stricken with a rare and inherited form of terminal pancreatic cancer and despite his grandmother and great grandmother dying within just two weeks of diagnosis he managed to cure himself completely in just eighteen days, much to the surprise of his Harley Street consultant.

    Since then we have gone on to create a range of products that promote one’s own body to beat the disease.

    Whilst we are not quite ready to launch the products universally, we would willingly try to assist you should you be open to accept our help.

    Although very much still under construction you can read a little about our products at where you will also find details of my contact telephone number and email address.

    Whatever you choose to do, may I take this opportunity to wish you all the very best and may you have a long and happy life.

    My kindest of regards.

    Christopher James


  188. Alfiaz
    Nov 11, 2011 @ 14:49:36

    I am speechless reading your blog. You are an amazing woman! All I can say is I wish you the best and I pray that you will live a long and healthy life. I look forward to seeing your wedding pictures next year! Keep up the great blogs and carry on fighting. You are a legend and a role model. Alfiaz


  189. Suzanne
    Nov 11, 2011 @ 15:06:40

    You are an amazingly strong person and I hope and pray that you make it through your latest fight and make it to your wedding. God love you xxx


  190. Nicola
    Nov 11, 2011 @ 15:10:09

    Dear Ellie,

    I found out about your blog in a Newspaper.

    I can’t think of anything to say other then I send you heartfelt wishes and courage to keep fighting, with the dream of a beautiful summer day, just around the corner,
    Nicola xxxxxx


  191. Bob
    Nov 11, 2011 @ 16:42:29

    Dear Ellie,
    My wife Malina has Stage 4 BC with liver mets. The chemo hasn’t worked so we’ve come off it and gone for purely alternative treatments to kick the Big C. Please get in touch if you want to know what we’re up too (although I am sure like us you have read and read and read about the options). In Jan 12 we will have scans again and will get an idea if it is working but either way Malina is feeling well at the moment (no chemo :)).
    Keep strong, there are options and you can win.
    All the best.


  192. Scottishjack
    Nov 11, 2011 @ 18:32:42

    Even with your most recent post all that matters is this:

    You will beat this.

    Mark my words.



  193. deirdre keohan
    Nov 11, 2011 @ 19:49:51


    did you get my post about LDN


  194. Isabella Pett
    Nov 11, 2011 @ 20:16:06

    Don’t give up hope!! Look at what you’ve been through already and come out the other side. I think I speak on behalf of everyone when I say “We’re rooting for you!” (cue cheers from the sidelines). Tom – keep up the good work too. You’re an amazing pair xx


  195. Lisa Gray
    Nov 11, 2011 @ 21:08:28

    Dear Ellie, I read your article in the daily mail online yesterday and it really touched me! I’m 27 years old, close to your age, and can’t imagine all that you go through everyday. I just hope that each day can become even a little less painful for you and your fiance and you can enjoy making arrangements for your wedding day and have the happiness you both deserve.
    You’re in my thoughts.x


    Nov 11, 2011 @ 21:17:07

    Dear Ellie
    I know what you are going through I had breast cancer at the age of 35. I was lucky I had 2 children aged 1 and 3 .I had a mastectomy and 3 years later a super recontruction. I am also lucky that the cancer didn’t reappear for 9 years but unfortunately it has come back every 6 months the last time was just after 3 months. I have just finished my 8th lot of chemothreapy lost my hair 4 times, I have just a covering of hair which has taken a year. Your story in the mail touched me so much why are so many young girls getting this awful disease. I have had twice the time on this earth as you and feel grateful. I have a wonderful consultant and the chemo nurses are great. I hope this gives you inspiration to keep going. although you seem to be doing so fantastic you are an inspiration to everyone who is following your blog. I can’t think of much else to say except I wondered what I had done in a previous life to be going through this.Take care


  197. sally kennedy
    Nov 11, 2011 @ 21:18:32

    Hi Ellie.
    I have only just read your story in the Mail and I just can’t take it in. There is so much I want to say to you, but the words won’t come. I know nothing much about cancer, only that I saw my grandfather die a long time ago, and I am lucky that this horrible illness hasn’t touched myself or my family in any way. With having 16 grandchildren and a few great grandchildren I feel quite blessed and extremely lucky that they are all healthy, which just makes me think about you all the more, you Ellie for being so brave and Tom for being such a wonderful partner. I will be thinking of you constantly now, and I will pray for you every single day. Please keep up your amazing strength both of you. x Sally


  198. Christine
    Nov 11, 2011 @ 23:01:10

    Eleanor! I read your story and was completely moved – not just because of your illness, but because of the beautiful manner in which you have carried on. However, I am not here to offer words of pity, but more words of hope.

    The doctors / science / technology may all say one thing – but there is a power that transcends all of that, and this power has demonstrated its abilities in the lives of so many that I have personally met, and also those that I have read of. This power is Jesus, and regardless of how much people may think / say that He is a fairytale, the truth is that He is not.

    Jesus has the power to heal you completely, and more importantly also ensure that whenever you do depart this world, like we all will one day – whether it’s a day from now or 100 years from now – that you spend eternity (which is much, much longer than any amount of time that anyone can spend on earth) in peace and joy beyond human understanding. The same goes for your fiance.

    All you have to do is ASK. You do not need to give anything in return, or even have any special diets / medicines to help beat this. Just say the words ‘Lord Jesus, please heal me and have mercy on me’, each day, and believe in your heart that He will. That’s all. If He has done it for others, He certainly can and will for you.

    He already knows you (he created you) and loves you. He is just waiting for you to ask. I look forward to hearing beautiful stories about your journey 🙂

    I will be praying along with you each day from today.

    Love always and God bless,


  199. Nancy
    Nov 12, 2011 @ 00:31:26

    Hi Ellie,

    I don’t usually write comments on blogs but just wanted to say that I read your story on the Daily Mail while procrastinating my own work and then went on to read your whole blog. You have such a great spirit and you and Tom look like a wonderful, loving, and good-looking couple; I look forward to seeing your wedding photos next year! The thing I am procrastinating doing is writing an application for a job that I think I would love — but your blog has made me realize I should really go for it, thanks for the inspiration 🙂

    Sending you lots of love and good vibes, Nancy


  200. Ellie
    Nov 12, 2011 @ 11:13:24

    Hi Ellie, I read your piece i the mail yesterday. I think you are very brave and an inteligent young laddy. I with you and Tom all the luck in the world. I live in Cambridge ad work at Trinity College , your aunt Carol told me you were writing in the paper. I am so pleased I read the article, you are an inspuration to so many people to never give up and I wll be praying for you and always remember God can do anything, he has done so many miricles and I will pray that he does won for you. You have everything to live for and so much to offer really feel inspired just by reading your article . Wish I was so articulate and inteligent as you . God Bless you and I will be praying for you. Richard. p.s sorry about the spelling !!!


  201. Suzy
    Nov 12, 2011 @ 13:42:52

    Much love to you Ellie 🙂 you are truly inspiring. XXXX


  202. Margaret
    Nov 12, 2011 @ 19:42:06

    Hi Ellie , I’ve just read your story in the daily mail and wanted to say how sorry I am and how brave I think you are. Please keep fighting, I know it’s hard but I think you have it in you to do this. Wishing you and Tom all the luck in the world for the future. Margaret xx


  203. John
    Nov 12, 2011 @ 22:58:31

    I’ve been touched by your blog and humour, but just had to share a story. I was sitting on the tube the other day where I often struggle to get comfy because of my large frame (which I was teased about at school). Anyway, some northern oik dug her elbow into my ribs and ruined my book reading / tube riding experience. Can you believe it? The nerve of some people?

    Only kidding. Its your brother, here.

    Catch you on skype this week. Be strong.


  204. Eva
    Nov 13, 2011 @ 11:44:50

    I read the article in the daily mail and was really moved by your experience and courage. Life sucks sometimes but all we can do is keep on. I was diagnosed with non-hodgkins lymphoma in 2008, underwent treatment and am in remission. I know it’s a very frightening and lonely place – daignosis and treatment. I was moved by how positive and honest you are. I wish you such good times and so look forward to following your blog and hearing how well things are going.


  205. sasa
    Nov 13, 2011 @ 19:31:12

    Dear Ellie,
    You are such a wonderful girl! I love your spirit! Now, it might be arrogant from me because u are intelligent and must be reading a lot about cancer but still, I will recommend u a book (two books), check when u have time…

    Lessons from the miracle doctors by Jon Barron
    Anticancer a new way of life by David Servan Schriber

    Keep fighting, life is a paradox and miracles do happen! I wish u the best of the best!


  206. Mary
    Nov 13, 2011 @ 22:33:26

    Dearest Ellie,

    I read your story in the Daily Mail and was so touched by it that I have found your blog and will follow it. You are an inspiration to us all. I am an OAP, who does not ‘do technical’ very well, so I hope you receive this message. I send you and Tom all the love in the world and may God Bless you both. I will say my prayers to St. Peregrine, St. Agnes and St. Agatha as well as the Good Lord and His Blessed Mother, that your treatment will work for you. We recently had a mouse in our flat and they do disappear!
    We put three traps out, one with tuna, one with chocolate and one with cheese. It refused to jump on any of the traps and apparently decided to leave!
    All the very best to you both. God Bless and my love and good wishes. Mary xx


  207. Helen
    Nov 14, 2011 @ 12:08:27

    Hi Ellie

    Any girl who can eat fish eyes for a bet is definitely going to put up one hell of a fight! (Thai restaurant in Bayswater about 10 years ago)
    My sister’s friend was told she had 2 months to live 4 years ago. Life is still an uncertain struggle for her but she keeps going by always planning some exciting event to to look forward to in the future – a holiday, party or visiting friends. Your wedding next year will be perfect.
    Keep strong and I’ll look forward to seeing your wedding pics next June.
    Lots of love to you and your family.
    Helen Moffat


  208. Bon
    Nov 14, 2011 @ 18:24:53

    ‘Worry never solved a thing’ (Dalai Lama)
    So true yet difficult not to do. But worth a try.
    I truly wish you and Tom success and happiness in beating this.


  209. Sharon Rugg
    Nov 15, 2011 @ 00:14:09

    I saw this on a poster at the British Library on Friday – thought you might like it?

    ‘Today is a gift – that’s why they call it the present”

    Sorry can’t remember who said it but live for today! You are doing brilliantly!


  210. Jane
    Nov 15, 2011 @ 11:28:57

    Morning Ellie, well that sounds like wonderful news on your latest treatment, there I am sat here worrying about money etc and your blog puts life in to reality live each day as it comes, the story ref the tube brought a smile to face good for you, keep going stay strong, am thinking of you. I wish I could help you more but from your blog you sound very strong, I know that is easy for me to say. Stay positive good luck for the next treatment, xx


  211. Angela Monaghan
    Nov 15, 2011 @ 17:56:27

    Hi Ellie, there I was, Daily Mail spread strategically on the settee next to me to allow a quick getaway to the toilet (yes you quessed it Oxalaplatin and Capecitabine!) when I read your incredible story. I have tried to stay positive but you really put me to shame with your strength and sense of humour. I am only on course 5 of 8 but have taken on board all the things you say in your blog that have helped and are still helping, but most of all lets not give it the satisfaction of beating us!! Thinking of you often in of course a positive way 🙂 x


  212. beth Mills
    Nov 15, 2011 @ 21:36:37

    Hi Ellie,

    I accidentally stumbled across your article, but I am so glad I did.
    I don’t normally write comments on blogs. Not because I don’t care but because I never feel my words could ever be of any use, but after reading that messages do give you some comfort I feel if this is all I can do to make your journey slightly easier then I hope my words help in some small way.

    Firstly I want to say what an amazingly strong person you are. You have been faced with one of life’s worst hurdles, but you are dealing with it with such strength and grace. I have had a few family friends over the years who have faced the same battle as you are facing now, none of them gave up but all of them outlived the ‘sentence’ that they were given by years. I truly believe that it was because of the determination that they had, and I read the same determination in your blogs.

    Apart from knowing family friends who have the terrible c word, I also have had a personal experience.
    I got diagnosed at the age of 18 months old with retinoblastoma which is cancer of the eye, which was very rare at the time. My diagnosis wasn’t straight forward though, it came after weeks of trips to the doctors where my parents new something wasn’t right but doctors insisted I was fine and they were paranoid.
    When I finally did get diagnosed it was spreading to my brain and I was given a very slim chance of surviving, they operated in the hope to pro-long my life not save it. 3 large tumours were removed and I received further treatment, again doctors were certain I would not win this battle. 21 years later and here I am, i am grateful I was the age I was to not understand what could have happened because I’m sure I would not handle it with the same arse kicking attitude you are ! The point I’m trying to make is miracles can happen; my parents didn’t give up for one moment and so nor should you. Doctors and all the medical professionals in the world can have all the statistics but like you said you are an individual and this is your battle.

    You define the person you are in every day life and it’s no different with this battle that you’re facing. So please keep strong, positive and keep believing in yourself.

    Please no I will be thinking of you throughout every step of your journey.

    Sending love your way

    Beth x


  213. Jo, North Yorkshire
    Nov 16, 2011 @ 00:27:39

    Keep positive – you are right – concentrate on focussing on each day and staying mentally strong. You are amazing !!!


  214. Zoe Springbett
    Nov 16, 2011 @ 18:09:38

    Ps I have just moved to Brighton and live in a lovely flat. If you and Tom ever wanted another trip to Brighton, I’ll gladly move out and the flat can be all yours for a weekend! It’s a great place and somewhere JoJo often went. She even told the doctors to sod off once as she was determined to go and see David Gray in concert in Brighton the month before she died! Xxx


  215. Patricia Springbett
    Nov 17, 2011 @ 14:40:14

    I know my daughter Zoe has written to you about our lovely Josie, who married the love of her life after being diagnosed with secondary cancer. She had a dream wedding in a little country church on the river Thames; a disused church that we cleaned up, filled with flowers and candles, and a string quartet.
    Josie and Richard had to get special permission from the Archbishop of Canterbury to use the church. She didn’t want to have her special day in the church in which she planned to have her funeral, and the wedding was absolutely magical from start to finish, No tears – only tears of happiness, and she looked stunningly beautiful and in love. It was the happiest day for all of us, and her illness was put to the back of our minds. Her oncologists came to the wedding and danced the night away afterwards!
    Josie lived for another year, a happy one, but I am hoping and praying that the treatment you have will give you many many years of happy married life.
    Josie wrote blogs too, full of witty observations. Sadly, she only discovered the therapy of writing blogs in the last months of her life. I read them now and laugh; her spirit lives on. She died two weeks short of her 29th birthday, but lived far longer than the oncologists predicted, because of her lust for life, I’m sure.
    I will follow your progress and know that being in love, being positive, and not letting things get you down too much really does extend your life, so you stand a good chance of being around for a long time, and I will keep praying for you.
    Love and hugs, Paddy
    I’m sure you will fight this


    • Ellie Jeffery
      Nov 18, 2011 @ 17:06:25

      Thank you for your lovely message Paddy. I was so sorry to read about your daughter Josie. I’m glad she made it to her wedding day and beyond. I pray for a breakthrough in this disease everyday. I like the idea on her oncologists being at her wedding! Sending you all my love, Ellie xxx


  216. Claire Leng
    Nov 17, 2011 @ 15:32:59

    Hi Ellie
    I found your blog after reading your article in Grazia. Three months ago I was diagnosed with an ‘incurable cancer’. I am living with primary liver cancer and being 37 years old was told that I did not fit the right age box for this disease. We as a family were devastated by this life changing news but we have tried to get to a place in our minds were we can deal with this, even beat this! Ive had my positivity quashed at times like today reading some horrible articles on the internet which I wont be repeating, fortunately my husband was on hand to dispell my terrible dark thoughts and remind me of why we are fighting this hideous disease, my two boys one aged fifteen years the other aged six months being our main inspiration. Today reading your blog after my ‘mini breakdown’ has helped me no end. Its given me positivity and comfort so thank you for sharing your thoughts and emotions.
    I wish you all the luck in the world, keep fighting and enjoy life! Lots of love x


    • Ellie Jeffery
      Nov 18, 2011 @ 17:09:36

      Thanks for stopping by Claire – I sometimes feel people will think I’m in denial by saying ‘I can beat this’ but why should we makes excuses for feeling hope and optimism? It is possible that we can beat this and for today I believe it! Good luck and much love xxx


  217. Prue
    Nov 18, 2011 @ 17:22:09

    Ellie, it is Prue again, just wanting you to know I am thinking of you often, and obviously the gorgeous Tom…. Every day is another day, you just keep believing, and I am telling everyone of you, and with everyone determined for you, and sending you positive thoughts, this thing absolutely can be beaten…
    You just keep going in your thought process, fabulous, wonderful woman !!
    Have a good weekend !!


  218. Prue
    Nov 18, 2011 @ 18:50:16

    Good… Lots of strength for a restful weekend… xxx


  219. Mike
    Nov 20, 2011 @ 10:19:30

    Hi Ellie,

    Am currently sat waiting for my girlfriend who is undergoing an MRI scan at this very moment, bored in the waiting room I’ve just stumbled across a well read copy of grazia and found your story and directions to this blog inside, any thoughts of “what if” have now been put to one side and an attitude of bring it on has developed from reading of how you have dealt with the cards you’ve been given. Thank you, good luck & good health, you’ve made this shitty Sunday morning seem a whole lot better, I am inspired.


  220. sam watts
    Nov 21, 2011 @ 09:51:28

    Dear Ellie

    I have just been given a copy of your Daily Mail article to read which is truly inspiring.

    I run a company called the Cancer Survivorship Programme which offers psycho-oncology support to cancer patients using evidence based mind-body medicine techniques. More information about the content of the programme can be seen at:

    I am just emailing to let you know about the programme and to see whether the techniques we use would be something you would be interested in undertaking? If so I would be more than happy to offer them to you on a completely pro-bono basis.

    If this is something that you would be interested in then please feel free to contact me:

    Phone: 01243 641 405

    Thank you very much for your time and I wish you all of the best for the future.

    With best wishes,



  221. Sharmini
    Nov 22, 2011 @ 15:36:48

    Hi Ellie
    I read the Daily Mail online quite often and having read about your cancer started reading your blog. Please remember there is one more person all the way in Sri Lanka wishing you well and praying for your recovery.


  222. laura
    Nov 23, 2011 @ 03:14:24

    Dear Ellie, i’m a british girl living in the U.S and was recently home on a visit and grabbed my faithful Daily Mail. Just read your article and now your blog and am so totally moved by your story and inspired by your courage. I will so remember you in my prayers and i’m sending you tons of positive vibes and good wishes.
    Look fwd to hearing good news from your blog along the way.
    Best, Laura


  223. sam watts
    Nov 24, 2011 @ 12:42:16

    Dear Ellie

    Thank you very much for your comments. I am unfortunately away in Australia until December 13th but would be more than happy to contact you and/or meet up once I get home should you feel that the Cancer Survivorship Programme could be of benefit to you.

    I hope that all is well.

    With best wishes,

    Sam Watts
    The Cancer Survivorship Programme


  224. Jill
    Nov 26, 2011 @ 10:43:02

    Ellie, I found your blog today and just wanted to tell you what an inspirational person I think you are. Sending positive thoughts and best wishes your way x


  225. Suzanne clark
    Nov 27, 2011 @ 21:33:07

    You are obviously a very determined and brave lady. I truly believe your determination and strength will see you through this. You are an inspiration to everyone. Keep up the fight girl. Positivity is a great thing and works in many different ways. X


  226. Victoria
    Nov 28, 2011 @ 23:44:47

    Ha! oh you really know how to make someone laugh with your writing and personality. I will defiantly be eating rocky road for you and I noticed a bottle of moet too in your photo. I will make sure I drink that on your behalf. Ellie you are constantly on my mind still and I’m always sending you positive energy. Have a great week and I hope you have the strength to go to your friends event!!!!
    Love always,


  227. Rachel
    Nov 30, 2011 @ 12:13:00

    Hi there, found your blog today via the power of Twitter…. reading it reminds me so much of a dear friend who experienced many of the issues you have and watching your personal developments – the diet, the positive mental attitude, the caring approach to strangers, yoga etc is like watching her own personal development too. I’m not great with words, nor clever at expressing things, but whilst you go through these individual situations directly please know you are most definitely not alone… Keep smiling, keep the image of the bad cells being blasted away and keep hugging those strangers and loved ones alike…


  228. Harriet C
    Nov 30, 2011 @ 17:46:33

    Oh Ellie, I feel your misery! I was put on the anti-inflammatory diet 6 months ago. It was SO hard to give up all the chocolate, alcohol and other tasty treats which aren’t allowed. However, give it a couple of weeks and I promise you will notice a difference in how you feel. Also, if you do slip up and cheat, just remember to be extra good the next day (tons of leafy green veg and oily fish). Plus quinoa is great, especially in flakes, as you can create tasty pancakes and porridge which are super healthy and nourishing.

    Good luck lovely, you are doing so well and an absolute inspiration to every single person who reads this blog! Sending you tons of positive, healthy vibes.



  229. dk
    Dec 01, 2011 @ 23:09:17

    Ellie, you are an inspiration to all of us who are fighting and/or have fought to make the Big C smaller. I am one of the incredibly lucky to have fought and won, and I am sending you much love, thoughts and prayers.

    I am sure that you have received so much feedback as to what you should or shouldn’t do. When I was diagnosed, I wanted to do all that I could to make sure I did everything I could to fight. I’ve many loved ones who have also fought the Big C, and their chosen paths of treatment ranged from traditional medicine to holistic to natural to alternative. I wanted to share an alternative treatment that my friend who wasn’t as lucky and also my brother (a medical patent researcher) shared with me. DISCLAIMER: I personally have no experience with Burzynski’s methodology, and there are those in the medical community who believe he is a quack, but I just wanted share whatever tidbit of knowledge that I possess to aid you on your journey. I believe that when you are fighting for your life and dreams, nothing should be summarily dismissed.

    :: [movie]

    Each moment in a day has its own value.

    Morning brings HOPE,
    Afternoon brings FAITH,
    Evening brings LOVE,
    Night brings REST.

    May you have all of these moments everyday.


  230. Suggestions On keyboard
    Dec 02, 2011 @ 12:12:02

    Looking into your identity is… revitalizing! The fear of others gives us strength


  231. JNCL
    Dec 02, 2011 @ 12:13:22

    Ellie, I just found you tonight because Stephen Fry tweeted that I should come over here, and who can resist any command given in that amazing voice, ya know? So here I am, and I think it’s an incredibly brave thing you’re doing, broadcasting all this to us invaders into your privacy and taking us in as friends. I grew up in a household with serious illness–my mother suffered from lupus, diabetes, and a whole litany of other nasty medical “ologies and isms” that totally screwed around with everyday life. In the midst of it all, we managed to have good days and wonderful memories together, and I am sure you will do the same. Mom made it 30 years longer than anyone said she was “supposed” to; no human being, no matter what degrees he holds or what initials after his or her name, can tell us how long to survive. Live every day to the fullest! We’re all cheering you on.


  232. Noel Davis
    Dec 02, 2011 @ 12:13:31

    Ms. Jeffery,
    You are in my prayers, my mother beat breast cancer twice in her late seventies and I know how tough it can be, yet you are inspiring so many with the way you are living your life. I look forward to reading your blog for many decades to come.



  233. Barry Wah Lee
    Dec 02, 2011 @ 12:19:15

    Dear Ellie, I must admit that I did not see much of your blog, just the one at the top of this page. It is great that you inspire so many people to write. Sometimes there are lots of answers. I hope you find all the right ones.


  234. andy
    Dec 02, 2011 @ 12:25:13

    woow, this makes my problems look small, here to you, hope things are ok, and i hope you are right and the doctors are wrong,
    it took me 40 years to be tested that the doctors for you (ASD, aspergers, dyspraxia, dyslexia, epilpsy absence, steoeotype autism)


  235. Nick Morrison
    Dec 02, 2011 @ 12:58:04

    My mam and gran both suffered from cancer, and even though I don’t know how it is to have it have it, being on the ‘side line’ watching what they both had to go through was bad enough and I wouldn’t wish it on anybody. I think you outlook on the situation as amazing, you keep positive and it is inspiring and I hope people who have and haven’t suffered from cancer get chance to read your blog to realise that when something bad comes our way that instead of wishing it hadn’t, think of how we can get the best out of that situation. My prayers will always be with you.


  236. Andre
    Dec 02, 2011 @ 13:14:30

    life is all around us, what doctors have is just statistics, that’s what science is made of … Believe in your own self.


  237. Stacha
    Dec 02, 2011 @ 13:15:24

    Hi Ellie

    I was really touched by your blog particullary worrying about whether it was okay to believe in miracles and have faith and I had to write to you.

    I was seriously ill for about 2 years, they still do not know how it happened or quite what it was but in the end I was a skeleton with hardly an immune system and took a long time before I could walk to the shop. I kicked and screamed mentally I was breaking down too. But I know that it was my believe in miracles that pulled me through, It ended up being the letting go of the bigger miracles and seeing the small ones that made the difference, the small miracles I realised was the biggest and the moment I was in, the most beautiful, gradually I got better.

    Gradually I got better, but I had actually in the end let that go and concentrated on the gifts I had been given and how to use them. You have amazing gifts, you write beautifully, and a soul lends itself to the magic of this world. Miracles do not always work the way would like to plan them but they are real. It may not feel like it at time but your blog and what you are doing the very aliveness in which you are giving right now and sharing yuor humanity, Is what i would put faith in everytime.

    You lovely are the miracle. Thank you x


  238. dave farley
    Dec 02, 2011 @ 14:10:43

    Just said a little prayer. X


  239. Janette Murphy
    Dec 02, 2011 @ 14:26:54

    My heart aches for you. My mother suffered a terrible cancer in her head for more than seven years – you remind me of her. Keep trying, keep looking, keep living. We’re all behind you.


  240. Heurtebise
    Dec 02, 2011 @ 17:57:29

    Hi Ellie, your story has really inspired me and snapped me out of my selfish fug that I think a lot of us float through our twenties in. I’m a junior doctor and the other day a patient told me that she was diagnosed with advanced cervical cancer and had a massive operation and radiotherapy. Before the op she asked how much time she had left and was told 3mths. She said that this just wouldn’t do and asked again after the op and radio and was told 6mths. She said it just wasn’t enough time, that she had a lot of stuff to do and here she was cancer-free for 14 years. I wish this was the case for everyone but unfortunately it isn’t – however the reality, as you point out, is that nobody can number your days. Doctors use a combination of statistics and acumen but this is obviously imperfect. If you haven’t already read it there’s a brilliant article about the imperfection of statistics for survival prediction by the biologist Stephen Jay Gould, based on his own experience of a cancer diagnosis
    PS – Lots of alternative treatments improve coping and quality of life, but in response to the numerous conspiracy theorists on here, if I was having a house built I’d probably seek the services of a qualified architect, not someone who thinks that traditional architects are actually money-grubbers who seek to make a fortune from building terrible houses and the real deal are people who believe in “alternative building techniques” that are so brilliant they have completely escaped mainstream house building consensus.
    PPS – That analogy may be a little strained.
    Much love and all the best,stay as strong as you can.


  241. Tim byrne
    Dec 02, 2011 @ 19:20:01

    There are little lives and big lives. Big lives are those that touch and inspire others like yours. Keep going!!!!! Timx


  242. Mark Fradgley
    Dec 02, 2011 @ 19:49:21

    Hello Ellie,

    Sorry about the previous post; I realise that it might well have looked a little like spam. My name is Mark Fradgley, and I have incurable cancer. Cardiac and skeletal angiosarcoma, to be precise. I think there are only a handful of people in the world with it, and the survival rate is nil. My sarcoma originated in the heart, and spread to my spine, pelvis and sternum as secondary’s, so in technical terms the prognosis couldn’t be any worse. They cut the cancer out of my heart, and replaced it with bovine cardiac tissue, which ended up with my being called ‘Bullheart’ by the media.

    My oncology team at the Royal Marsden were very supportive, but the general feeling was that, despite chemo and bone treatments, it was a question of not ‘if but when’. I’m more than happy to admit that I get the fear daily, and started a post mountain bike forum as a form of cathartic therapy. I made a choice to do whatever I could to remain as fit as possible for the ongoing fight, as well as raise awareness, and so I set out to raise money for a number of cancer charities with endurance-based activities, such as John O’Groats to Lands End, and 24hour MTB racing. We’ve done quite well with raising both money and awareness, and have a lot more planned this coming year and next, including (hopefully) rowing across the Atlantic in 2013.

    I’ve no wish to take up space on your blog with my own story; I just wanted to say folk like you are the reason that I keep riding up hills and don’t give up.

    Keep up the good work lady!

    Mark ‘Bullheart’ Fradgley


    • Ellie Jeffery
      Dec 05, 2011 @ 18:04:07

      Hi Mark,

      I was so impressed when I read your story.I’m afraid I’ve not been so great with the fitness since whole brain radio and chemo but I make sure I get out and walk and do gentle yoga when I can. Nothing compared to what you’re achieving though. Today I received a letter from the consultant describing the exact details of my brain mets – words like 1cm tumour, other lesions, bony metastasis and it scared the shit out of me. Then I think sod the scans – I’ve never had this disease before, no one can tell the future and I’m feeling well today. So for when those ‘not if but when’ questions arise when you think about it it applies to everyone. We’re all going to die sometime – no one knows when though.
      Good luck in all your charity work and raising awareness.
      No one has the authority to write either of us off,
      Ellie x


  243. Prue
    Dec 02, 2011 @ 20:30:20

    Dear Ellie,
    Hi it is Prue again & just sending more love & more support. Just to read Mark’s mail to you, further confirm the power of positive energy & thought… Masses being sent you way xxx love to you & Tom xx


  244. Tracey H
    Dec 02, 2011 @ 21:49:29

    I enjoy the pastime I enjoy the pastime o proving ppl wrong. It wias believed I was close to death with pneumonia, having had a stroke 2 months before my 31st birthday. Nearly 12 years later, I’m still alive and causing trouble! Keep fighting!!


  245. Tracey H
    Dec 02, 2011 @ 21:58:37

    I enjoy the pastime o proving ppl wrong. It was believed I was close to death with pneumonia, having had s stroke 2 months brfore my 31st birthday. Nearly 12 years later, I’m still alive and causing trouble! I advocate the phrase that “Heaven don’t want me and Hell can’t have me”

    Ok, the stroke is definitely not the same league, but it’s about finding the fight to carry on, of which you certainly have.

    Keep fighting!!!


  246. John
    Dec 02, 2011 @ 23:01:04

    I lost both my parents to this horrible illness, over 20 years ago. May you have a long, peaceful journey. Remember one day at a time, one day at a time.. God bless


  247. Mark saunders
    Dec 03, 2011 @ 00:52:36

    An inspiration and I worry anout my life being in a rut.Strength and love. Mark


  248. Affie
    Dec 03, 2011 @ 08:19:55

    I’m here Ellie, with everyone else , together with you. Talk to us when you need to share…we are listening. Your family, friends and the love and silliness you share with them are the best bits xx


  249. Cat N
    Dec 03, 2011 @ 19:17:56

    Thoughts and prayers for you.
    Keep fighting and stay strong.
    Cat xxx


  250. Sarah Lou
    Dec 03, 2011 @ 20:45:57

    Dear Ellie,
    I am just another individual blown away by your bravery. I just want to share with you another tool for your tool box that has helped me at times. When some days just seems unbearable break it down into small pieces. Look at it in hours or even minutes and be proud for every minute you manage. Live in the moment and take in whats going on around you, even talk it out loud ie I am putting the kettle on, I am putting the tea in the cup, I can hear a car outside etc. I have found this invaluable during periods of anxiety as it stops your brain working over time as you will struggle to think about two things at once.
    Sending you positive energy and look forward to continue reading this part of your lifes journey. xxxx


  251. Daddy
    Dec 05, 2011 @ 13:19:57

    Helpful information. Fortunate me I discovered your site by chance, and I am surprised why this twist of fate did not took place earlier! I bookmarked it.


  252. website
    Dec 05, 2011 @ 13:28:28

    Wow, amazing blog structure! How long have you been running a blog for? you make blogging look easy. The total look of your website is great, as smartly as the content!


  253. Jo, North Yorkshire
    Dec 06, 2011 @ 21:15:02

    I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again – you’re fabulous!


  254. fallen angel
    Dec 09, 2011 @ 09:05:20

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    Like I told ya girlie medical cartel that be ruling earth with fires of tyranny
    keepin it hush de hush beautiful girl woman.

    Lots of love.
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    C now is the time to expose the corruption
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    out of the ignorance wrought to her
    by the protocols of zion.

    Be free.


  255. Hannah
    Dec 13, 2011 @ 21:43:49

    You are the first blogger that I have felt compelled to write to – I won’t be saying anything that hasn’t already been written/said/thought before, but I wanted to say my bit.
    To say you are inspiring isn’t enough.
    I do hope that you keep fighting this battle – and i (and many others) eagerly await all your good news, which I am sure will come.

    I wish you and your loved ones a happy christmas & a happy 2012.

    Kick that Big C’s butt.

    Booyah x


    • Ellie Jeffery
      Dec 14, 2011 @ 00:16:36

      Thanks Hannah. For now I’m feeling well. I plan on working on the next blog tomorrow to keep you up to date. Wishing you a very happy Christmas too. Roll on a fantastic 2012! xxx


  256. Prue
    Dec 14, 2011 @ 01:25:39

    Ellie, all I know is that as more & more people are fighting with you, on your behalf, the stronger the force for your healing.
    So pleased you are feeling well, love to you, the lucky Tom (to have such an amazing woman) & your family …
    As I found out about your blog from Joey Haines on FB, I shall repost again…
    The incredible passion you touch in people will come back million fold.. xx Prue


  257. Nova Samantha Bridle (@novabridle)
    Dec 17, 2011 @ 17:48:39

    during this silly self-centred consumerist season – please take a moment to remember that one persons’ best day of their life is someone else’s worst. I’ve been reading this blog for a couple of months, and this girl ROCKS in the face of adversity.


  258. Samantha F
    Dec 20, 2011 @ 07:56:42

    Hi there
    I first read about you in the Daily Mail and have been following your blog since I think you are truly remarkable and so brave. I really wish you well my thoughts and prayers are with you. You are inspirational!

    Wishing you and your family a very Merry Christmas and best wishes for 2012!
    Sam x x


  259. penny
    Dec 20, 2011 @ 16:11:52

    You are an inspiration to so many people. Please know that you are in the prayers of so many people, I hope you feel our strength and helps carry you!


  260. Nikki Sharman
    Dec 20, 2011 @ 18:54:09

    Hi Ellie I just wanted to wish you a Great Christmas and New Year you so, so deserve it. May 2012 bring you all the luck in the world. I think it will be a great feeling to tell 2011 to F*ck right off!! I certainly shall.

    I am on a health streak at the moment after winning my battle of bilateral breast cancer this year and would love to know some of herbs and nutirents your herblist recommended to you or maybe his name if you get a spare moment, no hurry at all.

    I am currently taking life wheatgrass shots (with apple juice) and its actually quite tasty. I am obessed with it. let me know if you want to know more and I will forward your address. Also taking 100% pomegranite juice with my Tamoxifen in the morning along with a Probiotic and a fish oil tablet and I now add loads of turmeric to nearly everything I eat. Ha !!

    Take care Nikki


  261. Julia
    Dec 23, 2011 @ 19:59:10

    Hi Ellie
    Your strong determination and self belief is wonderful to read
    Enjoy each day


  262. Jools Turner
    Dec 29, 2011 @ 11:11:00

    Just a bit worried as no new blog for a while? I hope you are still doing well, and just relaxing over the holidays. X


  263. Stage 4 Brain Cancer
    Jan 03, 2012 @ 19:20:19

    whoah this blog is fantastic i really like reading your posts. Stay up the good paintings! You realize, lots of people are looking round for this info, you could aid them greatly.


  264. sam watts
    Jan 03, 2012 @ 20:47:33

    Hi Ellie

    Sorry to bother you again – I sent you a post last month about a service I run called the Cancer Survivorship Programme. I currently work at the University of Southampton School of Medicine where I am doing my doctoral training in the use of mind-body medicine techniques in the management of cancer.

    A very large amount of the research I am involved in is centred on the role of meditation in cancer recovery – both from a psychologically enhancing perspective but mainly from the physiological, biochemical and immunological benefits observed in cancer patients who use intensensive meditative techniques on a daily basis.

    I don’t know whether you currently use such techniques or whether this is something you are interested in but I truly believe that developing an intensive and regular programme of meditation and guided imagery could really benefit you.

    If this is something that you would be interested in hearing more about, please feel free to contact me at or visit our website at

    Thank you for the blogs, they make for a truly inspirational read and I really do wish you all of the best for 2012 – here’s to hoping that it is a great one!




  265. Short Sale My Home New Jersey
    Jan 04, 2012 @ 03:25:03

    Generally I do not read post on blogs, however I wish to say that this write-up very pressured me to take a look at and do it! Your writing taste has been amazed me. Thanks, very great post.


  266. Alice
    Jan 05, 2012 @ 20:17:40

    I’m a 4th year medical student and I’ve been following your blog for a while now. You are inspiring me to grow into a better, more optimistic Doctor, and one who really listens to their patients. I wish you all the luck in the world, I’m sure your wedding will be beautiful.
    Alice x


  267. Prue
    Jan 05, 2012 @ 23:54:20

    Oh Alice I love this comment – Ellie how you are touching people !! Xxxx Prue


  268. martine mason
    Jan 09, 2012 @ 21:33:30

    Ellie you are a total inspiration and a massive breath of fresh air i have read all your blogs and i am speechless.Life is cruel but god you are fighting like a good un i wish i had your courage.I also know the lovely Julie and warmed to her as you did.I am very fortunate to be healthy but i do count my blessings now and thats thanks to you.
    Thankyou for being you x


  269. JO
    Jan 10, 2012 @ 13:36:16

    Happy New Year Ellie x


  270. amanda midgley
    Jan 14, 2012 @ 13:53:46

    hi just got book in post saw your letter . add too see email . im just being going to chemo got cancer in nov 2011 , not good xmas . but hope you do get better its not far i said why me /// still not knowing things . cant belive you been though only my daugters age . keep my fingers cross for you too get though it all like on your head fuck it / take care all the best love and luck xx amanda


  271. Sarah Pope
    Jan 14, 2012 @ 19:46:39

    Hi there. Having just read your blog etc. I wanted to email you something but i dont know what on earth to say, apart from i believe your strenghth of character knows no bounds and i’m so pleased that you have Tom in your life. I try to do my bit as i’m a keen fundraiser for Breakthrough Breast Cancer having lost my mum to this hideous disease and i’m now running the London Marathon for them in April. The training is hard, the early morning runs at 6.15am and the cold weather, but you and my mum are going to be my reason for getting out there and getting on with it. Stay positive. Sarah x


  272. Sally
    Jan 19, 2012 @ 09:11:46

    Re: Achieving and Believing

    Ellie . . . hang in there, it’s January which is a depressing month . . . the magic of Christmas a long time gone, cold dark nights etc. In a few weeks time Spring will be here and you’ll soon have the warm sun on your face lifting your spirits.

    You are so, so brave.

    Be happy!
    Sally x


  273. Amanda
    Jan 20, 2012 @ 15:48:20

    Hi Ellie, I have been reading your blog since i heard about you on the mailonline website. I think the courage you have is just unbelievable… The strength that you show in your posts and a great humour you have is amazing! Once a week i take time to read about what you’ve been upto & i must say your an inspiration! Stay positive, your blessed to have just great friends, family and boyfriend 🙂 take care Amanda xx


  274. julie
    Jan 21, 2012 @ 19:40:01

    Ellie, After reading your blog, i had to reply. Although im over my breast cancer now, a friend of a friend’s daughter has cancer and is using her own diet and methods to combat the dreadful disease Her name is Polly Noble she is young like yourself, l really hope you find her information helpful. Would love to know if you get this. I am on facebook and so is she, but also Polly is well know now.

    Good luck with everything.

    Julie Webb ( cambridge uk )


  275. Rachel
    Jan 23, 2012 @ 11:07:15

    Hi Ellie
    Just wanted to say hello after reading your piece in Vita and also to wish you well in your ass kicking journey! Like you I am attempting to kick the living daylights out of my secondary cancer – it’s been an ongoing battle but I’ll be 27 in march so in your face cancer.. Keep up the fight my fellow warrior best wishes Rachel x


  276. Stitch this
    Jan 25, 2012 @ 22:07:46

    Hello. I’m reading. And appreciating.


  277. Jo, North Yorks
    Feb 09, 2012 @ 17:13:12

    You are wonderful. Hope the trial goes well x


  278. Jess
    Feb 09, 2012 @ 21:09:15

    Hi Ellie, Just finished reading your latest post and it’s left me with a lump in my throat. Your writing is pitch perfect and you are very, very right, when you say it’s so terribly unfair. It is. I hope posting is somewhat cathartic and you feel a bit more cheerful now.


  279. Raj
    Feb 13, 2012 @ 11:17:35

    Be positive sweetheart,u need it.Why dont you send a prayer request to where people pray for others who are polly.Keeping you in my prayers.


  280. Toni Oliphant
    Feb 13, 2012 @ 20:18:52

    I have just found your blog. My husband has stage three colon cancer and has over the last two and a half years gone through many of the situations you’ve described. He too has an amazing positive attitude, tomorrow we have the results of yet another scan and I’m hoping that there will be something else they can try. So far we’ve always had a Hope Consultant, I can’t imagine how hard it must be to have the Hopeless variety! You’re blogs are fantastic and I wish you (and you’re lovely man) all the love and luck in the world.


  281. Clair
    Feb 14, 2012 @ 15:32:18

    Hi Ellie
    I never read blogs but came across yours months ago and now cant stop reading it and wondering how you are?
    You truly are amazing and keep fighting dont let it win.

    Clair x


  282. Rhiannon Jones
    Feb 14, 2012 @ 22:36:51

    You beautiful, bright, witty, strong, inspiring woman – don’t change a thing and keep on fighting that f*cker.
    I hope you’re being spoilt rotten this Valentine’s Day but am sure Tom’s taken good care of that…


  283. Curtis Hanson
    Feb 16, 2012 @ 23:21:59

    Ellie — I’m saddened to read of your really bumpy ride. Please know that we at Trinity Lutheran (Gresham, Oregon, US) pray for you and hold you in our thoughts.

    (And even “Mr. Perkins” cares!) Curt


  284. Linda Austin
    Feb 18, 2012 @ 21:05:10

    Hi Ellie
    Terry’s Mum here. Literally this time. I am staying with Lee in Brentwood. Terry has told me that he has received the wedding invitation. He has booked the hotel nearby. It is a beautiful venue for your wedding. A beautiful bride at a beautiful location on a beautiful day. (Tom’s not bad either!!!)
    Linda xxxx


  285. Jo, North Yorks
    Feb 23, 2012 @ 15:58:27

    So good to hear from you – Ive been logging in every day to see how you are doing. Keep strong – you have had knock backs before. Keep positive – since I started reading your blog there seems to be so many people living years – keep believing xxxxxxx


  286. Jon Laurence
    Feb 23, 2012 @ 16:00:59

    Hi Ellie,

    We’ve never met but I just wanted to say how powerful and inspirational I’ve found your blog.

    Kindest regards,



  287. Anna
    Feb 29, 2012 @ 18:33:18

    Hi Ellie,

    Thought you might be interested in this:

    Hang in there 🙂



  288. Michelle Appleyard
    Feb 29, 2012 @ 20:30:52

    Hi Ellie,

    I’ve written before and I am always so touched by your blog…you are such a strong woman but physically and mentally – you truly are an inspiration!

    I’m pleased to see the positive side of you coming out in your last blog but please know you are allowed to feel negative at times…you have been through so much!

    I am sending you lots of positive thoughts and love.

    God bless you.

    Michelle Appleyard Xx


  289. sars @ Life Coach Gone Bad
    Mar 05, 2012 @ 17:07:59

    Hi Honey, you are really very clever and insightful. On your lastest blog you mention that you cannot deny your powerful feelings and I agree with you, that’s healthy. when someone has a hard battle against cancer people think you’re being negative when you get down, you’re not. I get more annoyed at this constant pretence of ‘I’m alright’ when you’re not really. My son was diagnosed with Leukaemia 4 years ago, he had rare presentation and his only treatment came in the form of an experiment because if they treated him in the normal way he would have died instantly. He had no prognosis and I think everyone expected him to die. After a very long and painful battle, he’s very well today !!! and has been chemo free for 6 months. Doctors are often wrong and ‘they’ don’t know everything. Sometimes I think its your spirit that wins and in your case, you’re a winner. Keep going! I think of you often and I am always wishing you very well. Much love Sars


  290. Mirjam
    Mar 07, 2012 @ 16:35:13

    Dear Ellie,

    I’m from Holland and I’ve been reading your blogs since a few months. Every day I think about you and hope you are doing better. You are so strong and have so much willpower. You’re fighting this disease like a lion! Respect for you! Even thought it does not feel that the sun is always shining for you it is there and it will find you again! PS: Can’t wait to see a picture of you and Tom at your wedding!


  291. Katie Connolly
    Mar 07, 2012 @ 20:01:37

    To Ellie,

    I have being following your blog since last August, and can I just say you truly are one of the most inspring, honest and above all genuine peope I have ever come across. Reading your journey really puts life into prospective, and you inspire me to reach for the highest stars.

    Although it is a small contribution I run the Race for Life every year, hoping that every penny I raise goes towards kicking the Big C’s a**e once and for all!!

    Keep going, smiling and writing your inspiring words,

    Love always,

    Katie xx


  292. jen
    Mar 08, 2012 @ 22:06:06

    Ellie you’re a total inspiration. I’ve been following your blog and I’m wishing you, with every once of my body, a happy and healthy future. You are exceptional and an absolute star. Continue to shine, you are utterly and totally the bravest person I’ve ever had the pleasure of reading about! xx


  293. Michael Livingstone
    Mar 11, 2012 @ 02:06:08

    Hey Ellie,

    I’ve just been re reading some of your blogs. I’m out of words for how I feel about you when I read them. I feel it really hard to articulate properly just how fucking impressive you are. My inability to articulate won’t come as much of a surprise to Tom as he doesn’t think that I can properly articulate much, and even if I do get close, he knows it’s going to be grammatically flawed and full of spelling errors…unlike your blog which I know gets the full Thostrup spelling and punctuation check, which is why I was very upset to see a spelling mistake in “Losing hair making friends” (I’ll leave it to Tom to go and find it).

    Apart from Tom’s shoddy proof reading your blog moved me massively like it always does. I’ve laughed occasionally and cried a lot but mostly just felt proud to know you both.

    All of my love,


    PS. Miffy is awesome! You’ve got brilliant mates.


  294. Frances
    Mar 11, 2012 @ 11:50:25

    Wishing you all the best. Frances in Tasmania


  295. Nilly
    Mar 13, 2012 @ 13:52:13

    Hi Ellie
    I just wanted to say how refreshingly honest your blog is. Five years ago when my husband was 29 he was diagnosed with bowel cancer, he has since gone on to have secondaries in his liver, lungs and abdomen (I have actually lost count of the number of recurrences without referring to my notes!). He has now started his fourth regimen of chemo in five years. Cancer SUCKS!

    I applaud your attitude which is strong yet always honest. I am becoming pretty fed up with the ‘stay positive’ mantra’s which people chant. Sometimes you really do need be able to say ‘this is rubbish and it’s not fair, but tomorrow I will hopefully have a better day’. I do worry that my husband feels he has to put on a brave face for everyone and I think it’s unfair to burden people who have cancer with this responsibility of ‘fighting it’. (that’s just my opinion of course!).

    Sounds like the holiday did you a world of, good!


  296. Aisha Walters
    Mar 13, 2012 @ 23:42:59

    I came across your blog a while back and maybe once a month I go looking for it again and for some stupid reason have trouble remembering the name of it. IS there a way to subscribe to it so I can get an email when you update it?


  297. Teresa
    Mar 14, 2012 @ 18:14:49

    Hi Ellie
    I have been catching up on your blog, I am 3 months post diagnosis /surgery and radiotherapy, but still very much dwelling in the “cancer quagmire”, cannot seem to help it at the moment. I am just about old enough to be your Mum (eek!) and definitely old enough to be a friend!
    Keep writing, what ever you feel like putting down via the keyboard is a little piece of you, and you are very generous in sharing…As an ex-oncology nurse I have seen miracles happen and people with overwhelming diagnoses really enjoy life and remain pretty much healthy enough to do what they want to do….
    lots of love x


  298. Lee
    Mar 14, 2012 @ 18:51:20

    I read the article in the Evening Standard and came straight to the blog. The paper is now sitting next to me no longer needed.

    Your one of the strongest people I have ever read about. Every entry I read inspires me more. How you speak about what yiur going through and come out with such a positive mindset is awe inspiring. So thank you for that. Stay strong, stay writing. I’m sure plenty of people will think the same when I say we are with you.



  299. Antony Deighton
    Mar 14, 2012 @ 21:01:28

    I’ve been reading your blog after seeing you in the newspaper. I wish you the very best and will keep you in my prayers, and you’ve really made me see that theres more to life, and you should always keep on going.


  300. Katherine Walker Mason
    Mar 14, 2012 @ 21:26:39

    Ellie, I read about you long before I received my diagnosis this January. I start chemo next week and you have inspired me… One upside of the Big C has been to really discover who your friends are and have more time to spend with them on the life journey. Wishing you all the best. Kx


  301. Camilla McGregor
    Mar 14, 2012 @ 22:00:55

    Dearest Ellie,

    We just read your story in the Evening Standard and wanted to send you loads of best wishes for your upcoming wedding! You will look ammasing! After that keep fighting and know you are an inspiration to us all!

    We send you all we have,

    Fam McGregor


  302. Keith Vinycomb
    Mar 15, 2012 @ 00:46:33

    Hi Ellie,
    I read the Evening Standard tonight about you and your friend Miffy. What a great idea for your wedding, really go for it, stop at nothing, get stuck in there, do now those things you want or must do. Got the dress sorted ? bridesmaids ? Lots to plan.
    I know where you are coming from, my daughter had been there over a 2 year period. What amazing courage she showed at age 25.
    Chin up Ellie, me and many others will be backing you and thinking of you.
    I can’t add to that word courage, show real courage.


  303. Helen
    Mar 15, 2012 @ 03:17:46

    I’m living in Sydney at the moment and this morning I was worried about an upcoming move to the bush with my boyfriend’s job – I’m definitely a city girl. But your blog (which I read in one go!) has inspired me to be bloody grateful for this exciting opportunity. Keep fighting – Northern girls are made of strong stuff! Much love X

    PS I also emailed Prof Hope to tell him what a great job I think he does (little bit stalkerish maybe I know ha ha)


  304. Luke Chilton
    Mar 15, 2012 @ 11:51:32

    Hi Ellie – I work for This Morning on ITV1. If you and Miffy would be interested in appearing on the show, please drop me a line at or 0207 157 4163
    thank you!


  305. tara gibbons
    Mar 15, 2012 @ 14:55:41

    Hi Ellie,
    Having both brothers with brain tumors (one sadly lost his fight) I have to say I love your blog. A good sense of can do attitude with as much laughter as possible can really help. Inspirational stuff….I am routing for you my dear! If you need anymore hair for your wedding day wig I would be delighted to offer mine.



  306. Chet
    Mar 15, 2012 @ 15:12:21

    I know Miffy through a friend, who told me to check out today’s press. That referred me to your blog and I was so hooked, read it all in one sitting! Jeez, you are one hell of an inspirational lady with such a beautiful energy and have certainly affected my outlook. That may sound trite but seriously, you write so eloquently about what you have been through and not only was I crying because your account is so moving, I was also inspired by your incredible courage and wisdom.

    Sending you love, strength and all the best for a truly wonderful wedding day and, of course, in ‘the fight’ (repeat healthy mantras, as per the book ‘the secret’ by rhonda byrne). May all of your dreams come true.

    Thinking of you…


  307. Lesley Carnegie
    Mar 15, 2012 @ 18:55:01

    Hi Ellie,
    Just discovered your blog today and have read it from the beginning in one go. I am a 56yr old diagnosed with stage two cancer in November two weeks after our daughter’s wedding! Now half-way through chemo having had mastectomy two days before Xmas! Your blog is truly an inspiration! Wishing you all the very best.


  308. MizzyIdiot
    Mar 15, 2012 @ 19:15:38

    Have never read a sad article that managed to put a smile on my face. Miffy you are a god-blessed human being. Ellie, after reading this article, I usually just close the newspaper, readying it for the bin. But no. Not when “The Gerson Therapy” book was staring right back at me. I relapsed big time in 2010 which left me (a rock climber, dance teacher) partially disabled. Three weeks ago my sister recommended I try the Gerson Diet. Three weeks later I can now get by without the walking stick. (note: cancer sufferers, however, are required to follow the diet and daily regime very strictly including the initial Gerson doctor consultancy). The book you can find here: And you can also read the success stories on Twitter @GersonInstitute. Please, please, please give it a try. And using the old Jamaican saying of my mother (who passed to cancer last year)…”Nothing tried, nothing done”. I wish you much peace and healing light (Feel free to email me on “”).


  309. Helena
    Mar 15, 2012 @ 22:06:22

    Dear Ellie,

    I saw the article in the Evening Standard the other night about you and your friend Miffy and I ended up getting all choked up on the tube! I’ve just read some of your blog and wanted to tell you that I am thinking of you and wishing you all the very best for your wedding – you are going to look fantastic with or without hair and you deserve to have the best day ever. Keep up the positivity, as everyone else has said you are truly inspiring and help to put all the tiny worries of every day life into massive perspective. I will be thinking of you and willing you on,

    lots of love


  310. Argyri
    Mar 16, 2012 @ 10:28:50

    Hi sweety!
    What I must say after reading your blog?
    Yours strong!
    Doctors not always have right
    And you will NOT DIE!
    You gonna bit this! I’ m sure! Yous are so strong, so positive, so beautiful… you gonna seduce death with your charm!!
    Wishing you all the best darling, for your wedding! Just be your self!
    You have all my love and straight!

    with love


  311. Jo
    Mar 16, 2012 @ 12:01:27

    Hi Ellie,

    You are so inspiring and I really admire your strength and bravery. My father was diagnosed with a rapid growth cancer last october and reading your blog really opens my eyes to all the things that you and my dad are going through.

    I make personalised jute bags and would love to make and send you one if you want one.

    Loads of love



  312. radhika sanghani
    Mar 16, 2012 @ 17:20:44

    Hi Ellie,
    I’m a reporter for the Islington Now website. We heard about your friend Miffy’s amazing decision to shave off her hair for you, and we would love to talk to her, and you, about it, and find out how much she has raised for charity.
    If you or Miffy are interested, please send me an email on
    Thank you, and good luck for the wedding!


  313. gezza0202
    Mar 16, 2012 @ 19:20:24

    You and Miffy are beautiful inside and out. Let’s hope the side effects of the chemo don’t drag you down over the next few weeks and that it works, works, works on those nast cells…As with others I send love and positive vibes, Gezza from Scarborough in North Yorkshire.


  314. Nichola Munro
    Mar 16, 2012 @ 20:38:27

    I have just read your latest blog, what a wonderful friend you have in Miffy, your attitude and zest for life inspires me, what an incredible person you are. I just wanted to send love and positive vibes your way xxx


  315. Sam Wisnevitz
    Mar 16, 2012 @ 23:14:30

    Hi Ellie, like you I am a patient of Professor Hope. I was originally diagnosed with breast cancer aged 28 and underwent numerous surgeries, chemo and radiotheraphy. I put it all behind me and continued to live life to the fullest. Three months before my wedding, in August 2010, I heard the words I feared the most – “It’s come back”. Like you , it had spread to my liver, lungs and bones. The wedding went ahead as planned and it was one of the happiest days of my life. I lead a relatively normal life – work, socialise, travel and shop a lot!And exercise too Ihave set up a campaign – One Thousand Women ( which is in aid of Action Against Cancer. I think what you and your friend have done is amazing and all the money you have raised in the processs is fantastic! I wish you all the best for the wedding and please get in touch.


  316. Ebonyexcite
    Mar 18, 2012 @ 13:26:53

    Dear Ellie,

    You are a very beautiful woman and full of life. I am a Christian and i like to say that God heals. You will be fine, Reading about you without knowing you… I just feel that you will be fine. you are in my thoughts and prayers…


  317. Gabriella Miller
    Mar 18, 2012 @ 14:23:22

    Hi Ellie,

    I found your blog after reading an article about you in the daily mail. I sat transfixed reading entry after entry. You are a very inspirational person and I hope that everything works out for you and you have a wonderful wedding day to start your long and happy lives together. I saw you wrote that you wanted to come to Israel but had to call off the trip. I live in Israel (Tel Aviv) and if you ever do come would be happy to show you around, give you a place to stay of help you in anyway I can.
    Best wishes and my prayers are with you.

    Gabi x


  318. Clare
    Mar 19, 2012 @ 09:28:11

    You are such a lovely girl , will take alot
    Inspiration from you . My thoughts and prayers
    Are for you , stay positive .
    Clare Scotland x


  319. CeliaB
    Mar 20, 2012 @ 12:34:45

    Just started to read your blog. Hope all goes well in the next few months and you have a fabulous wedding day! Fingers crossed for this chemo.
    I was similarly diagnosed at 28 with liver, lung and bone involvement and passed the three year mark in Feb – didn’t think would see the Olympics but seemingly not so interested now they are nearly here…. how fickle 🙂


  320. Matt
    Mar 21, 2012 @ 02:24:09

    Hi Ellie. What an inspiring blog. My wife was diagnosed with triple-negative BC (aged 37) eight months ago and we are coming to the end of her treatment this week. It’s been a long road, but stories like yours inspire me to look for the best in life, and not dwell on the negative. Take care, and cherish the loved ones you have around you. M.


  321. Aoife
    Mar 21, 2012 @ 14:02:52

    Hi Ellie,

    I tweeted you yesterday but I can understand your reluctance to tweet back given your recent experience with tweeters!

    I too suffer from secondary breast cancer, I am 31. I just wanted to chat with you and maybe get some insights on your treatments etc. I absolutely understand if you are not up for it though.

    You have inspired me so much. I was in snit with life last week before I stumbled upon your blog! It has given me so much. I wanted to say thanks.

    Hope you are feeling better today.

    Aoife xx


  322. Dave
    Mar 27, 2012 @ 16:43:17

    Hi Ellie,

    I came across your blog while looking for something else. I see a few people have already mentioned raw food and juicing. I haven’t had a chance to go through all your posts so you may be doing this already.

    There’s a guy named Dan McDonald who is on Youtube, here’s his link –

    He’s helped a lot of people get healthy and there are many stories of people recovering from different types of cancers. He focuses mainly on getting healthy (cultivating health as he puts it), getting your body in the best condition it can be so it can better fight off disease.

    He has lots of videos and some of them are long(ish) but I recommend having a look.

    All the best,


    • Mat
      Mar 29, 2012 @ 23:58:40

      I appreciate that posts like this one are well-meaning, but I have to say as someone whose wife is battling cancer, I find them a bit insensitive. There’s a new superfood or lifestyle regimine publicised every week for its ‘cancer healing’ properties, and while I agree that eating the right foods and having a healthy lifestyle are essential during treatment and recovery, suggestions that cancer can be ‘cured’ just by eating a certain food or making a small change in the way we live our lives are condescending and irresponsible. It’s one thing to say, for example, that eating a certain food may help relieve the symptoms of chemo, or that regular exercise can reduce your chances of recurrence, but it’s something else altogether to throw around words like ‘recover’ and ‘cure’ and attribute them to something as simple as diet. Believe me, we all wish it was that simple.


  323. Kathryn
    Mar 28, 2012 @ 23:15:55

    Hi Ellie, I think I saw you and your boyfriend on the tube this evening… I wanted to come over and say how much you inspire me but I didn’t want to interrupt your evening so I am saying it now! Thank you for writing your blog and sharing your experience – unfortunately everyone knows someone affected by cancer and reading your blog gives some insight, however small, into what it must be like. You really are an inspiration. I hope the wedding plans are going well!

    Thinking of you, all the best.



  324. jonsumm67
    Mar 29, 2012 @ 19:02:51


    I check this site often and though we’ve never met your blog, your insights, your courage is inspiring in so many ways. I must admit when I see there’s no update I say a little prayer that everything is still okay with you. Please know that there’s people around the world (I’m in America) praying for your recovery and sending you every positive thought, vibe and wish we can.

    Keep believing. Keep fighting. Keep smiling.



  325. MizzyIdiot
    Apr 01, 2012 @ 22:23:15

    Mat, I left a post last month regarding the Gerson Diet. As you will see reading the book, it isn’t just about juicing a carrot and throwing it back. It covers conventional drugs as well as supplementation, physio-anatomy. It is highly complexed, extremely demanding and is beginning to be recognised by many physicians including oncologists. In America and Europe anyway. I have MS, have been following the diet for two months and already, the legs are feeling less heavy and the after effects from the weekly injections have been halved. In time, hopefully, I’ll be able to return to my role as an Argentine Tango and Yoga teacher.

    May I also add that my cousin was diagnosed with cancer and given just six weeks to live. She eventually passed but from quite a separate illness – 20 plus years later.


  326. Mat
    Apr 02, 2012 @ 00:30:44

    Hi Mizzy,

    I appreciate your comments, and it’s important for me to stress that I believe diet, exercise and healthy lifestyle changes are vital ingredients in the battle against cancer, or any other illness for that matter. I also recognise that modern medicine certainly doesn’t have all the answers, and my wife and I have both been very open to alternative treatments since her diagnosis. I also have no problem with any health regimine you choose to follow. If it works for you, excellent.

    My issue is with suggestions that there is a simple cure just sitting there, and we’ve somehow missed it. These suggestions are no doubt well-meaning, but they are also quite patronising, particularly when they come from someone who has not had to personally deal with the rigours of fighting a serious disease.

    One thing I’ve learnt as a cancer carer is that people are preconditioned to make conversation and offer suggestions – even if they have no real stake in what should be a serious discussion. I don’t play soccer, yet if I was chatting to a stranger at a party and they mentioned they loved soccer, I’d try and come up with some vaguely soccer-related anecdote to simply make polite chit-chat. It’s the same with cancer. Tell a stranger your wife is going through cancer treatment, and you’ll often get a ‘oh, my friend died of that’, or a ‘don’t worry – I’m sure she’ll be fine’, or (my personal favourite) ‘have you tried juju berries/raw beetroot/stewed prunes/etc. I hear they can cure cancer.’

    I’m not trying to be unkind. I’m simply pointing out that the battle against cancer is long, painful and complicated. And suggestions that there is a simple miracle cure that can make all the surgery, chemo and radiotherapy redundant don’t help, no matter how good the intentions behind them.

    I’ve probably hijacked Ellie’s excellent blog for long enough, so I’ll leave it there! Good luck to all the people out there who have to battle for their health, and to the people who take care of them.



  327. Hannah
    Apr 08, 2012 @ 14:40:24

    Hi Ellie, I’ve been reading your blog for a while now and I thought it was time I said hello! Thank you so much for sharing your experiences with us – I hope I can use what you’ve taught me to help others. I hope today’s a good day and I’m sending you lots of happy vibes!

    Hannah x


  328. Rae
    Apr 13, 2012 @ 17:37:21

    Hi Ellie,
    I’m not sure if my last comment made it to you. My sister sent me your blog as i was diagnosed with breast cancer in Feb – i am in my 30’s. I have had 1 round of FEC and have my portacath fitted next week.
    I just wanted to say i think you are really inspirational and i want to say a heartfelt thank you for sharing how you feel. I can really relate to how you feel about your partner and work. I too have met the man i want to share the rest of my life with and then this shit gets in the way a little.
    Sending you lots of love and hugs.


  329. Edel
    Apr 17, 2012 @ 20:59:23

    Hi Ellie , I have followed your story from the first post but never posted until now. You are so brave and you have your whole life ahead of you. So looking forward to seeing Wedding photos prove them wrong all the way 🙂 x


  330. Rob & Marion
    Apr 19, 2012 @ 16:42:42

    Hi Ellie, We have followed your story for a while and wanted to say hello but have not been sure what to say.
    Words can not say how much admiration we feel for you, And the strength you must give others.
    We first met you when you were a little girl living just around the corner from us.
    John was a pal of our Sons ( Nikky & Andrew Broumley).
    We would like to send you our best wishes and keep strong.

    Rob & Marion


  331. Liane Richardson
    Apr 20, 2012 @ 19:13:44

    My dear Ellie, I was tuned into your blog by my stepdaughter today and I am so glad she did. I too have secondary breast cancer in the brain and have been through some horrible whole brain radiotherapy at xmas, THis is the third time it has come back, although I am 61 so have had a good length of life. i am so impressed by your attitude and courage and I wish you well in your fight against this wretched disease. I will be thinking of you every day and sending prayers and positive thoughts. Bless you and lots of love.


  332. Karen
    Apr 25, 2012 @ 13:49:52

    God Bless you.


  333. Teresa
    May 04, 2012 @ 21:58:48

    Ellie? are you doing ok? – just want you to know you are never far from my thoughts……
    much love x


  334. harriparf
    May 08, 2012 @ 14:13:33

    Just wow. I always hoped my blog would inspire young people in some way, but I just prattle on! sending love and hope your way xox


  335. Amanda (Mandy) Daniels
    May 09, 2012 @ 19:42:48

    Will be thinking of you this weekend when I do the first of 3 Moonwalks to raise money for breast cancer research. London on Saturday night, Edinburgh 9th June and Iceland 16th June. However hard the going gets, it will be nothing to what you have gone through. What are a few blisters in comparison.
    Keep on fighting!
    Mandy (Your mum knows who I am)


  336. Sarah
    May 11, 2012 @ 13:33:02

    Hi Ellie, I hope you are doing ok. You are an amazing woman and I don’t think I would have been able to cope with my own cancer journey without your blog to turn to and inspire me. I am so happy that you stuck to your wishes for a wedding in June and didn’t let the Dr’s dictate your life. I recently married, and although I got married at the time of year I wanted, we were slightly influenced by the Dr’s recommendations for what we should do and when. I am sure you will have the most fantastic day, I even managed to forget I was ill for most of it.

    I admire your determination Ellie, and am delighted that you have so far shown the Dr’s you are not going to give in to this and have outlived your original prognosis. I also admire your willingness to share such a personal journey with the world. I am still in complete denial nearly a year on and cannot talk to anyone. Your blog has been a huge help in this, especially with you being around the same age, having similar issues such as thinking about having children and buying houses – your blog posts for these popped up when I had been having a really hard time worrying about these things, it was strange!

    Despite my own illness, I think about you all the time and wonder how you are coping and feeling (that sounds a bit stalkerish, its not meant too!) and hope that you beat this thing.

    Have fun in the run up to the wedding, and I hope you have a fantastic day.

    Sarah x


  337. Emily
    May 17, 2012 @ 21:46:05

    I found this through a tweet about a blog (by ladycurd). I’ve just spent atleast 2 hours reading through all your entries (I have an awful lot of college work to be doing, but this has been time well spent!) You haven’t blogged in a while, I hope you are okay. Very much looking forward to hearing all about your wedding, you will be beautiful regardless of whether or not your hair grows back in time!
    With love and best wishes,
    Emily xx


  338. Megan
    May 18, 2012 @ 10:51:45

    I have just looked on twitter for you to see if there was any update on how you were. RIP angel, taken to soon. He only takes the good ones. Sleep tight my thoughts are with your family, family and friends you really were an inspiration xxx


  339. Jill
    May 18, 2012 @ 16:30:24

    Ellie Australia loves you and our hearts are broken!


  340. Michelle Appleyard
    May 18, 2012 @ 17:05:47

    Just heard the sad news, Ellie you were an inspiration and will be missed! God bless you Xx


  341. Carolyn
    May 18, 2012 @ 17:29:55

    Have just heard the sad news, my heart goes out to all family and loved ones. Stay strong.


  342. Adrian Roberts
    May 18, 2012 @ 18:07:26

    So sorry to hear of your tragic death at such a young age. Your blog has been inspiring.


  343. Reenie
    May 18, 2012 @ 20:38:23

    Oh Ellie, it’s just heartbreaking, you were so close to your wedding day that meant so much to you. It’s a special person who touches the lives of people who they’ve never met and that’s what you’ve done. I had the pleasure of working with you briefly and have followed your journey through this blog. You didn’t know it but I laughed with you and cried with you. I also believed that you were too strong to let this beat you. I’m sorry that wasn’t true. Don’t think for one minute you havn’t made a difference. You’ve left behind a legacy. I and many others will never forget the courage and sheer balls you’ve shown. I am in awe of how you lived and sadly how you died. My love goes out to your family, friends and Tom. I hope you and them know that you left a mark – you made a difference. I will always remember you xxxx


  344. Lyndsay
    May 18, 2012 @ 20:47:15

    The sadness news I’ve heard in a long time. RIP With the angels Ellie xxxxxx


  345. Eve Lyth
    May 18, 2012 @ 20:51:42

    Good night God Bless Ellie, you were an inspiration, at peace now xx


  346. Hannah
    May 18, 2012 @ 23:32:58

    Rest in peace x have followed this blog and been in complete awe of you. Lots of love to your family and friends xxx


  347. Marley Wilson
    May 19, 2012 @ 06:57:08

    So sorry to hear of the sad news! my thoughts are with Tom! xxx


  348. Prue
    May 19, 2012 @ 08:33:31

    Tom – this is for you, I send you & Elle’s family love & strength. What a truly amazing wonderful human being Elle was & she fought the big C as much as she possibly could, inspirational xxx


  349. fromthemadhouse
    May 19, 2012 @ 08:38:47

    I’ve just read your blog from start to the last entry. My heart breaks at a snatched life. RIP Ellie, love and strength to those you leave behind xxxx


  350. Eleanor
    May 19, 2012 @ 08:51:49

    May you sleep in peace always knowing you have left a legacy of wonderful words


  351. Louise
    May 19, 2012 @ 11:45:43

    My heart is broken EJ. Thinking of the ones you left behind who love you so much. Night shifts were better with you. Rest in Peace, beautiful. You deserve it xxxxx


  352. Heygimmeabreak
    May 20, 2012 @ 23:33:51

    Goodby Laura. I followed you since a set off for a round-the-world tour. Your posts and the thought of you followed me in places like Northern India, the Australian bareer reef, the Antarctic sea, and other amazing places. I came back few days ago and I grew increasingly worried because I didn’t see any post from my brave and funny and inspiring travel companion. Somehow I wanted to be reassured that we both arrived back home safe and sound. Unfortunately this was not the case. I hope that your spirit is flying and dancing somewhere around this beautiful floating pearl that we call Earth. On the other side I already know that bits of your spirit are staying here, like little glittering grains of sand, growing inside the hearts and minds of those who read this blog and who will read it in the future. Thank you for passing by and for being so generous. Miss u. Love.


  353. Jo, North Yorks
    May 21, 2012 @ 08:16:22

    I’ve just read this post after following Ellie’s blog for the past few months. I feel so so sad that she didn’t make her dream wedding. Life is so cruel. I just want to send my love to Tom and all Ellie’s family and friends. I never knew her but feel like I got to know her through her wonderful writing. She was such a brave, inspirational person and I hope her legacy lives on . RIP Ellie xx


  354. Tony
    May 21, 2012 @ 09:46:54

    An English Rose that is now gone. Bye Ellie, never forgotten.
    Love all



  355. Sue Bell
    May 21, 2012 @ 10:29:09

    Ellie sending you so much love from South Africa, devastated to hear about your passing. Tom – wishing you lots of strength during this difficult time. Ellie is free from pain and suffering xxxx


  356. Victoria
    May 22, 2012 @ 03:42:13

    Dear Tom and Family,
    I’m so sorry to hear about beautiful Ellie. I was extremely lucky to have met her a few years ago through friends and she is simple inspirational. I’m so sorry for your loss.
    Take care,
    Victoria xxxx


  357. Mirjam
    May 22, 2012 @ 07:27:55

    Dear Tom and all Ellies loved ones,

    I’m shocked by this horrible news. I was hoping to read about the wedding soon and not about losing the fight. A unfair fight that Ellie took on so brave! She was an example for all of us! I wish you al a lot of strenght!!!! Ellie you will be missed, even by me who did not even met you in person.

    Mirjam from Holland


  358. Jo, North Yorks
    May 22, 2012 @ 10:27:17

    So so sorry Ellie didn’t make her dream wedding to Tom – it’s so sad. I didn’t know her but was truly captivated by her blog and soo wished her a future with you all. RIP Ellie x


  359. Jane
    May 22, 2012 @ 15:44:49

    Tom ,Ellies family I am soo very sorry for this very sad news, Ellie sounded like a wonderful person another bright star in th sky, RIP Ellie x


  360. Andrea
    May 22, 2012 @ 20:07:14

    So sorry to hear the news of Ellie. Her blog has clearly been and inspitration and help to so many people – and will continue to do so once it is in print. I hope all of her loved ones find peace in whatever way you can.x


  361. Emma nichols
    May 26, 2012 @ 20:23:36

    What a brave and wonderful young woman tragically taken by this horrid disease. I was diagnosed in December age 42 and had a double mastectomy in January but I was lucky it was early stage and small. I send all my love to Tom and Ellie’s family xxx


  362. Olga (CYPRUS)
    May 30, 2012 @ 08:09:49

    Tom, Chris & Keith + Ellie’s family. I have been reading Ellie’s blog since last August . Cant find appropraite words to tell you that could any way capture the loss of your loved one, who touched the hearts of so many people with her undefying spirit and bravery. I will however think of you and pray to God to give you strength and courage over the next few days. Ellie RIP


  363. Pam Giles
    Jun 07, 2012 @ 22:47:15

    My words fail me. I have written this message 4 times now…..Inspiring, hope and love are the words that come to mind after reading Ellie’s blog. My thoughts are with all of Ellie’s friends and family, keep strong guys xxx


  364. gill
    Jun 09, 2012 @ 23:40:34

    Oh my God…..I never thought that ellie wouldn’t make it. I absolutely am shocked that cancer cannot be beaten by sheer determination….the kind that Ellie had…O my God..what the hell will cure cancer. What a horrid horrid thing to happen.Tom, your letter that you didn’t want to ever write was amazing and your wedding speech would have made Ellie feel fantastic and so loved by you. I’m terribly sorry , your heart must be breaking. So sorry for you all. Gill Cooper x


  365. Lorna
    Jun 11, 2012 @ 15:45:48

    Devastating news to hear the loss of such an amazing, inspirational and courageous young woman, I lost my dear mom to cancer 18 months ago but to know that someone the same age as me with so much to live for should also be taken by this horrible disease makes this even more tragic. I’ve always found comfort in this poem and I hope Ellies family, friends and of course Tom find some kind of comfort in this poem as well, my thoughts and prayers are with you….

    Look for me in Rainbows
    Time for me to go now, I won’t say goodbye;
    Look for me in rainbows, way up in the sky.
    In the morning sunrise when all the world is new,
    Just look for me and love me, as you know I loved you.
    Time for me to leave you, I won’t say goodbye;
    Look for me in rainbows, high up in the sky.
    In the evening sunset, when all the world is through,
    Just look for me and love me, and I’ll be close to you.
    It won’t be forever, the day will come and then
    My loving arms will hold you, when we meet again.
    Time for us to part now, we won’t say goodbye;
    Look for me in rainbows, shining in the sky.
    Every waking moment, and all your whole life through
    Just look for me and love me, as you know I loved you.
    Just wish me to be near you,
    And I’ll be there with you.

    Lorna x


  366. Katy
    Jun 11, 2012 @ 16:04:38

    Tom and family/friends, I am sincerely sorry to hear of your loss. I read this blog a few months back at work and lost touch with it until seeing the article on Daily Mail today. What beautiful pictures are on this website, some of which I’m sure you will treasure forever. Life is so unimaginably cruel and unexplainable – they always take the best ones. I wanted to share something with you that someone said to me when I lost my father at 24 (you can adapt it as it won’t make sense otherwise) – He will always be your father and you will always be his daughter, no one – nothing – even death – can take that away from you.
    I hope you find the courage and strength to go on


  367. Elena
    Jun 11, 2012 @ 16:35:36

    Rest in peace Ellie, you are a true true inspiration. My thoughts are with Tom and Ellie’s friends and family – wishing you all the strength in the world. x


  368. Liz based in Devon
    Jun 11, 2012 @ 17:37:23

    Hi Tom, just read this through a link from a newspaper. What a brave and courageous lady Ellie was. I am so sorry for your loss. Ellie was a remarkable woman, but I want you to remember, she could not have gone through those highs and lows without you. You are a strong and wonderful man, Ellie was very lucky that she met you. Be good to yourself too.


  369. Chloe
    Jun 11, 2012 @ 21:10:55

    What a beautiful blog written in such tragic circumstances. Cancer is a bitch and never stops hurting people and tearing their lives apart, but its the way we deal with it and how we choose to live our lives and learn from it. Ellie, your family and friends should all be immensely proud of you and your fight and I’m sure they are. Rest in peace.


  370. Lisa
    Jun 11, 2012 @ 21:15:03

    I found your link on the daily mail. You area very inspirational woman and this Blog is amazing. It really makes you think about the silly things we think are problems. I am so sorry you didn’t make your dream wedding. Rip Ellie xxxx My thoughts are with your family and to Tom, I’m so sorry for your loss. xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx


  371. rebecca
    Jun 11, 2012 @ 22:03:16

    I’ve just discovered this amazing blog. I’m 34 and just recovering from chemo and radiotherapy for Lymphoma. Reading Ellie’s story, her courage, optimism and strength have made me wake up and realise how lucky I am to be surviving this. Cancer is so vicious, for the mind and the body. Ellie is simply inspirational.


  372. louise smith
    Jun 11, 2012 @ 23:47:09

    Reading this is just heartbreaking. Ellie you were truly inspirational throughout your terrible cancer ordeal!! Life just doesn’t seem fair that somebody so beautiful, talented and so full of life gets cancer!! My sister in law has terminal cancer and just reading your Blog has given me an insight into what she must be going through mentally. It’s a cruel disease and thankyou for sharing everything with us. Rest in Peace Ellie xxx


  373. louise smith
    Jun 11, 2012 @ 23:48:31

    my thoughts are with Tom and Ellie’s family


  374. Agung
    Jun 12, 2012 @ 09:23:31

    I don’t even know you, but i’m feeling very sad after hear your news..
    May you happy over there, live long at God’s side.


  375. agunghn
    Jun 12, 2012 @ 09:25:51

    I don’t even know you, but i feeling very sad when hear your news..
    Thank’s for your story.. RIP Ellie.


  376. Ria
    Jun 12, 2012 @ 10:52:12

    RIP Ellie. I have never known u but u have touched the lives of so many of us…u r so inspiring and a wonderful human being!


  377. Jo, North Yorks
    Jun 12, 2012 @ 12:51:43

    I wish Tom and Elli’s family all the love in the world. What a gorgeous girl x


  378. Jules
    Jun 12, 2012 @ 19:00:26

    So very moved by what I have read. Whilst its a sad story I would be so proud of Ellie if I had known her and she really was an inspirational lady x


  379. Bethan, Wales
    Jun 13, 2012 @ 11:59:57

    Rest in peace Ellie. What a positive beautiful young lady, a credit to her family. Tom keep positive like Ellie xx


  380. Nella, Middlesbrough
    Jun 14, 2012 @ 11:01:20

    Only got to hear about this blog a few days ago and have read it from start to finish. What a truly inspirational woman Ellie was. Such courage and bravery, I’m sure everyone who knew and loved her must be so proud. How tragic that she never got to have the dream wedding she wanted, but she was truly blessed to have the love and support of such a wonderful man, family and friends. Although their lives will seem emptier without her, they were enriched by having known her and by her being in their lives for the short time she was here. I hope that now she is finally at peace and free from pain. Sadly the pain will linger on for those who she left behind, but I hope that in time, that pain will ease a little and become more manageable. They all will have a hard road to travel down in the coming months and they will each travel down it in their own way. Hopefully, the memory of Ellie will always be strong in their hearts and they will sense her close with each step they take. My thoughts and prayers go out to all of them. RIP Ellie… Thank you for bravely sharing your journey with everyone and reinforcing the importance of perspective.


  381. steve
    Jun 14, 2012 @ 21:38:13

    To Tom. I’m a stranger. I came across this blog via a newspaper. Reading Ellie’s posts have moved me beyond believe. She sounded truely wonderful. I’m so sorry for you and so sorry for Ellie. May she live on in all your hearts forever. Best. Steve


  382. Jill
    Jun 15, 2012 @ 21:59:31

    As a breast cancer survivor of almost 14 years I can only say my heart goes out to you. I always hated being described as brave, you just deal with the situation to the best of your ability, But Ellie was brave and an inspiration, and I can only hope that if I find myself in the same position I will deal with it in the same dignified manner Ellie did.


  383. Rebecca graham
    Jun 17, 2012 @ 20:58:06

    I have only just discovered Ellie’s blog and feel touched by her inspiring words. I lost a 22 year old friend to cancer-it truely is a horrific disease and it amazes me how positive and selfless the victims of cancer are! I am so disappointed I am too late to express my feelings to Ellie herself but it is great to see how one person can touch so many people’s lives! If only there were more ellies in the world…….


  384. Sanja Ciganovic
    Jun 27, 2012 @ 09:56:46

    Just found blog fter visiting local magazine
    First sentence is “Their love is immortal”.
    Three loving persons around me are figthing cancer. It makes me beleive that each day of life should be lived as it is the last one, to have joy in heart always.
    I hope Elli’s soul will find it’s way to immortality, and Tom will keep memory of her.

    Wishing you all the best, Sanja from Belgrade, Serbia


  385. Kira
    Jul 02, 2012 @ 21:24:11

    I’ve read this blog a few times now and it’s stuck with me. The ups and downs I’ve personally experienced through my own cancer ordeal and my moms departure from the same disease. Having cancer at a young age really sucks but like Ellie, family, friends, loved ones and faith gets you through it.
    Tom you are super amazing and although I don’t know you, know that your love did more for Ellie than you could ever imagine.
    RIP Ellie
    Keep strong Tom


  386. Conny Pedersen
    Jan 08, 2013 @ 22:35:14

    Kære Tot.
    Du har mange gode minder om en fantastisk dejlig og smuk pige. Vi tænker på jer meget tit. De få timer, vi var sammen i Spanien, gav os et godt billede af to fantastiske mennesker, der nød hinanden.
    Vi ønsker dig et godt 2013.
    Tanker fra Danmark


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