Memories of Ellie

Since my last post we’ve had both Ellie’s funeral in Middlesbrough and a memorial service for her in London. We’ve celebrated her amazing life and many people have been in touch to say how much her blog and her life have inspired them. I’d like to thank all those who helped to organise those events, who have donated to the chosen charities, who have sent messages of support; it is all hugely appreciated.

Plans are afoot to set up a charity in Ellie’s name; in life she had a wonderful ability to bring people together – the sheer volume of comments on this blog are a testament to that – and I think that she could leave no more appropriate legacy than an organisation which helps people who find themselves in similar situations to support each other. It may take a little while before it’s up and running, but I will keep you posted on the blog as and when we have something definite to show for our efforts.

In the meantime I’d like to thank visitors old and new for continuing to come to the blog. Many people have told me that they feel like they knew Ellie from reading her words, but here is a link to a short video tribute we played on the day of her memorial which will hopefully allow you to get to know her a bit better. She was quite simply the most wonderful person I have ever known…

My beautiful Ellie

About these ads

161 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. Kimberly Waller
    Jun 11, 2012 @ 20:42:45

    What an amazing tribute to Ellie. I never knew her but was so inspired by her blogs. I cant begin to imagine the sense of loss that you all feel for her. I will definitely support her charity xxx

    Reply

  2. Elizabeth
    Jun 11, 2012 @ 20:45:31

    Just beautiful. And so heartbreaking.
    Thanks for sharing.
    xx

    Reply

  3. Lara Livingstone (@divasdelite)
    Jun 11, 2012 @ 20:51:42

    Captivating, heartwarming and so incredibly sad. I can’t thank you enough for posting this Tom -xx-

    Reply

  4. zeenat
    Jun 11, 2012 @ 20:53:35

    May you all have courage during this time. May God look after her. Prayers are with you all.

    Reply

  5. Rachel
    Jun 11, 2012 @ 20:55:12

    Very sad Ellie didn’t get to be your wife, but the words you have written show us all that a sheet of paper wouldn’t have made a bit of difference. You had a relationship most of us can only dream of. I am a new member of the C Club, my husband, and father of our four young children, has a very poor prognosis. I found this blog too late to tell Ellie how her words have helped me cope with these first few days of shellshock. She was a truly wonderful woman.

    Be strong. x

    Reply

  6. Laura smith
    Jun 11, 2012 @ 20:56:34

    You are both in my eyes a true insperation. Such a beautiful girlie……remember to keep smiling Tom xxxx

    Reply

  7. Jill Gale
    Jun 11, 2012 @ 20:56:50

    My thoughts are with you all. Such a moving tribute
    A loved one never really leaves you they live in your heart and mind forever.
    May Ellie shine on brighter than the sun she lived for every moment x

    Reply

  8. MistressBrindello
    Jun 11, 2012 @ 21:06:29

    I’m in the same position as you were a few months ago Tom. I feel so sad for your loss and so scared of mine to come xxxxxx

    Reply

  9. Catharina
    Jun 11, 2012 @ 21:07:42

    Thank you so much for sharing Tom xx

    Reply

  10. Kerry Lyons (@TheLyonsTamer)
    Jun 11, 2012 @ 21:08:09

    For those of us who didn’t have the fortune of meeting Ellie in person…thank you so much for finding the strength to post and to share such a wonderful video and insight into her life. I have been moved to many tears whilst following her blog over many months, but not quite so many as I shed today watching your video and reading your beautiful post and vows. My heart goes out to all who knew and loved her…she has left an incredible legacy that you should all take some comfort in.

    My thoughts are with you all xxx

    Reply

  11. Sarah
    Jun 11, 2012 @ 21:12:15

    It’s a lovely film, one can see that she was a beautiful woman, inside and out and very loved. Sorry for your loss.

    Reply

  12. Annette
    Jun 11, 2012 @ 21:13:40

    I had no idea of just how much Ellie had achieved in her short years; the video was so moving.
    I dont know how you all managed to produce it but you did and thank you to you all for letting us see so much more of her.
    I started to follow Ellies blog after her piece in the Irish Daily Mail (I think?) last Aug 2011; I’m a nurse living in Co Kerry, Ireland.
    May Ellie rest in peace and God walk with you all each step of your life.
    Annette.
    X

    Reply

  13. Nicky
    Jun 11, 2012 @ 21:18:33

    A beautiful tribute!

    Reply

  14. Lynn
    Jun 11, 2012 @ 21:28:02

    Dearest Tom, I know the desperate feeling that terminal cancer brings. At first it’s relief that they are no longer in pain but then the yearning feeling of wanting and missing them sweeps over you. Ellie was an inspiration. I really wish she could have beaten it. Stay strong, memories live forever xxxxxx

    Reply

  15. Carol
    Jun 11, 2012 @ 21:28:21

    Just beautiful. Wish I could have known her.

    Reply

  16. Lisa Severin
    Jun 11, 2012 @ 21:33:18

    What a wonderful tribute video, thank you for letting me get to know her better. She is even more inspiring to watch x

    Reply

  17. Chloe Greene
    Jun 11, 2012 @ 21:34:48

    Such a beautiful tribute for an amazing unforgettable woman.

    Tom – you and Ellie have been in my thoughts so much since I heard of Ellie’s death and read your moving tribute to her shortly after her death.
    When you wrote: “She was everything to me” it brought tears to my eyes.

    I wish you could have had longer together but you had a special love.

    Do keep us all posted about the charity because Ellie did have an extraordinary ability to bring people together and to remind us all about what really matters.

    Reply

  18. Natti
    Jun 11, 2012 @ 21:38:05

    I didnt know Ellie but followed her inspiring blog – what an amazing tribute. You must all be so proud of such a lovely and inspirational person. Thoughts are with you x x

    Reply

  19. Claire
    Jun 11, 2012 @ 21:38:24

    I’m so desperately sorry for your loss. The video tribute is beautiful. It moved me to tears. What a beautiful person. She clearly gave and received so much love in her short life.

    Reply

  20. sandra
    Jun 11, 2012 @ 21:40:17

    what a lovely tribute to a lovely lady she is so inspiring thinking of you at this really sad time sandra

    Reply

  21. Pam Hirst
    Jun 11, 2012 @ 21:43:48

    I feel very privileged to have been able to share that beautiful tribute. Thank you Tom.

    Reply

  22. Patricia Springbett
    Jun 11, 2012 @ 21:49:04

    Thank you Tom for this moving tribute for all Ellie’s followers to read. What a gorgeous, amazing girl and what a waste. I was so sorry that she didn’t make your wedding and that you have lost her.
    Please keep us all informed of the charity in Ellie’s name. The Lavender Trust is a charity that helps young women who have breast cancer, so is a similar one to the charity you wish to start, and they may be able to give you advice.
    I have tears, watching this lovely tribute, as it brings back the time after my own daughter’s death, and she was SO similar to Ellie in that she was full of life and had a wicked sense of humour. Her grave stone reads:
    “She whom we so love is no longer where she used to be but everywhere we are” and it may comfort you to think along those lines.
    I hope you remember her with a smile.
    Thoughts are with you and her parents.
    Paddy XXX

    Reply

  23. Ben
    Jun 11, 2012 @ 21:49:55

    Stunning video for a stunning person!

    Reply

  24. Penny
    Jun 11, 2012 @ 21:56:41

    Tom, thank you for sharing your memories of Ellie. She was clearly an amazing woman. I think that setting up a charity in her name will be a wonderful legacy.

    Reply

  25. Rae
    Jun 11, 2012 @ 21:59:35

    It’s a beautiful tribute. Thank you for sharing it with us, and I hope I hear more about the charity.

    Reply

  26. Helen Weekley (AKA Helen Field)
    Jun 11, 2012 @ 22:00:39

    Hi Tom I just wanted to say how beautiful Ellies funeral was and that after travelling the 5 hour journey to be there something very special happened. Not only was her funeral everything as beautiful as she is she also managed to bring together old school friends and share some amazing memories.
    We all sat together at Marske and talked about our childhood together and how Ellie was so funny and stories about school and the mischief we used to get up to.
    We all wished she’d been with us to share the memories but as we talked I know she’d have been smiling down because on such a sad day she created something very special, she gave us back friendship that Ellie was always part of and that just sums up how very special Ellie was.
    Please can you send my love to Keith and all the family. I only got to hug Keith on the day but can you tell him I’m on facebook and we’d all like to keep in touch.
    I’m so sorry for everything Tom and your tribute was stunning. Your love for each other is truely beautiful xxxxxx

    Reply

  27. Mags
    Jun 11, 2012 @ 22:07:19

    Dear Tom,

    What a lovely tribute to Ellie. You must be so proud of her and must miss her so much.

    I read about you both a while ago and again in the papers this week. I understood her fear of dying and leaving you on your own. I have had cancer twice, breast cancer and leukaemia and my biggest fear has always been about leaving my boyfriend (now fiance) to cope without me. I have had to think about it a lot and it scares me so much. My idea of heaven is looking down on him and the rest of my family and seeing them happy and my idea of hell would be looking down and seeing them sad. I know it is too early for this but I wish you the best and lots of happy memories of your beautiful Ellie.

    Best wishes,
    Mags

    Reply

  28. Helen Cartlidge
    Jun 11, 2012 @ 22:18:04

    Tom, what lovely words. Thinking of you all at this horrible time. A charity in her name would be so appropriate and I wish you well in your endeavours to bring this about. Much love to you and Ellie’s family.

    Reply

  29. Kirsty Y.
    Jun 11, 2012 @ 22:27:18

    A beautiful tribute to such a beautiful lady. Thank you for sharing. You have all been in my thoughts a lot lately, just a stranger who got to ‘know’ Ellie and you through this blog. The whole thing is just heartbreaking, and seems so cruel and unfair. Wishing you lots of strength Tom, and both families. She has left a lasting mark on so many peoples lives. She was one of a kind. xxx

    Reply

  30. Julie Evans
    Jun 11, 2012 @ 22:29:24

    Such a beautiful tribute befitting of a beautiful lady. Made me cry at the sheer impact Ellie had on so many people. Thank you for this Tom. Would love to support the charity in any small way. RIP Ellie x

    Reply

  31. Mrs. Cindy Dinsmore
    Jun 11, 2012 @ 22:31:08

    Tom

    What a special video of Ellie through the years, I thank you so much for leting us share these photo’s and messages. I wish you and her family and friends the strength you will need to carry you forward at this time. I hope that you can get something up and running in Ellies memory, she touched so many people while she was fighting cancer and it would be an honour in her memory to have a lasting tribute.

    Love to you all

    Cindy

    Reply

  32. Amy H
    Jun 11, 2012 @ 22:36:44

    Thank you so much for sharing, Ellie was an inspiration and it was lovely to see more about her life.

    Reply

  33. Katie H
    Jun 11, 2012 @ 22:41:23

    What a wonderful video, thank you for sharing it with all her blog readers. You remain in my thoughts, especially this week. Stay strong. There’s a song by Alice Martineau called Inside of Me – personally i found that it helped me feel close to a lost loved one, maybe it can help you to…

    Reply

  34. makemeadiva
    Jun 11, 2012 @ 22:42:36

    The generosity of spirit in Ellie and all of those who love her is profoundly moving. Thank you.

    Reply

  35. Adrian
    Jun 11, 2012 @ 22:47:59

    A beautiful and befitting tribute Tom. Ellie touched so many people’s hearts and was inspiring to the last. Thank you for sharing your memories with us all. God bless you and Ellie.

    Reply

  36. ali p
    Jun 11, 2012 @ 22:52:45

    An amazing and emotional tribute, made by the people she loved the most…..the perfect way to say, not goodbye….but ‘Au Revoir’ xx

    Reply

  37. Bethany
    Jun 11, 2012 @ 22:52:48

    A stunning tribute, please keep us informed about the charity. Thank you.

    Reply

  38. Thomas Crook
    Jun 11, 2012 @ 22:53:13

    Tom –

    Thank you for sharing everything that you and your wife have shared so far. It was so moving to see everything that you had both experienced, and for you to share everything that had formed you up until this point in your life.

    I lost my cousin, and my best friend, to cancer three years ago, when he was 13 and I 15. It doesn’t become any easier as time goes on – truly, the only thing that makes it easier is letting him grow up in my head – going for our first drink together, seeing him drive to my house for the first time, asking him to be my best man, and so on. Ellie’s thoughts have helped these thoughts to come into existence, watching an older person articulate these daily struggles. Thank you.

    Thomas

    Reply

  39. Ally
    Jun 11, 2012 @ 22:58:28

    I was so, so sad to hear of Ellie’s passing, im so sorry for your loss. What a beautiful, heartbreaking tribute. Thank you so much for sharing your story.

    I came across the blog when two of my closest friends were both diagnosed with Ovarian cancer within months of each other. Whilst one of my friends, Mel, seemed resigned to her fate fairly early on in her illness, my other friend, Katie, was determined to fight it. Katie discovered Ellie’s blog and sent us all the link and encouraged us to follow it. She said it described perfectly how she had felt since her diagnosis. We tried to encourage Mel to read it also, but her condition was deteriorating rapidly and it soon became clear we were going to lose her. Mel passed away in September 2011, aged 31.
    From that point, I put my grief for Mel on hold and focused all my energy on Katie and doing all we could do get our lives to play out as normally as possible, whilst this horrible disease took a hold on all of us. Katie continued to read Ellie’s blog and gain strength from it, and much like Ellie, was planning on getting well enough to marry her partner and travel the World with him. We managed to raise over £6000 for cancer charities through various fundraisers which Katie organised. Sadly, despite all the best efforts of the doctors at Christie’s hospital, and our genuine belief that things would improve, we lost Katie in February 2012, aged 29. Her and her partner, Stephen, had a blessing at the hospital minutes before she passed. He has now taken on the role of raising awareness in young women of the importance in knowing early signs of cancer. I honestly believe that without Ellie’s blog, we, as a group of girls two friends down, would not have had the strength to stay as positive as we did. She really was an inspiration and incredibly brave. I only wish there could have been a happier ending to all of this for all involved. X

    Reply

  40. Mags Taylor
    Jun 11, 2012 @ 23:07:11

    Tom,

    Thank you for sharing these wonderful memories of Ellie with us all.

    I’m sure that she will remain in your heart forever. RIP beautiful lady.

    Reply

  41. Raffaella Bigi - Bosetti
    Jun 11, 2012 @ 23:13:42

    Dear Tom, I missed the passing of Ellie, having a sick 6yr old with a platelet count of 4, so my mind has been elsewhere for a while and away from my computer. I am happy to report she is no longer in danger.
    I was devastated to find your email tonight. Thank you for the wonderful tribute to Ellie that you have shared with us all. Ellie was and will be an inspiration to many for many years to come.
    Having been brought up in East Africa, “Safari Njema” Ellie (Godspeed). Fly with the angels now.
    Please keep us updated on the charity.
    Heartfelt condolences to you and the family. Stay strong x

    Reply

  42. Helen Jones
    Jun 11, 2012 @ 23:25:43

    dear tom just look after your self that is what ellie would have wanted love helen and by the way did you know ellie was joshs god mother Paul and I dug out the video today, ellie was about 14 at the time!!!!!

    Reply

  43. Helen Jones
    Jun 11, 2012 @ 23:28:17

    ps re above chris s sister ellies auntie!!!!!!

    Reply

  44. Kg
    Jun 11, 2012 @ 23:29:15

    Thank you Tom for sharing this.
    I don’t know what to say that is right, but you and Ellie shared a connection that some people may only dream of, no one can take away your amazing memories together.

    Reply

  45. Kerry Lester
    Jun 11, 2012 @ 23:54:57

    Dear Tom
    Thank you for sharing Ellie’s beautiful tribute with us all.
    I have followed Ellie through her blog since the article about her first appeared in Grazia. Her writing – so honest and infused with life and determination – and her extraordinary courage never failed to make me pause for thought and wish for a miracle for her. Her loss must be so very hard to bear. My deepest sympathies to you, to Ellie’s family and her many friends. May she rest in peace knowing how very loved she was.

    Reply

  46. Ana
    Jun 11, 2012 @ 23:57:25

    It is heartbreaking to learn that Ellie has died, even if I never personally met her. You have to wonder why God decides to take such innocent, beautiful, pure and lovely human beings to him at such a young age when they are just starting to build up their dreams. Ellie deserved to have such a happy, long life with Tom and her family, and her job and all the things that she loved. I do not have the words to express how sorry I am at her passing. I hoped that her will would conquer cancer but that ‘shit little thing’ took her away. I can only find comfort in knowing that she is not in any pain now, she is no longer suffering. For you Tom, I am so impressed by all the support you have given your wife. Be strong, she wanted you to be strong. For you cancer, let me tell you this: Fuck you, you are unfair, mean, caustic, evil.

    i carry your heart with me
    i carry it in my heart

    i am never without it
    anywhere i go you go, my dear;
    and whatever is done
    by only me is your doing, my darling

    i fear no fate
    for you are my fate, my sweet
    i want no world
    for beautiful you are my world, my true

    and it’s you are whatever a moon has always meant
    and whatever a sun will always sing is you

    here is the deepest secret nobody knows
    here is the root of the root
    and the bud of the bud
    and the sky of the sky of a tree called life;
    which grows higher than soul can hope or mind can hide
    and this is the wonder that’s keeping the stars apart

    i carry your heart
    i carry it in my heart
    —-E. E. Cummings

    Reply

  47. Charlotte
    Jun 12, 2012 @ 00:03:31

    Tom,
    This is the first time I have visited Ellie’s blog but have read about her story in the news. After reading of her cruel and untimely death, I felt compelled to visit the blog and to learn more about this remarkable woman. Her words show her to be a fiery, strong, beautiful and extremely courageous human being and I am in awe of the battle that she fought. Your words are beautiful and I just wanted to write how sorry I am for your heart breaking loss, but hope that you can take comfort in the enduring brightness of her evidently wonderful, lively and vivacious spirit. Thank you for sharing xxx Charlotte x

    Reply

  48. Emma
    Jun 12, 2012 @ 00:06:43

    I came across this blog by accident today after searching for how to support our friend whilst she fights cancer.

    If I’m honest, I only planned on reading one page, yet felt instantly gripped by her words.Now I have been sat at the laptop for two hours with nothing but admiration and complete respect for this amazing, beautiful lady who was determined to live her life to the max and fight this head on.

    Two hours and I feel as though I have known Ellie all my life, I have been through the journey with her. Ellies choice of words throughout meant I felt her sadness, her tears and also the happiness and smiles.

    Tom, your first post had me in floods of tears. I wasn’t expecting that to be the next page and just felt as though it was someone close to me as I read it. You wrote that so beautifull, and as for the speech…perfect.

    I found this blog by accident. Yet in the end, I got the answer I needed thanks to Ellie.

    Q. How do I support my friend?
    A. By keeping fun, smiles and laughter in life and not letting cancer take over.

    Sleep tight Ellie x

    Reply

  49. elfinkate
    Jun 12, 2012 @ 00:11:52

    I came across this blog today, and reading the posts has made me want to be a better, kinder, braver person. I hope you find the strength to move forward, carrying the love you have for her in your heart.

    Reply

  50. Sonya
    Jun 12, 2012 @ 00:14:50

    The tribute video is incredibly beautiful – what an AMAZING woman. She looks like the sort of person that literally everyone would clamour to be friends with. I would be very interested to hear about the charity as it develops; I genuinely found the video inspirational (was incredible to see someone still so full of fun and sunshine even when clearly poorly in hospital). Thank you for posting this xxx

    Reply

  51. Sara Kirby
    Jun 12, 2012 @ 01:22:32

    Dear Tom,
    I had treatment for breast cancer in 2010, and nothing has felt like it’s gone right for me since… My marriage has broken down and I’ve felt very alone. However, since reading the last couple of blog entries by Ellie and yourself, I’ve been struck by how lucky I am to have my life and my 3 amazing children.
    Thank you for sharing your beautiful Ellie, you have both touched my heart. xxx

    Reply

  52. Toni millard
    Jun 12, 2012 @ 01:41:50

    Xxx

    Reply

  53. barbara
    Jun 12, 2012 @ 01:47:30

    Heartbreakingly beautiful tribute to an obviously beautiful person inside and out… what an inspiration xxxx

    Reply

  54. Stacy
    Jun 12, 2012 @ 02:25:40

    Sitting here reading this blog Iam brought to tears and really for the first time realizing that we are not guaranteed tomorrow and that we need to live life to the fullest. Do not take things for granted and appreciate every little thing. What a beautiful tribute to a lovely lady. God bless you Tom and Thank you Ellie for sharing your struggle and helping others realize the important things in life.

    Reply

  55. Jennifer
    Jun 12, 2012 @ 03:26:45

    If writing has become the everlasting window to the soul, then Ellie’s soul is truly beautiful!!!

    Reply

  56. nelly oneill
    Jun 12, 2012 @ 03:39:05

    a lovely bird, we will always remember you miss ellie, take care mr tom.cx

    Reply

  57. Francis Cheung
    Jun 12, 2012 @ 03:48:25

    How heartbreaking it is to hear about her departure!

    Reply

  58. Francis Cheung
    Jun 12, 2012 @ 03:56:58

    Having seen the tribute video, it confirms once again what a great person your Ellie was! She was a true credit to herself, her family and you, Tom!

    Reply

  59. Hugh Leddy
    Jun 12, 2012 @ 04:32:19

    Hi just came across the blog for the first time this morning.Lost our own sister to cancer 6 months ago today.Her husbands name is Tom also,may she rest in peace.

    Reply

  60. Kim
    Jun 12, 2012 @ 06:24:51

    I wish I could have seen that but we cant view it in Germany – something to do with music rights. Anyway, thanks for coming back to update and that’s a great idea to set up a support charity for others.

    Reply

  61. Jessica
    Jun 12, 2012 @ 06:28:38

    Oh my gosh, the tribute video was just wonderful. It showed the world how amazingly beautiful and special she was, both inside and out. She achieved so much in such a short life and was loved by many. I am so sad that she didn’t get the wedding she so deserved, to the love of her life Tom. Thank you so much for sharing.

    Reply

  62. Prue
    Jun 12, 2012 @ 06:30:46

    Thank you Tom …. I lookforward to hearin from you further xxx

    Reply

  63. Lucky
    Jun 12, 2012 @ 07:27:17

    Thank you Tom – what a lovely tribute. You can measure a person by the company they keep, Ellie was special as was everyone else around her. Her family and her friends as well as you all came across as lovely people. Stay strong, life is just not fair sometimes.

    Reply

  64. Susie Kroon
    Jun 12, 2012 @ 07:37:38

    Hi! Tom, I just watched the video, and it’s a beautiful tribute to Ellie. I do pray everyday, for the Lord to comfort you, your family and Ellie’s family. I live overseas, and after reading Ellie’s story in the Mail Online, I started praying for her everyday. We don’t know why the people we love die, but I do pray that you will be strong. God Bless!

    Reply

  65. Alison
    Jun 12, 2012 @ 07:54:22

    A truly beautiful soul, may she rest in peace.

    Reply

  66. Jealemy
    Jun 12, 2012 @ 08:29:57

    Tom, thank you for sharing! All the best (and i really mean it) and stay strong. What an amazing way to be remembered!

    Reply

  67. Gen
    Jun 12, 2012 @ 08:37:44

    Thank you for sharing this precious video. I am so sorry for the loss of Ellie, it makes me deeply sad that such a lovely and loved person is no longer here. Ellie inspires me to be a better person. My heartfelt sympathies are with you and your families.

    Reply

  68. Philippa
    Jun 12, 2012 @ 09:06:29

    Tom and Ellie’s family… you and Ellie have been in my thoughts so much since I learnt that Ellie passed away. Thank you very much for sharing this video tribute which shows what a wonderful person Ellie was. I look forward to learning more about the charity. As it is inspired by Ellie I am sure it will be very special. I know how Ellie often thought about the legacy she’d leave… this charity would be part of an amazing legacy.

    Reply

  69. Caroline De Brun
    Jun 12, 2012 @ 09:22:15

    Tom, you are so brave. Thank you for sharing Ellie with us. Take care of yourself.

    Reply

  70. Frances Bourne
    Jun 12, 2012 @ 09:50:33

    A beautiful tribute to a beautiful and warm person. She has passed on strength to others who are suffering. I hope your lovely memories help ease the pain. x

    Reply

  71. Sarah
    Jun 12, 2012 @ 09:51:08

    Tom, what a lovely way to celebrate Ellie’s life, a life well-lived, even through the tough journey of cancer. I hope you take some comfort from knowing that Ellie has inspired so many of us to live to the full and do something positive to fight this dreadful disease. I happened upon Ellie’s blog whilst having a sneaky look at the headlines during work and was gripped by her honesty and bravery. Having a friend in her thirties who was also being treated for breast cancer it really helped me to understand and appreciate her experience more. I set up a meal rota for a neighbour nearby who was in her first cycle of chemo- a small thing but something which brought together a group of women and created new special friendships. I think a charity would be a wonderful legacy and look forward to hearing about it and supporting it in the future.

    Reply

  72. Margaret Anne Brodie
    Jun 12, 2012 @ 09:54:12

    I have only just read Ellie’s story & courageous brave fight. She looked a lovely lady, with loving family, friends, & Tom. Age is no barrier for cancer we see it all the time. This inspired us to walk. 8 of us, all Nurse’s walked the Edinburgh Moonwalk on 9th June 2012, (on my daughter Clare’s birthday).
    RIP Ellie

    Reply

  73. Anonymous
    Jun 12, 2012 @ 09:56:39

    I hadn’t come across Ellie’s blog until yesterday, and spent my evening reading it from start to finish.
    Her positivity throughout was amazing, and will continue to be an inspiration to all.
    Sending strength to you Tom and to the rest of her family and friends xx

    Reply

  74. sarah
    Jun 12, 2012 @ 10:02:45

    Wow – just sat and watched the tribute with tears pouring down my face after doiscovering this today – what a beautiful girl and what amazing love – my heart and love go to you all xxx

    Reply

  75. Jennifer
    Jun 12, 2012 @ 10:14:32

    Such beauty and spirit… It is clear that although cancer took her from you all, it did not kill her and she lived until the last. With love x

    Reply

  76. Nova Bridle
    Jun 12, 2012 @ 10:47:13

    Moved to tears by that wonderful tribute. She seems to have touched so many people’s lives in a positive way, and I hope the charity will enable her to help others for many years to come. So very sorry for your loss.

    Reply

  77. Alison
    Jun 12, 2012 @ 10:50:31

    Thank you for sharing this, a beautiful person inside and out and the world a lesser place without her although her legacy remains and will continue to inspire people xx

    Reply

  78. Jan
    Jun 12, 2012 @ 10:53:08

    Thankyou Tom for sharing your beautiful memories of Ellie, she will always be an inspiration to those who knew her, and , like me, those who didn’t.
    Jan x

    Reply

  79. Michelle
    Jun 12, 2012 @ 11:20:38

    Dear Tom,

    I am so very sorry for your loss. Ellie was a remarkable young woman who was an inspiration to us all and who will never be forgotten.

    I experienced the same heartbreaking journey with my beloved Ma, who died just over a year ago after a long battle with cancer. Like Ellie, she handled her illness with amazing courage and dignity. I wrote a song for her called ‘My Friend’ that is also dedicated to everyone who has lost a loved one. If you have a moment you can hear it here:- http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NEjnsUJMBvk&feature=plcp

    As my Ma slipped away I whispered :- “You’ll take a piece of me, I’ll keep a piece of you.” I know you will feel the same about Ellie Tom.

    Will be thinking of you and your families over the coming weeks and months.

    Best wishes,

    Michelle

    Reply

  80. Linda Ann McCrea
    Jun 12, 2012 @ 11:26:41

    Dear Tom,
    I believe anyone viewing this delightful but poignant video could not be anything but moved and tearful by your and Ellie`s family`s amazing tribute to her .
    A worthy tribute to a very worthy and precious, lovely girl. So capitivated by your beautiful Ellie as she moved from beautiful, happy and creative little girl to an even more beautiful , dynamic,courageous and adorable young lady who wasn`t afraid to pursue perfection in her journalism,her life and relationships .She so obviously found that `perfection` in you Tom and you in her..
    Stay strong if you can. I shall be remembering you especially ,plus her family and friends in prayer. My love and hugs go to you Tom ,and Ellie`s Mum &Dad from here in Northern Ireland.
    Also really looking forward to news of the Charity in her name soon, as I volunteer for a locally based Cancer Charity. The more there are to raise awareness and funds for research plus practical help to sufferers and families,the better! .
    Love &Blessings always
    Linda Ann McCrea

    Reply

  81. emma huddlestone
    Jun 12, 2012 @ 11:34:46

    Like many others have been reduced to tears reading the blog. First came across the blog a few months ago and deeply saddened here in New Zealand to hear of Ellie`s death. A truly amazing person with tremendous courage and a great sense of humour I would have loved to have as a friend.Her tribute video is testament to who she was and her love for her family , friends and Tom clearly shown. Thinking of you and all her family and wishing you strength

    Emma x

    Reply

  82. Fiona Heagerty
    Jun 12, 2012 @ 11:57:40

    My heart truly goes out to you. She seems like an amazing woman.
    Best wishes
    x

    Reply

  83. ladyleftfieldlover
    Jun 12, 2012 @ 12:05:47

    Thank you so much for sharing this Tom.

    Reply

  84. Chloe
    Jun 12, 2012 @ 12:33:28

    Thank you SO much. I read about her, and I read her blog, and I still didn’t have an idea of just how lovely she was. She loved so many people, and they loved her right back. What a gorgeous person.

    Reply

  85. Stacey Stockdale
    Jun 12, 2012 @ 12:37:58

    What a beautiful tribute to such an amazing and inspirational person. Ellie was so special to so many people. My thoughts are with you Tom and Ellie’s family and friends xx

    Reply

  86. Lisa Evans
    Jun 12, 2012 @ 13:22:23

    Tom I have read many of Ellie’s blogs whilst going through a difficult time in my life and they always gave me hope and courage to face my fears and deal with horrendous issues that I didn’t think I would be able to do. Simply put Ellie had a beautiful soul and she will live on through you, her family and friends. God bless you all and RIP Ellie. xx

    Reply

  87. Sally
    Jun 12, 2012 @ 13:54:30

    I’m so sorry for your loss. What a beautiful woman she was and how lucky to have such a wonderful man to love her.
    I’m in my thirties and have just gone through chemo and radiotherapy for lymphoma. I started to read some of her blog and so much of it resonates with me. It just feels so wrong to be so young with cancer. I often feel so alone with it. It is nice to read something from a young persons perspective. Her words will live on and help many of us out here fighting this disease. xx

    Reply

  88. Alexandra Lind
    Jun 12, 2012 @ 16:26:19

    I want a book and/or a movie to be made of her and her life. She is single-handedly one of the most inspiring, brave, funny, and courageous human beings on this planet. She is the kind of flame that never extinguishes in our hearts. Thank you so much for the beautiful montage of beautiful Ellie. We all love her. xoxo

    Reply

  89. MHK
    Jun 12, 2012 @ 16:32:53

    Beautiful Tom and yes I felt like I knew Ellie by reading her posts. She seemed like such a lovely person. Take care x

    Reply

  90. Lisa Wills
    Jun 12, 2012 @ 17:03:07

    After reading Ellie’s blog from start to finish – I found it touching, funny, frustrating and truly inspiring – what a woman!! You must feel very proud and lucky to have been her love and she yours, thank you for sharing her tribute with us. My condolences to you and her family.

    Reply

  91. Samantha
    Jun 12, 2012 @ 17:14:10

    Tom, I’m not sure what to write at all, I am a widow myself at 36 due to my husband dying of cancer, except to say I feel your pain (well my version of it) My husband died in April and he had a similar attitude to Ellie and didn’t intend to die, or he at least wanted more time (especially the summer, although I think he expected the weather to be good by June!). I feel lucky to have had him in my life but I planned on growing old with him. I have amazing family and friends as you seem to, but if you want to talk to someone who is going though the same thing, please do get in touch. Very very best wishes, Samantha

    Reply

  92. Ann
    Jun 12, 2012 @ 17:14:13

    Have just seen your Tribute to Ellie – thank you. You are ALL very fortunate people to have been in Ellie’s life. I have absolutely no idea how strong your grief is right now but I wish you all peace and strength to cope with each empty second, minute, hour, day. What a beautiful loss to us all – a lovely human being.

    Reply

  93. Jo Gaskin
    Jun 12, 2012 @ 17:20:40

    What an inspiration Ellie was, an amazingly brave and beautiful woman. Your tribute to her is so touching, Tom – it is clear how much you and all your family and friends loved Ellie. You will never forget her and she will be with you always xxx

    Reply

  94. Christina (Athens)
    Jun 12, 2012 @ 17:36:50

    THANK YOU!

    Reply

  95. Kristi-Ann S
    Jun 12, 2012 @ 17:38:51

    i read this blog after seeing the daily mail article and, i am so glad i read them. “There’s a lot of cancer in my family”, i say it often and fairly nonchalantly but every time i think about cancer it rips me up inside. i’m a medical student with one year left to go and i’m supposed to be able to discuss cancer without emotional attachment, to be empathetic but, not get to personal. That is at least what i’m told, i’ve lost an aunt to stomach cancer, an uncle to brain cancer, my grand father and another uncle to prostate cancer and currently have an uncle suffering from metastatic lung cancer. I have watched helplessly as each of these people i love slowly slipped away into fragments of their former selves, while i watched helplessly on the side lines, i think this is my main reason for not only applying for medical school but, sticking with it despite its many stresses and tribulations. this blog helped me feel less alone and helped to remind me of the lives of my loved ones, the positive impact they had on my life, and to remember most importantly that cancer was just a small shitty part of their extra-ordinary lives and like Ellie it did in NO WAY DEFINE THEM. it also helped me to remember that i too need to live my life for the moment and to the fullest, most exceptional capacity it can offer me and, to let go of my fears that cancer will get to everyone in my family and that i too will die young. Ellie is an exceptional woman and i will carry her story with me, along with those of my dearest love ones with every patient i meet in the future so i can be my one version of a prof. hope. May God bless Ellie and all those who sought comfort from her words

    Reply

  96. Nikki Smith
    Jun 12, 2012 @ 18:15:58

    What a lovely tribute to a most amazing lady. I started reading her blog last year and was devastated to hear the news she had passed away so close to your wedding. Even your short video gives a wonderful idea of the sense of life and love that Ellie obviously had. You and Ellie’s family and friends are in my thoughts.

    Reply

  97. anna
    Jun 12, 2012 @ 19:16:12

    A beautiful tribute to a wonderful woman. xxx

    Reply

  98. Elisa
    Jun 12, 2012 @ 20:43:04

    Thank you so much for this video, thank you for sharing your beautiful Ellie with us all.
    I so wanted to know more about her and now I do and all I can say is that this is so unfair and absurd.
    I hope that you are all finding some comfort in each other.
    Elisa xxx

    Reply

  99. lorly
    Jun 12, 2012 @ 20:56:05

    what an incredible link, as if her words were not incredible enough, to encapsulate who she is in those ten minutes and sharing it with everyone is such a kind and lovely thing for you to do, I never have posted or really read any other blogs but always feel compelled to read and comment here, because Ellie drew you in, and kept you there with her courage and inspirational words, and described perfectly just how cancer affected her and those close to her, she touched so many people who never knew her, so how she must have touched those that did know her, words probably can’t describe,
    I know you will always draw strength from what you had, what an incredible person she is, she is still strong here with her words and amazing personality coming through, that talking about Ellie in the past tense just seems wrong, so I haven’t,
    My thoughts are with you, and I know anything you set up in Ellie’s name will be incredible and look forward to hearing all about it,
    take care and loads of good wishes to you and all those who were blessed to know such a clearly beautiful human being xx

    Reply

  100. Anna
    Jun 12, 2012 @ 21:52:00

    What an incredibly touching and amazing tribute. I have truly been touched by Ellie, and send all her friends and family my most heartfelt condolenses.

    Reply

  101. Hellsy
    Jun 12, 2012 @ 21:56:02

    What a lovely person. She has had a profound effect on me over the last few months since I started reading her blog. A reality check for everyone. We must never take anything or anyone for granted. I hold my children that little bit tighter now and feel blessed. Blessed to have them and blessed to have been able to hear Ellie’s thoughts and wisdom on life. Thank you Tom for sharing this with us. I wish you luck in everything you do and feel sure she’ll be right there by your side helping you along this tricky road of life. Keep your chin up x

    Reply

  102. Heather Prouse
    Jun 12, 2012 @ 22:10:41

    Thanks for sharing. A truly amazing woman. Love to you and all the family XX

    Reply

  103. Tina
    Jun 12, 2012 @ 22:30:07

    Thank you Tom for sharing such a beautiful wonderful tribute to an amazing lady, my thoughts go out to you and all Ellie’s family, Such a sad loss, I am sure Ellie would be so proud of you. Please keep us all posted on the charity. I know I must speak for everyone on here, she will be missed by us all, sending love to you and all Ellie’s family. xxxx

    Reply

  104. Tx
    Jun 12, 2012 @ 23:05:28

    Dear Tom, Ellie and Tom’s family and friends:

    Thank you for sharing this beautiful tribute. Words truly seem superfluous at this moment. I never knew Ellie but – as the other regular readers of her blog – I was shocked and deeply saddened to hear of her passing. I am so very sorry that such a beautiful person has been taken from you in such a cruel manner. I cannot begin to try to imagine how hard it must have been for you to see someone so vibrant and full of life being taken over by this horrible disease and how incredibly proud you must be of Ellie for all that she achieved and is still achieving. Tom, Ellie’s words showed me the incredible strength that lies within us all – your love will live on and through her charity provide strength to those in need – what a beautiful legacy to leave behind.

    With my most heartfelt condolences, look after each other and stay strong.
    Tx

    Reply

  105. Marianna
    Jun 13, 2012 @ 04:31:50

    My heart goes out to you and all your family, what a truely amazing woman.Lots of love and strength to you x

    Reply

  106. fay beech
    Jun 13, 2012 @ 04:50:40

    Awesome, what an absolute waste of a beautiful girl, and what a fabulous tribute to her.

    Reply

  107. Claudia
    Jun 13, 2012 @ 08:59:41

    Ellie was such a wonderful person – I had the pleasure of working with her at TFM and she always brightened up my morning! Like everyone else I was devastated when she died and so close to the wedding. It was however lovely to see this tribute and feel her presence once again. I’m certain she will never be forgotten and always be loved. Rest in peace lovely Ellie x

    Reply

  108. Jennieflorist
    Jun 13, 2012 @ 09:17:39

    Thanks for sharing this beautiful tribute with us. Even just watching, having never met Ellie her beauty and character shines through, as it it did in her blog. My thoughts are with you and your families, rest in peace Ellie.xxxxx

    Reply

  109. Melanie Richardson
    Jun 13, 2012 @ 09:44:48

    Brilliant. Loved it. Thank you for sharing Ellie with us.
    M xx

    Reply

  110. sooki
    Jun 13, 2012 @ 10:03:02

    such a moving tribute
    thanks yes for sharing with us sx

    Reply

  111. francespringle
    Jun 13, 2012 @ 11:22:38

    Ellie taught me about life and how to live. Even before cancer she was catching dreams and making them come true. After cancer her radiance continued to set the world alight. Some people are just golden! Sending love to Tom and her family and friends. The movie was really beautiful. She would have been proud. x x

    Reply

  112. Ann Newman
    Jun 13, 2012 @ 12:51:53

    Dear Tom, Thank you so much for giving us the privilege to view your lovely tribute to Ellie. Like all those before me, I have read her blog and been strengthened by her resolve and determination against such awful odds. I have said before, that she put us all to shame by her wonderful attitude that has spread out to so many people worldwide. The fact that you are preparing and hoping to carry on her memory in order to help others shows that you were both of the same mind. Your loving memories of her will help you get through the dark times and the happier times when you shared laughter together will always sustain you and both your families. I add my thoughts and strengths to you all for your memories of a very special person. Ann x

    Reply

  113. lottiefox
    Jun 13, 2012 @ 14:17:55

    Dear Tom, Thank you for sharing this beautiful tribute to your amazing Ellie. I Have been a late comer to her blog but have read every word and her spirit, humour and warmth shine through every word. Both of you are lucky to have loved each other so much and so honestly. Sending all of my thoughts to you and Ellie’s family and friends. Emma xxx

    Reply

  114. Deb
    Jun 13, 2012 @ 20:56:53

    Dear Tom, I can’t thank you enough for sharing the video tribute for Ellie with us. It is so wonderful to see her throughout all of the stages of her amazing life and to be able to see her laughing and to hear her voice. I pray that you and Ellie’s family find strength and peace in the days and months ahead. You were a great gift in her life and we should all be so lucky to have be surrounded by the love and support you gave to Ellie. Deb xxx

    Reply

  115. Rachel A
    Jun 13, 2012 @ 22:11:35

    This video is an amazing tribute to Ellie. I knew her through a close friend and she was so lovely. Just beautiful.

    Reply

  116. Joan Zia
    Jun 13, 2012 @ 22:59:15

    Dear friend, You are a brave and lovely person – just as Ellie was. Your great love and devotion for her shows as high as the sky.
    Thank God she had YOU to care and love her!
    Life just is not fair. I do ask God why?
    Take care of yourself dear Tom, and know that your beloved must be in Heaven – looking down as an Angel would.
    Love is forever. She will always love you Tom.
    You are a wonderful man, remember that.
    We are proud to have known you, and your dearest wife,
    Please take care and God bless you always.
    Love from Joan

    Reply

  117. Millie
    Jun 14, 2012 @ 20:07:12

    What a beautiful woman, in every way. If when I die people say half of the amazing things they did about your girl, I would consider it a life well lived. I have no idea what to say but I cannot imagine your pain, and I am so sorry that this happened. Thinking of you so very much xxxxx

    Reply

  118. Sue cassidy
    Jun 14, 2012 @ 22:27:10

    I too feel like I knew Ellie . I have followed her blog … Laughed and cried reading it . She was an exceptional woman who never gave up fighting even at the end . Yours was a true love story.

    Reply

  119. Mimi
    Jun 15, 2012 @ 04:15:13

    She was so gorgeous, her voice, her smile, everything. Wonderful tribute video, she was exceptional, and very loved and surrounded, you can tell.
    Sending love , good vibes and wishes from Australia.
    There is s much love here, on this blog, it’s quite beautiful what Ellie managed to do.

    xxx

    Reply

  120. rachel
    Jun 15, 2012 @ 21:50:45

    dear tom, i have just watched your memorial video of ellie, like many of the written off followers i never met ellie but feel privaleged to have been able to see a snapshot of her life. thank you for sharing with us and letting us see how ellie was such an important part of so many peoples lives. she is an amazing person an inspiration. thinking of you and ellies family xx

    Reply

  121. Meera
    Jun 15, 2012 @ 21:56:57

    Truly beautiful. Amazing tribute to an amazing girl. The love you two shared was one of a kind and an absolute inspiration. xx

    Reply

  122. Julie
    Jun 16, 2012 @ 11:10:30

    Quite simply… just the most befitting tribute to a lady who so many of us never knew, but we will always hold a special place for her in our hearts. Tom, revel in the beautiful light that Ellie generated. That light and Ellie will always be part of you. Take care.

    Reply

  123. Leanne
    Jun 16, 2012 @ 12:58:19

    Tthank you so much for sharing this Tom – what a beautiful tribute – so touching and heart warming. The charity idea is excellent and also a lasting legacy for Ellie to have left. Take care.

    Reply

  124. Mags
    Jun 16, 2012 @ 20:32:32

    Thank you for sharing, amazing tribute to a lady with a beautiful soul.

    Reply

  125. Jane
    Jun 16, 2012 @ 20:37:55

    What a wonderful tribute. You must all feel so proud xxxxx

    Reply

  126. Dawn
    Jun 16, 2012 @ 21:14:42

    Tom, How sad I was to hear of ellie’s death. A few days after she died I literally thought i’d bob in and see how ellie was doing, wedding etc. as i’d been following her blog for a little while, my stomach flipped when i read your first line that it was you writing the post, not ellie. As i have written before i felt like i knew ellie, her writing left me hooked as she had such a remarkable story to tell us all, and tell us she did. I loved to hear the highs and of course the lows would be more difficult to read about, but she was never afraid to express any of her emotions through her journey.

    I often marvelled in her positivity given that she had such a bleak outlook from some of the health professionals.. but i got swept along with the love story that was enfolding and to me that was much more amazing than any cancer could begin to interfere with. It was the one thing that beamed through most of ellie’s blogs. How wonderful that is.

    I don’t feel i have a place in writing to you at this time.I almost feel like i am intruding in your grief but wanted to let you know that i’m hoping you are surviving this harrowing time. Ellie shared her beautiful life with us, it feels very rude not to say ‘thank you ellie’ and’ i’ll miss you’. That sounds very final, like it’s the end and i don’t feel it ever will be for beautiful spirits like Ellie. i will support anything you wish to do for ellie, she’s a lady i certainly won’t ever forget about. I wish you strength and i am certain Ellie will be walking beside you, x

    Reply

  127. Katy
    Jun 16, 2012 @ 21:58:55

    Just a short message of support. I am thinking of you all at this sad time. I can’t even imagine how you must be feeling. Thank you for posting the memorial video, it was so lovely to see how fabulous and happy Ellie was. I will happily support such a wonderful charity and hope it brings you a little bit of comfort. You were so lucky to have met each other. Take care

    Reply

  128. Joanne
    Jun 17, 2012 @ 03:32:55

    A lovely tribute for such a talented, gorgeous girl. xxxxxxxxxxxx

    Reply

  129. Paula
    Jun 17, 2012 @ 22:23:40

    A beautiful tribute for a beautiful lady. She lived each day to the full – an inspiration to us all. Thank you for sharing it with us Tom, she will always be with you, and I’m sure she’ll be leading some wild parties (and teaching the squirrel dance?) in Heaven. X

    Reply

  130. Rosie Butler
    Jun 17, 2012 @ 23:47:12

    thank you Tom

    Ellie was such a gift to this world and what a legacy she has left behind for you and us all

    hugs

    Rosie Butler

    Reply

  131. MHK
    Jun 18, 2012 @ 13:56:17

    Such a wonderful tribute to Ellie, take care xx

    Reply

  132. Jessica Jones
    Jun 19, 2012 @ 13:49:44

    Dear Tom,

    I am the editor of a website called the Chemo Chic Project. I’m sorry to say that I only just found this blog. Too late to meet Ellie, but not too late to get a moving impression of what a wonderful writer, communicator and human being she was. Thank you also for posting your touching and joyous tribute video to Ellie.

    Briefly, the Chemo Chic Project is a place where anyone affected by cancer – whether they have been diagnosed themselves or have had a friend or loved one who has been diagnosed, now or in the past – to share their story. I am aware of the cathartic power of sharing and writing in the process of acceptance of what is, for everyone touched by it, an immense trauma.

    This may not be the right time for you, or maybe it is, who am I to say, but I would like to invite you to share your thoughts, either now or any time in the future. I extend the same invitation to all of Ellie’s family and friends. The address is chemochic.org. In the meantime, may I ask your permission to post a short piece about Ellie’s life, her blog and a link to your video? I am certain that her story will help many others who are not as confident nor able to express them selves as Ellie was.

    If you agree, then I will write something very brief and email it to you for your approval. You can contact me at jessy.jones @ clara.co.uk.

    I am so sorry for your immense loss and I send you my sincere condolences.

    With kind regards
    Jessica

    Reply

  133. Maria
    Jun 21, 2012 @ 09:58:00

    Thank you for sharing the video. It’s brilliant. I’d like to learn about the charity. I want to believe in early detection. I want to believe in new tests for screening genetic predisposition. I wish that this particular big C would be eliminated or could be fought on equal grounds! It’s scary. In my eyes, Ellie represents hope, courage, and determination. I don’t think Ellie has lost. We lost her, but with the charity her spirit keeps on fighting.
    As heartbreaking as it is, I think it’s wonderful that you two had the chance to meet and know one another.
    Best wishes.

    Reply

  134. Caroline (Ireland)
    Jun 23, 2012 @ 22:00:44

    Simply beautiful!
    Thank you Tom x

    Reply

  135. Emma
    Jun 23, 2012 @ 23:20:45

    I have read all of Ellie’s posts after coming across them as several people on Twitter had been making tributes to Ellie and I was so touched by her strength and courage. After going through the heartbreaking experience of nursing and loosing my Mum to breast cancer aged 47, it really touched my heart. Ellie was stunningly beautiful and such an inspiration. I am thinking of you Tom, and all Ellie’s family and friends at this sad time. I strongly believe she is waiting for you, just around the corner. I think the way you have coped and how Ellie coped through everything is remarkable and my thoughts are with you. Heaven has gained another amazing, beautiful angel. x

    Reply

  136. Anne Loes Uding
    Jun 26, 2012 @ 11:45:56

    This is such a beautiful video and heartwrenching at the same time.
    Even though I didn’t know Ellie, it brings tears to my eyes that the world has to miss a person that has brought happiness and support to so many people through her blog.

    Reply

  137. Natalie McDonald
    Jun 26, 2012 @ 20:45:35

    Thank you Tom &Ellies family for sharing this with us,Ellie will always be with us.

    Reply

  138. Julie
    Jun 27, 2012 @ 21:20:35

    Dear Tom and Ellie’s loved ones,

    thank you so much for sharing this with us. Ellie’s story is so sad and so beautiful at the same time. So sad, because it is so unfair that she had to suffer and die at such a young age, but so beautiful, because her life has been full of love, happiness, tenderness. She was radiant, indeed. What a fantastic woman! I did not have the chance to know her, but she is a true inspiration.
    Tom, the love you had together is so rare, so precious. This love is a treasure. I hope that this treasure you shared with Ellie will help you keep going.
    I cannot imagine the emptiness you all must feel now that Ellie’s gone. I very much hope that all the good memories you have, all this love you shared with Ellie will help you to tame the pain.
    Julie

    Reply

  139. Karen
    Jun 28, 2012 @ 20:13:28

    I’ve been following Ellie’s blog for some months now and have not wanted to comment on her untimely death till now. I lived in hope that she would see her wedding day, you both so deserved just that as the love you shared was palpable. Thank you for showing the video footage, such a wonderful tribute to Ellie, my thoughts go out to all of you. I will watch to see how her charity unfolds and even if only in a small way I would like to be involved.

    Reply

  140. Fintan
    Jun 29, 2012 @ 00:36:17

    I’ve just some of Ellie,s blog…….What a very courageous young woman, I did’nt know her…May she now Rest in PEACE……Tom, may I ask you if you would consider publishing the blog, what a fitting Tribute.

    Reply

  141. Catherine
    Jul 02, 2012 @ 12:26:58

    Ellie is AMAZING!

    Reply

  142. julie
    Jul 02, 2012 @ 12:44:47

    Ellie was radiant indeed!
    The love you shared is so precious.

    Reply

  143. shyla
    Jul 03, 2012 @ 11:11:09

    I’m sorry I only found out about this blog after reading your moving piece in the Guardian.Ellie sounds like she was an amazing person.
    As a doctor, I cringed reading about the trite phrases we use like ‘a short, sharp scratch’ when putting a cannula in an arm when we all know its nothing of the sort.All the unthinking but meant-to-be-kind phrases we trot out so easily.
    May you have the courage to cope with the pain and loss.

    Reply

    • Patricia Springbett
      Feb 16, 2013 @ 22:02:21

      What an honest and interesting comment you made. My beautiful daughter, with everything to live for, died at 28 and was very similar to Ellie. What these young women went through was far from easy and yet they were so brave throughout. You put in a nutshell what they ha ti endure, and so thank you.

      Reply

  144. Kim
    Jul 13, 2012 @ 14:59:26

    Hi Tom, how about giving us an update of how you are doing – as there are lots of us who are interested, and also the charity in Ellie’s name – putting up a donate possibility would be a good idea – I am sure that a lot of her readers will want to have a chance to donate.

    Reply

  145. Becki
    Jul 13, 2012 @ 17:02:57

    Hi Tom
    I was thinking of you and wondered how you are getting on and how you are managing with life.
    You are still in our thoughts, as is Ellie.

    Reply

  146. Nicky
    Jul 21, 2012 @ 21:07:44

    Thank you x

    Reply

  147. Joanna
    Jul 22, 2012 @ 23:06:28

    I found Ellie’s blog quite late along the way and hadn’t been following it for long. When I saw she had passed away I cried, and I never knew her personally and I don’t know you, Tom, but what I am sure about is that there are many more people like me who followed it, like I did, and who join you in your grief. I’m just sorry I never wrote to her directly so say just how much I admired her. She truly was an inspiration. God bless.

    Reply

  148. Nessy
    Jul 23, 2012 @ 12:33:20

    A Fantastic tribute!
    Thank you Tom &Ellies family for sharing this with us,Ellie will always in our thoughts.

    Reply

  149. Lisa Tugwell
    Jul 24, 2012 @ 15:54:28

    What a truly inspirational and wonderful young woman Ellie was, I read her article in Vita magazine and visited her blog, sadly to discover that she had lost her battle. Thoughts are with you Tom and all her family & friends at this very sad time. xx

    Reply

  150. Catrin
    Jul 25, 2012 @ 10:59:07

    I have been following Ellies Blog for a short while before her untimely passing. Words fail me, and I can only echo whats been said before. Unfortunatly I cannot watch the video due to country-restrictions (Germany)

    Reply

  151. Mrs Richards
    Jul 27, 2012 @ 10:09:18

    A lovely tribute, and so nice to glimpse Ellie in real life, for those who only knew her through the blog, and what a complete ray of sunshine she is :)

    A light like that doesn’t just extinguish it is scattered amongst us with each thought, memory and inspiration

    Thinking of you x

    Reply

  152. sheila
    Jul 29, 2012 @ 21:15:49

    Watching the video yet again so lovely to hear Ellie and see her as we remember her.Also to see our daughter and remember the
    good times they had when little.Thinking of you Tom and all Ellies family xx

    Reply

  153. Ness
    Aug 01, 2012 @ 09:13:07

    Incredibly moving Tom and a wonderful tribute.There is clearly so much love and support around you,remember to draw on it whenever you need to x

    Reply

  154. Stephen
    Sep 30, 2012 @ 17:49:16

    Hi Tom
    I posted a comment in may, my circumstance is very similar to yours, life was good, amazing girlfriend who loved life and knew how to enjoy it, then in a surreal turn of events cancer comes out of nowhere and fucks it all up and takes her away. Not quite what you expect life to do! Especially when she’s not even 30 anyway. I was wondering how you’re doing? I was going to keep this short with the hope you might contact me and it could be continued on a personal level but you might not want to which i understand so i figured if i at least say something and you don’t reply at least i’ve offered up something. Mostly in between trying be normal I do a lot of thinking/grieving about how, why and what for, i’ve learnt some things, not all for the better and also still want answers to questions that I know I’ll never get. Anyway my point is although I don’t know you, your life and your relationship with ellie, the pain of losing Ellie can’t be to dissimilar to me losing Kate. I’ve seen Ellie’s video that you compiled and it was amazing, I haven’t got as much footage of Kate and I’m quite envious, after all what have we got now but pictures, memories and feelings. At first my main memories compromised of the hardest things, as time’s past they’re starting to take a back seat to the good stuff and I do draw strength from what we had. I have stories, holidays, habits, good and bad, memories of events that I can’t always remember fully that would be filled in by Kate and only ever Kate, music, our music (music’s the hardest!), all the things that we did and no-one else will ever know and it stay’s in me, just like that’s the only place she exists to me now. I’m hoping just by sharing this it might help you, I always thought it happens to other people but looks like that isn’t always the way, however just by knowing someone is going through it, just like how Ellie’s blog helped Kate and many others, maybe what I’ve wrote can help you. Don’t ever hesitate to contact me if you want to and I hope you’re finding a path that works for you, not that there is a set one!
    Best regards
    Steve

    Reply

  155. Tanya
    Oct 12, 2012 @ 13:30:53

    When I first read the last past in June, I was devastated to hear your sad news. Ellie has been a inspiration to me since I heard that we were fighting a very similar battle, I have an incurable cancer with very low odds and reading Ellie’s blog on days when I needed to feel like I wasn’t alone, saved my life so many times. I can’t imagine how this has shaken your world but I would just like to say that she had such a positive influence on my life just through reading her words on the screen. She is an amazing woman, and her legacy will do amazing things in future.

    Reply

  156. Linda Ann McCrea
    Nov 18, 2012 @ 18:21:04

    Still thinking of you Tom .
    How are you anyway ??Time may not always be a healer but I hope you are not struggling emotionally . I really hope somehow you have new zeal and new directions without physical presence of precious Ellie; but really she is there all the time in your heart .Your lovely fiance`.
    Just wanted to let you know that I`m still thinking of you and Ellie`s family as it comes up to the poignant, festive season .God bless you so much.I hope you are sort of OK . Thoughts and prayers Linda McCrea

    Reply

  157. _helene
    Nov 28, 2012 @ 07:59:19

    Ellie, my friends and I read your blog religiously ( we are all in Kuwait) and when you passed away we felt as if we lost a friend we have known for ages. you are such a beautiful soul and an inspiration even to the people who did not know you..
    much love from Kuwait

    Reply

  158. Rhiannon
    Dec 19, 2012 @ 18:21:19

    Thinking of you around this festive time Tom.I really do think about Ellie & her blog every few weeks & appreciate life & time with others more than ever. Thank you to you both for sharing such an inspirational & courageous story.xx

    Reply

  159. Jennifer
    Dec 23, 2012 @ 16:05:50

    Dear Tom, I don’t know whether or not you still check the messages here, or read back over Ellie’s brave words but I wanted you to know that I have not forgotten her and am thinking of you and Ellie’s family this Christmas. I am just one of the many readers who didn’t know any of you in person but felt part of your story and shed many tears when you had to say goodbye to your beautiful girl. Wishing you peace and the strength to keep moving forwards, with lots of love, Jennifer xxx

    Reply

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out / Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out / Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out / Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out / Change )

Connecting to %s

Follow

Get every new post delivered to your Inbox.

Join 2,655 other followers

%d bloggers like this: